Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

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Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

@Oh2beatsea we have a wonderful watchful crew, and I love seeing our numbers swell, all the better to corner those pesky fears and worries!

Hope your procedure was successful and that the cramps are gone soon.

What a lovely and wonderful thread.
I'd love to leave a lot of worries here to be held by someone else if that's okay?

I have two hospital appointments this week for myself. My ds10 has one too, so 3 in a week. His little mind is ravaged by PTSD of everything he's been through these last 12 months and it's broke me to witness his suffering, he's such an innocent little being with ASD. I'm tired of my horrific sleep (or lack thereof) patterns at the moment which I don't seem to be able to break.

Constant appointments for his physical and mental health which I've fought tooth and nail to get support for him over the last 6 months have really taken it's toll on me and my husband.

I’ll be up in the night anyway feeding my little one, so let me take anything you need tonight.

What a warrior you are battling for him. Just rest, clear your mind , relax your jaw and drop your shoulders.

I cant sleep.. anxiety Is bad .
Trying to find a thread with others on to chat to

The bird cheeping are giving me anxiety, because it means it's nearly Morning and I'm going to have to get up ,and I just want to hide in bed forever and never get out ..

Hi @Bulldogdreams Anxiety here too. Can’t sleep. I have turned nocturnal I think. Anything in particular bothering you? Mine is just overwhelm of my to do list.

I wish I knew . every y day feels like I'm going to the dentist..( worse thing in the world for me )..yet no dentist appointment thankfully.
Literally want to stay hidden in bed , sleep brings to morning closer.
Can you delegate some of your To do list trombolese

I've taken a propanol,..I'm remembering to save one for nighttime ,but that only leaves 2 for in the day ,which can be hard to manage on just two on a bad day.
Usually I fall asleep between 5 and 6 am ,and my alarm goes of at 7 ,and I'm usually really tired then

I should delegate, it will help.

I know that feeling well. No real reason, just anxiety and hypervigilence. I’m the same, awake until the birds sing, then asleep at 5am to be back up again. You’re not alone.

Does writing lists help you ,a list of jobs down one side and names to delegate them to down the other ..
Sometimes I find writing things down helps .
You could keep a note book by your bed to write down your worries and a plan to work through them ..
I could take my own advice as well ,I might find out out what I'm worried about by writing it down

That’s a good idea. I’m going to try that tomorrow.

Is it something you used to do that you don’t do anymore? Like the feeling you get when you think you e left the oven on? Your brain is thinking you have forgotten something when you haven’t because you don’t need to do it?

Yeah ..like actually having a life ..but anxiety is stopping me .I used to think it was my weight,the cause of all my problems,so I lost a lot of it .and I'm still hiding in bed at 5 in the afternoon..I tell my husband I'm tired and I need a nap ..he must think I need so much sleep.but actually I'm just hiding in bed ..I just don't know what I'm hiding from ..maybe I'm hiding from myself..I have no idea

It could be depression, or hormone related. Worth getting your iron levels checked perhaps.

Some fresh air each day helps.

I'm on a huge amount of vitamins and minerals and have been for a while because I'm vegan and on a diet so not eating a huge amount.
I've just started on aswhanda and 5 htp and something else I can't remember the name of .
I'm also on monjroro,which I'm wondering could be making a bad situation worse

I'm going to try and sleep now ,but thankyou for chatting xx

Can't sleep again..bad anxiety, constantly worried..seems to be worse at night

@Bulldogdreams I’m sorry you are struggling to sleep again. But now you are here, you can just roll that entire load of worries over here and let us wrangle them. You leave it all right here. That’s it. Now, lie back, shut your eyes, nice deep breaths and sleep. Go on. Shhhhh. Just rest. We’ve got you now. It’s ok.

I've been reading through this thread, how lovely people are!

I remember feeling so devastated when I wrote this but I was offered a great new role about 6 weeks later and actually left before my contract was formally up. It was hugely satisfying to tell my manager, particularly as she'd suggested a new potential role in her charity which would have meant a £10k pay cut...

I'm in a lovely charity now, much better team environment, fabulous manager and a permanent role. Two and a half years later I'm rocking this job and in a brilliant place. Actually it was the best thing that could have happened, though I obviously couldn't see it then.

So hang on in there, I know many people are in situations that can't be resolved so easily but sometimes there's light when you don't expect it.

And thanks for all the love that night ❤

@Reallycomplicatedpants what a fabulous update and and such wonderful advice. Thank you.

You should be so proud of yourself.

My daughter died. I am bereft. Heartbroken. And cannot always sleep. I found this thread. Not sure if it is still active.

I’m so sorry, @LadyMacbethWasFierce. I know there are no words we can say that will give you comfort - I have been in this place and it is hell.

what we can do is hold your grief and Your pain gently for a minute, or an hour, for as long as you need us. We will hold it - and you, and her - gently and lovingly and with all the love we can. You are not alone in this hellish place 💔

@LadyMacbethWasFierce the night shift will hold your grief so that you can rest. You need to rest because you looked for a place to find some rest and you have found it. It’s ok to not think for a while. Lay down your heart. ❤️

Im rejoining this thread too as it was so helpful to me previously.
So sorry @LadyMacbethWasFierce for your grief and pain. We will be here in the early hours for you.

Rejoining this threat as it has helped me in the past, albeit under this old alias rather than my actual user name.

My mental health is in bits and it’s really affecting my ability to sleep (along with other things). I think I’ve had about 4 hours in the last 2 days and I’m almost at breaking point.

Very much affected by my job as a GP receptionist. Being sworn at and shouted at on a daily basis is very very draining, especially when you have strain outside of work too.

I can’t leave my job unless I had another one that paid the same and had the same time off due to kids and school runs / child care as my husband hasn’t been in his job for long after being made redundant from his old well paying job. He cannot adjust his days so I can’t either really and can’t have less money coming in as we would be up shits creek as he’s now on minimum wage which he wasn’t before.

I would just love to be able to sleep tonight, and to be able to get an emergency mental health appointment tomorrow with my GP on my day off!

I want to be happy again and not stressed from the minute I open my eyes until I close them

Oh you poor thing, that sounds horrendous. I’m so sorry.

For tonight, you just bundle up all of that anxiety and stress and push it over here. We will hold it quietly so that you can just rest.

You just close your eyes, cuddle in, that’s it. Get comfy. We’ve got this. Night night.