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Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 30/09/2021 19:01

Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

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AlloftheTime · 30/09/2021 20:23

@2018SoFarSoGreat thank you!
I’m available for anyone looking to park up some worries. Going to make some herbal tea soon and cosy up in pj’s
😊

SorrynotWorry · 30/09/2021 20:38

Hi Night shifters, I'd like to offload some worries. My siblings are struggling so much. Id love it if things could be easier for them very soon.

So glad you are here as well.

Tiaandchewy79 · 30/09/2021 20:44

So glad you are here; you are such a help.
Is it ok if I offload as well?
Feeling down about my son ; really want him to be happy, but out of my control.
Lots of other niggles that I need to pass on
Thankyou

romdowa · 30/09/2021 20:45

I'm booked in for a section in 5 weeks and I'm a bit freaked out about the procedure and about being a mother 😨😅🤣

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 30/09/2021 20:51

@SorrynotWorry all sibling worries are welcome. As 1 of 5, I sympathize!

Leave that with us and get some rest. We have got this! It's OK for now.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 30/09/2021 20:54

Ah @Tiaandchewy79 our children are constant worries, and sources of joy. Hopefully the joy will replace the worries soon.

Leave it all here, niggles and all. We've got you. You let it go and just rest.

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AlloftheTime · 30/09/2021 20:59

@romdowa that’s a concern for you obviously- for this evening and tonight leave your worry about here. I will keep it close by and you get the rest you must surely need.

Sleep for as long as you are able to.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 30/09/2021 21:05

@romdowa how exciting and utterly terrifying it is. We will hold that for you now and over the coming weeks. The reward shall be so worth it in the end 🐣

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SinkingSwim · 01/10/2021 00:09

Struggling really badly at the moment. I had a beautiful baby girl two weeks ago, and I've been crippled with anxiety ever since 😢 I have an extreme fear of SIDS, I'm terrified of something happening to her. The only way I will sleep is if my partner is with her and he's currently taken over night shifts with her so I can sleep, but he's back to work in just over a week and I'm wondering how I will cope, he works nights so won't be here to help and I don't think I'll sleep a wink for worrying about something happening to her 😢 I've been in touch with my GP and been referred to the post natal mental health team but haven't heard anything back yet, but i seriously think I need medication because it seems to be getting worse. How do I get the doctor to listen to me? I can't go on like this, I need to get it under control for my sake, my partners sake and for me to be the best mummy possible for my daughter. I love her so much and feel like I'm letting her down 😢
Sorry for the long post, really needed to get that out,

MistySkiesAfterRain · 01/10/2021 00:12

@SinkingSwim The Lullaby Trust have a helpline with trained advisers/counsellors, they get lots of calls from concerned mums. Maybe you can speak to them while you are waiting.

Happy to mind worries tonight.

SinkingSwim · 01/10/2021 00:27

[quote MistySkiesAfterRain]@SinkingSwim The Lullaby Trust have a helpline with trained advisers/counsellors, they get lots of calls from concerned mums. Maybe you can speak to them while you are waiting.

Happy to mind worries tonight.[/quote]
I'll look into that, thank you so much. I definitely think I need to talk to somebody about it too.

Becca19962014 · 01/10/2021 10:38

I'm heading back to bed. Hoping for rest at least. My early night, wasn't. I tried. But was up and down with night terrors. Had someone hammering on my door already this morning and ignored it as feeling so unwell. I've overdone it this week for sure. I hoped to get some shopping this morning but I'm just too unwell.

Becca19962014 · 01/10/2021 10:39

@SinkingSwim they helped my family member a lot with her severe anxiety around it, so do give them a call! They'll be understanding for sure.

SmellyOldOwls · 01/10/2021 11:53

@Becca19962014

I'm heading back to bed. Hoping for rest at least. My early night, wasn't. I tried. But was up and down with night terrors. Had someone hammering on my door already this morning and ignored it as feeling so unwell. I've overdone it this week for sure. I hoped to get some shopping this morning but I'm just too unwell.

I'll mind your worries while you have a little rest Brew

Becca19962014 · 01/10/2021 13:57

Thankyou. I'm having lunch then going back again to try again.

Becca19962014 · 01/10/2021 16:29

That didn't work Sad

Becca19962014 · 02/10/2021 00:56

Will undoubtedly be up a long time (another email re housing situation from another blaming me Sad ) so will be around to take any worries for people, I won't necessarily post, as my battery is dying (actually they all are Confused - my tech is out to get me as well!! Wink ) but rest assured someone is taking worries on board and, I wouldn't say keeping them "safe" exactly. But I've some they can play with and be distracted by for the night!

Take care everyone.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 02/10/2021 01:13

take care, dear Becca.

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Knitwit101 · 02/10/2021 01:19

Dh has just been called to the hospital for the 3rd night this week to be with his mum. I'm not sure she'll make it this time. I half hope she won't make it, she's had enough. Either way I won't sleep much tonight till I hear. So please can I share my worry, but equally happy to be distracted by someone else's x

DidSomebodySaySiamese · 02/10/2021 01:29

@Knitwit101 I’m awake and will hold on to your worry. Take mine if you need a distraction.

I’m full of options but with no choice. Still transitioning to a life I thought I would never live. It’s all tricky and tonight I’m worrying.

Knitwit101 · 02/10/2021 01:35

Let's do a swap then @DidSomebodySaySiamese
I've broken the rules and let the cats onto the bed. They are very calming and good for soaking up worry

DidSomebodySaySiamese · 02/10/2021 01:55

I’m reading the chat in the ‘Litter Tray’ always cheers me up. Cats are great at soaking up worry. Mine has been a beard all evening. I’ve got naff all done. Best wishes for the journey ahead @Knitwit101 try to rest tonight if you can let me and the cats take the anticipation and worry.

Toastytoads · 02/10/2021 01:58

@SinkingSwim I was the same with my ds. The thing that helped me was a nanny mat in his crib, sids is so very rare. The reassurance ds was breathing whilst he was tiny really helped me calm down x

SinkingSwim · 02/10/2021 12:12

@Toastytoads thank you, i'll look into one of those! i think it will definitely help keep me calm especially when my partner is working nights.

Becca19962014 · 03/10/2021 00:37

Here to watch anything that needs watching.

I'm finding websites are gradually stopping working, so if I suddenly disappear that'll be why.

Managed bit of rest today, hoping for a couple of hours tonight.

Take care everyone.