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Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 30/09/2021 19:01

Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

OP posts:
RosieLeaLovesTea · 01/01/2023 01:02

We moved house 3 months ago to a new area and new schools. My DD 8 broke down crying 2 nights ago saying she really misses her old school friends and old house. She misses grandparents and being collected from school by them once a fortnight and having tea with them. We moved 60 miles away. She is also struggling with missing her great grandmother my Nan who died at beginning of April. So she is really emotional and it’s all hitting her at once. Obviously I’m beating myself and worried that she feels I’ve ruined her life!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 01/01/2023 01:32

6h29m countdown here.
I'm happy to help the nightshift.
I'm here to listen or handhold.
NYE has a way to make us a bit weepy.
It's ok.

Doyathinkhesaurus · 01/01/2023 01:56

RosieLeaLovesTea · 01/01/2023 01:02

We moved house 3 months ago to a new area and new schools. My DD 8 broke down crying 2 nights ago saying she really misses her old school friends and old house. She misses grandparents and being collected from school by them once a fortnight and having tea with them. We moved 60 miles away. She is also struggling with missing her great grandmother my Nan who died at beginning of April. So she is really emotional and it’s all hitting her at once. Obviously I’m beating myself and worried that she feels I’ve ruined her life!

Change is hard but your little one is learning so much. Stuff like how to be resilient and strong. She's learning how to make new friends and fit into a new environment. She's making new mental maps and navigating how to feel sad and grieve. It's a lot but she isn't being damaged. She's growing as a person. It's hard for mums to see children struggle with big feelings. Allow yourself space to feel sad for her.
We've got your worry. Sleep tight tonight.

MaitreKarlsson · 02/01/2023 23:55

Is anyone on the Night Shift tonight?

nyemisery · 03/01/2023 01:43

Is anybody there please?

GoldCherub · 03/01/2023 01:46

I’m here what’s up?

nyemisery · 03/01/2023 01:49

I just need company

GoldCherub · 03/01/2023 01:50

Do you want to leave your worries with me or chat about it?

nyemisery · 03/01/2023 01:58

I just want to forget them but I can't

Mumtobabyhavoc · 03/01/2023 02:02

I'm here. 🌹

GoldCherub · 03/01/2023 02:03

That sounds hard. If you want me to hold on to them so you can get some rest I can do that for you?

nyemisery · 03/01/2023 02:06

I don't know
I can't carry on but I can't give up either
I'm safe but I don't know how to go on just that I will go on

nyemisery · 03/01/2023 02:08

I'm going back to bed I suppose
Nothing is right and nothing makes me feel better

GoldCherub · 03/01/2023 02:09

Good to read that you are safe. If you need to carry on give your burden over tonight and I will hold on to it and give you a break from the worry.

Buzb · 03/01/2023 02:10

My dd (17) is convinced she is abnormal and has no social skills. She does and is lovely but spends all her time on her phone do I take it away as it stops her getting up and out I'm quite convinced she is addicted and it's causing rows!

GoldCherub · 03/01/2023 02:12

Goodnight. Get tucked in. Try to rest. I’ve got your burden you don’t need to think about it just for tonight. It’s sitting with me so you can concentrate on resting.

GoldCherub · 03/01/2023 02:14

@Buzb i don’t have the answer but I do have a teen and it is so difficult to know what to do.

Buzb · 03/01/2023 02:24

Thank you. I cannot manage or understand what to do for the best as tried gentle approach and patience and had so many discussions with her but she is constantly blaming her mental health and hormones. I'm so frustrated I can't sleep. I've just shouted at her as she is still up on her phone. I've got work in 6 hours and so want to take her phone with me to just let her know how I've had enough of her doing nothing.

GoldCherub · 03/01/2023 02:30

Can you tackle it tomorrow after work? It sounds like you need to get your head down or you will be exhausted for work.

Buzb · 03/01/2023 02:36

A good idea I will sleep on it and go to work this will distract me from being so frustrated and reacting with frustration and anger. I know she is 17 but when do they start learning I've had so many chats with her about it

Hall84 · 03/01/2023 02:41

We've got back from a&e with DD2 about an hour ago. She's got scarlet fever and tonsilitis. Finally settled and tucked up but I'm wide awake. Doesn't help that I'm now clock watching for work in the morning.

GoldCherub · 03/01/2023 02:42

Yes look after your own well being tonight. I’ve got your frustration and worry and will hold on to them for you so that you can get some peace and sleep before work. Relax now snuggle down and know that you don’t have to find answers tonight. Go on pull the covers around you. Me and my cat have got your back tonight.

I’m drifting myself.

goodnight.

GenuineKlatchianPottery · 03/01/2023 03:19

I’m here to take care of any problems that are stealing your sleep. Just pop them here with me and the cat and we’ll watch over them for you while you sleep.

GinghamWorld · 08/01/2023 03:43

I'm going crazy over here. DS was awake unsettled for 3 hours. I've had 20 minutes sleep in total so far and now can't sleep at all. I've been having trouble sleeping as it is as work is really stressful so the DC waking me frequently is not helping at all. So overwhelmed with it all now, I am worried I'll never be able to fall asleep easily like a normal person again.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/01/2023 05:35

@GinghamWorld I hear you. 💖 When my DC was a NB I was so fragile due to lack of sleep. I understand how overwhelming it all is. Are you able to make a chamomile tea for yourself or pop into the shower or bath to try and relax a bit?