Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

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Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

I am worrying ( and need to let go ) about a very special relationship but one I’m not sure will work . In it , I always initiate physical contact and whilst he appears to enjoy the intimacy and closeness he’ll never initiate it and seems to be happy to go without as long as I don’t start it ( he says he equally loves our walks , meals etc ). Leaves me feeling like a sex starved maniac half the time .
Need to leave this worry somewhere safe as I just don’t know what to do long term

I am worried about my boiker that only seems to work for 10 min a day. And when the landlord sends his handyman to fix it it works fine whilst he is there then stops again, all day.

The landlord needs to send an engineer not someone to keep draining the heater.

My partner said I was a horrible person in front of our children today. I was angry because he said he knew the way but then couldnt give me directions. We've been like friends who dont like each other much for a while but oh the hassle of the unknown and what to do about the children.

I'm pretty happy being single but I do worry I'll never meet someone special...

@lisalisa leave it here with me and, rest. Know it's taken care of and there's no need to think of it more tonight. Get some rest.

@Jobseeker19 I've had similar landlord issues - they prefer to empty mates regardless of if they're qualified or not. Hopefully they will eventually listen and help you out. For tonight. Leave your worry here with me and I'll watch it. Go to bed and rest for now.

@Bortles that sounds tough and something that would continue to bother me into the night. For tonight, let it go and come to me and, you go off and get some rest.

@PearLime leave this with me for now and go get some rest.

I need to try and rest now myself, but I'll take care of your worries for you (or just set my own worries on them for now, take care of yourselves and get some rest.

I’m running the London marathon tomorrow and need
to get up at 6.
I can’t sleep and am worried how I can possibly run 26 miles with no sleep

@Savoretti leave this worry with me. There are still several hours in which you can curl up and get some sleep, knowing Im a clock watcher addict and will watch your clock for you as you rest.

Ok thanks
I will try and park the worry with you

Remember you don’t have to ‘run’ the whole thing. Just finishing at all would be a massive achievement That most of us can only dream of..

@Savoretti

I’m running the London marathon tomorrow and need to get up at 6. I can’t sleep and am worried how I can possibly run 26 miles with no sleep

Don’t worry about sleep, just rest. It’s worked for me on all of my marathons. Enjoy the experience tomorrow

I’ve had a rubbish shift - I’m a community nurse. Could someone please hold onto my feelings of frustration, sadness and disappointment until the morning when I can process it all properly please.

I've got that for you @BabbleBee. Sorry your shift was awful, try and get some sleep now and clear your mind.

@SinkingSwim

Struggling really badly at the moment. I had a beautiful baby girl two weeks ago, and I've been crippled with anxiety ever since 😢 I have an extreme fear of SIDS, I'm terrified of something happening to her. The only way I will sleep is if my partner is with her and he's currently taken over night shifts with her so I can sleep, but he's back to work in just over a week and I'm wondering how I will cope, he works nights so won't be here to help and I don't think I'll sleep a wink for worrying about something happening to her 😢 I've been in touch with my GP and been referred to the post natal mental health team but haven't heard anything back yet, but i seriously think I need medication because it seems to be getting worse. How do I get the doctor to listen to me? I can't go on like this, I need to get it under control for my sake, my partners sake and for me to be the best mummy possible for my daughter. I love her so much and feel like I'm letting her down 😢 Sorry for the long post, really needed to get that out,

If your GP isn't being particularly helpful you can refer yourself to your local mental health team - you can do it online and you don't need to go to the GP. Someone will call you and go through an assessment with you.

Here is the website you need to fill in:

www.nhs.uk/service-search/find-a-psychological-therapies-service/

I hope you've managed to get some rest. Post natal anxiety is very real and very horrible. I sympathise entirely.

My heart is breaking. I am so tired and feel so alone. Been awake for an hour and a half (perimenopause and just had Covid-19). I am getting divorced, my grown up daughters won't talk to me. They've ganged up on me with my sister who has always belittled me. I tried to talk to them but they sneered, blamed me and it was just like talking to my sister. DH is a bastard, he went out last night despite me being ill. No doubt today will be another day of pain and being ignored. Then I need to hold it together for my special needs son later. I am so tired and alone. I just want to sleep and not wake up. I have other children so I wouldn't harm myself but I can't get back to sleep and I am dreading another day.

Tomorrow I start to properly job hunt. I'm dreading the whole thing. I'm the main breadwinner and we just got a massive mortgage

@Phoenixrising2020
@Terribleluck
I’m here, park your worries and see if you can get a wee bit more rest

Ive the most horrendous period. They're always not good but this is especially bad. Desperate for some rest.

Hope everyone's ok. I won't stay but will be looking out for any worries heading my way!!

Currently sat waiting for a call back from 111. Baby DS has been sick a couple of times, would just think it was a bug but he banged his head at nursery so just making sure.

I’m shattered. It’s my second full week back at work in a full on job. One of us will have to take the next couple of days off to look after him.

Joys of parenthood.

@MaverickDanger hopefully they'll call you back soon and then you can both get some rest. I'll be thinking about you.

@Becca19962014 I've got you tonight. Hope you feel better soon 🌺

I haven't slept well since we discovered DH's tumour has grown and there are hot spots in his liver again. I am scared of what happens. Scared of 'the end'. Scared for our fosterling, scared they will remove him. I am just scared. I have no-one in real life to share my fears with. People pay lip service but there is no-one I can rely on. I am scared. Scared and tired, oh so very tired.

@bloodywhitecat that's so hard to read. I can see your fear and pain and sheer exhaustion. I'm so sorry. What a horrid time.

For now, pass it all over here. We shall hold your fears and pain and let you rest. Just do that. Lay your weary head down and just rest. We've got you. We're always here.

My wonderful little brother passed away a few hours ago. We've been expecting the news for some time so I've had chance to partially come to terms with things, but I'm feeling very strange and alone right now. DH is at work uncontactable and DC are asleep (I won't break it to them til after school anyway). Could do with a virtual hug if anyone wouldn't mind

@NotHereButPossiblyThere I'm so sorry! Here's a hug, a warm one with patting and shushing. Little brothers are precious, i know.

It doesn't seem to help when we think we are prepared, really. It's still so painful and sad. For now, I'll sit with this sadness and pain. You just cosy in until you have someone to be with you. For now, we're here.

Please can someone help me. Ive been awake most of the night. Work and health worries. Dh snoring away.
Can anyone take my worries for me, I'm done.