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Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 30/09/2021 19:01

Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

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shadypines · 28/12/2022 10:16

Can I offload my 23 DS , I brought him up well and it's not that he's ever been in any trouble but he's such hard work to live with. He does not function like an adult. I'm so fed up of it I can't even bring myself to give details. I just want a break from worrying about him.
Thank you for the thread and love to everyone.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 28/12/2022 17:31

@shadypines park that da worry right here. Yep, they do say we all turn into prepubescents around our parents, and some don't quite make the switch to adult relationships.

Park it right here. We will hold it tight and you can get a real rest. Just cosy in, and breathe. No big kid worries tonight!

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shadypines · 28/12/2022 22:00

@2018SoFarSoGreat bless you for that, it means a lot.

CleopatrasBeautifulNose · 29/12/2022 01:49

@potatoesalad when you use a cup and lie down the blood doesn't really ebb back as a liquid will always follow path of least resistance, and returning from whence it came is not that... It doesn't leak as the cup forms a good seal in the vagina. When you stand up it all collects where it should and when you take it out you do it over the loo just as you would a tampon so you allow the contents to tip out.
There are loads of threads on here about them if you think it could work for you. I love them, find them easy and LOVE the fact that my period costs me nothing in money! Not everyone gets on with them, but I think if you're trying to cope with flooding using tampons it'd definitely be with a try, it can't be worse.

Waitymatey · 29/12/2022 01:58

Just found this thread, thank you so much
I am really struggling with insomnia right now, which is having a knock on effect on other areas of my life. Anxiety and paranoia mounting- though as my fears are realised as my ability to cope decreases it seems that my thoughts are far from paranoid.
@2018SoFarSoGreat can you please hold these for me? Thank you
And thank you for your strength and willingness to hold, really your work has nearly moved me to tears in its magnitude and magnanimous-tude

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 29/12/2022 02:04

One week in to the two week wait. Can't sleep

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 29/12/2022 02:14

Hello I'm glad I found this. Currently can't sleep. Mainly because I've had that horrid virus but I'm also thinking about my so called best friend and how she has singled me out as the source of all her problems yet posts normally for others on social media.

Angliski · 29/12/2022 02:56

HelloNight Watch

i was involved in a road traffic accident three weeks ago. I was on the road and got dragged under a car in the snow. I expected to die. I didn’t, but I broke my back and have many fractures. Thankfully I am not paralysed or brain damaged but it’s going to be a long road home. I have a3 year old ds, it took us years to conceive and he is our miracle. I am in hospital and I. See him so much. Physio started today. They want to get me on my feet, which I want to but the effort of trying to stand was so painful it took my breath away. I’m terrified how long I will be away from home. I’m scared I will never move freely again and I am scared about the impact on my son of my absence. I’m frightened of the pain I will face in rehab and I’m worried I will never fully get better. Can you hold my worries so I can sleep?

Daisychainsandglitter · 29/12/2022 03:03

@Angliski that sounds horrific I can't imagine what you are going through Flowers wishing you all the best.

Daisychainsandglitter · 29/12/2022 03:08

I am worried about my DD who has been ill since Christmas Eve.
She seems to be getting worse and Im now fairly certain she has strep A/Scarlet fever. I thought she had flu but yesterday she came out in an all body rash.
She is autistic and has a great deal of isensory issues and will not take any medicine. I am going to call the dr tomorrow to see if they can help. I hate seeing her so poorly.

CleopatrasBeautifulNose · 29/12/2022 07:29

Oh @Daisychainsandglitter that must be awful for you to have those things on your mind in the wee small hours. I hope that your daughter receives the care she needs and is on the mend soon with you by her side. I hope you managed a little sleep in the end to get you through, we'll be thinking of you both. 💐

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 29/12/2022 09:21

I saw your original post @Angliski. I don't know how you made it but you can do it

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 29/12/2022 10:01

@Waitymatey so sorry that you are stuck in the cycle of the dreaded insomnia. It is horrid and exhausting, and does feed all of the other worries si that they rise in competition!

Glad that you came over here. Dump it all - go on, roll it up into a big ball and just fling it! - that's it. Now we've got it for you, for as long as you need it held. Just know you don't need to even think about getting to sleep tonight. It will be luxurious and comfy and so nourishing.

