Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

Can I add my worries?
Currently I am worried about how we will make ends meet every time I do the food shop etc, I get a lump in my throat at just how high prices are getting. Its now keeping me up each night and I cant shut off. I also have a driving test soon which also keeps me up at night with worry, I'm terrified I'll get in the car and forget how to drive 😔

Ah @ReallyNeedingSleep that sounds like too much to have to worry about. Gather it all up and leave it here. We will hold it for you and you can just rest. Really truly. Just close your eyes. Breathe deeply. Rest. That's it. We've got you.

@2018SoFarSoGreat thank you for taking my worries in, I eventually managed to nod off and DP woke me at around 12pm...didnt realise I'd been alseep for so long and I think its the longest sleep I've had in a while

Hi. Is this thread still running?

Yes, @SomePerspectivePlease, there's always someone here.

Oh wow, I didn't think anyone would be, given the big gap since the last post.

I haven't posted here before, but I've seen the threads pop up sometimes.

I just wrote out a long reply and then deleted it. The short version is that I just don't know what to do. I think my marriage is over. I packed an hour ago and considered leaving while he slept, but changed my mind. Now I'm in the spare room trying to sleep and can't. I think my life's about to implode and I'm so worried about the effect it'll have on our DD. She's only a baby. I feel like I've failed her.

Ah. That sounds so very hard and sad. As long as you feel safe, take tonight to get some sleep, it will look clearer in the morning.

For now, try your hardest to just shut your eyes, let all of that worry just flow over here, and sleep. We'll hold that worry and sadness and pain so that you can rest. We've got you, for now. You just have to trust yourself to let it all go, just for tonight.

Thank you. I'll try.

Hi @SomePerspectivePlease , I can see that @2018SoFarSoGreat has already helped’ but just to let you know I’m also here to take some of the stress and anxiety you are feeling.
Hopefully you have managed to get some sleep.

My life is going to hell in a handcart with one 'Crisis' of my own making after another

@Riverpebble I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you can find some peace.

Leave it all here tonight and we can hold it for you. You just get some rest, it's OK to let it all go, even if just for a few hours. Just rest. That's it.

I’m @Prezperez after a name change.

I wanted to come back and thank you. My horrible few months aren’t quite over yet, but things are immeasurably better than they were, and the thing I was most worried about, I’m cautiously optimistic is resolved.

This thread really helped me, especially your quick reply.

@Syrax ah, I'm delighted to hear that things are starting to resolve! well done; I'm sure you've worked hard at this, so well done you. Thanks so much for the update.

Remember, someone is always here, so drop by any time.

Thank you.

Something tugged at my ptsd yesterday
I haven't slept

@Riverpebble that's horrible and must be sure frightening. I'm so sorry.

You've cover to the right place now. If you can, just gather up all the bad feelings, fear and angst and toss it over here. One off us, and at least one cat, will hold it tightly so that you can sleep. Go on. Just toss it over.

Then shut your eyes. Take some slow breaths. Feel it all just leeching away. Feel that? Now. Now you can sleep.

I do hope you can get some peace.

I am happy and relaxed. I’ve put my worries here before and I’m here if you need to write yours down and get some sleep tonight.

How wonderful to hear you are happy and relaxed! May I leave my anxiety with you tonight? Nothing awful, in fact I'm traveling home tomorrow for new year. But too much to do and I keep getting distracted. If I leave the anxiety with you maybe I'll be able to just get on with it. Thank you!

Hello OP in your own words nothing is too small if it is a worry to you. Your anxiety is now mine to squish. You are a fabulous giver of sleep and peace. I appreciate you a lot.

I’ve had a word with my cat and he is on it. A belly rub is all it took for your worries to be held. You can rest now before the doings of the day ahead. Me and cat can look after your thoughts tonight.

❤️

I'm awake as I'm currently running to the loo every 30-40 mins with a very heavy period. Fast running out of super large tampons (can't bear to use pads). Just changed my tampon again and hoping to get some sleep very soon but worried about leaking in the bed. I had 3 hours sleep 7-10pm as it wasnt as heavy then and i was in bed early. Now it's like a flood. Sorry if TMI

That’s tough, @potatoesalad. I had that until some surgery. The fear of leaking is real when it’s that heavy. I hope you get some rest.

I’m coming down with something. Slept 14 hours yesterday. Passed out quickly tonight. Awake now and oh I have the joint aches and throbbing sore calves.

I can’t take the worry of flooding away or send some emergency orange ones. But I can say a random woman knows that feeling and wishes you rest.

Sorry to hear that flappy fish.

Can you have a soak in the tub to see if it helps?

@potatoesalad have you tried a menstrual cup? They're great for flooding as they don't absorb, they catch, and have greater volume than a tampon (but the mechanics of putting them in and taking them out are very similar)

sorry to hear that @FlappyFish , I hope you are feeling better soon. Thank you for your kind wishes.

@CleopatrasBeautifulNose I have been thinking abut the cup for heavier nights but what happens if I lie down with the cup - will the blood ebb back ? the cup will in effect 'spill' ?