It's OK now. We're all holding it tight.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 29/12/2022 10:09

@ThrowThoseCurtainsWide the worst wait, I'm so sorry. There aren't really words that make it easier, in my experience.

What we can do is carry the load for you. If you can just round it all up into whatever size bundle it requires, and throw it. We will hold it tightly and watch it faithfully for you. This one will require a cat or two, I fear.

Now you go about your business. Sleep when it's time. Dream of better days. We've got you and will be here until you no longer need us. It's OK.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 29/12/2022 10:14

@teaandtoastwithmarmite that friend business sounds horrible and must really hurt your feelings, we are so vulnerable with those we love most ❤️

Leave the worry here with us for now. We will hold it tenderly for you while you get better and rest. We will hold you in our care, so that you don't have to. We've got you now. It's OK.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 29/12/2022 10:19

You poor dear @Angliski! Horrific and terrifying. Thank goodness you are alive,

The road may be a long one. But you're on that road. Wherever you need rest along it, you can count on us to be there with you. Just pop in and out and one or more of us will sit with you a while. Or lift the whole load and carrt it off until you can bear it again. We are here with you.

Sending healing thoughts and wishes, and strength.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 29/12/2022 10:22

@Daisychainsandglitter oh that's so scary! So many of us on the lookout for the rash and so many sick little ones.

Let us support you through this. We can carry as much of the worry as you can pass along. We are here. When you're ready to get some rest. Pass out along. We will hold it so that you don't have to. We are here with you 💐.

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boxingdayisbest · 29/12/2022 10:24

@Angliski you can do this. Your son was your miracle, you are also his. In a way, he will be part of your reason for doing this. You are his strong, determined mummy.

Maybe once you feel able, make him some recorded stories he can be played at bedtimes? Draw him some pictures (when you can) for his wall at home. These things will be nice for him but also hopefully help you feel you are there. He really will be fine, three year olds are very resilient. And FaceTime, get people to FaceTime you and show you what he's doing whether it's painting at home or soft play. You can also say hello then too. Don't expect he'll engage with the screen much but it does mean you've popped up in his day. (I used to FaceTime from abroad and my husband would leave the iPad propped up on the side whilst he and the kids went about their day for 20 mins! They'd pop over and say whilst hurling themselves around the kitchen.)

Sending you hugs.

Daisychainsandglitter · 29/12/2022 11:51

Thank you all for your kind words. Just been to the drs and have been given a 10 day course of antibiotics. I just need to persuade her to take them now!

Angliski · 29/12/2022 12:54

@boxingdayisbest he does love a face time- I call at least am and pm and he does come in to visit briefly.

stories are a good idea- he has a new yoto for Christmas so maybe I can add a mummy story to it.

2018thank you. I will come and drop by xx

Waitymatey · 31/12/2022 19:37

@2018SoFarSoGreat Oh, than you, thank you, thank you. Not just for the sentiment and for being so STRONG but for sharing that strength for the good of us all.
Last night, I actually SLEPT.For about 9 hours!!!!
I didn’t even feel I’ll when I woke up- no headaches, no nausea, no brain fog- nada!
In fact, I actually woke feeling incredibly well and cheerful- THANK YOU

Waitymatey · 31/12/2022 19:38

And a. Very Happy 2023 to @2018SoFarSoGreat and all you amazing, brilliant and inspirational ladies on this thread xx

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 31/12/2022 19:49

Happy new year when it comes, to one and all. May all of the pesky worries be left behind with the old year. However, should they be foolish enough to sneak past the midnight bells, we will be here to corral them, never fear.

I'm spending Hogmanay with loved ones in my new home from home in my home town. That's the happiest feeling in the world.

Let's all raise a glass at midnight. To all of us, strong and incredible humans, and to all of those gone before us BrewGinWine

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FinallyHere · 31/12/2022 22:40

Raising my glass (ginger tea, as you ask) to you @2018SoFarSoGreat and everyone on this inspirational and heartwarming thread.

MN vipers at their finest xx

CleopatrasBeautifulNose · 01/01/2023 00:40

@2018SoFarSoGreat thanks my lovely, for your care... glad you're seeing in the new year in a happy way.
Happy new year to one and all. Xx