Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

we're always here or hereabouts, one or other of us, and most often a feline friend or two, so when you need us, just pop on in.

So worried financially. Credit card debt mostly. Whilst it's not an astronomical amount the interest is making it tough for me to pay it off.

Constantly got a headache and am grinding my teeth into oblivion at night.

I could in theory get some money back from my energy supplier but I'd rather keep it with them so I don't accrue debt with them too

@Imamumgetmeoutofhere that sounds horrid, I am sorry!

For now, you just park that worry right here. Let it go, go on. You do not have to give any more headspace tonight. We'll hold it tight, and make sure it does not escape until you are ready to have it back.

Cozy in, shut your eyes. Just breathe. It's okay for now. We've got you.

@2018SoFarSoGreat

Thank you. I just want to enjoy half term with my children. Got a day off tomorrow so I hope I get enough sleep tonight to enjoy it

Like this idea of passing on my worries to someone to temporarily look after.
Working ridiculous hours at the moment, parents ill and have a nearly 2 year old who has been listening to baby shark on repeat for the last 342hrs and never feel able to switch my brain off at night to get to sleep. I'm hoping you can look after these for me so I can unplug and have a night without even my dreams being invaded by to-do lists!

@hobbledyhoy welcome! Glad you stopped by.

Ok, that's a lot to hold, you poor thing. For now, park it all here. Just gather it up and throw it this way and get some rest. No more worrying tonight. We've got you. Really. You just rest.

I dunno if I've posted before but I'm getting fed up of doing mostly everything for our children. Dh was in intensive care in August and is now almost recovered and back at work but I'm still doing nearly everything. My shoulder is fucked and it's getting worse. I don't want to worry him about it but I know its because I need to carry the 17 month about all the time.

Tbh I think I'm just venting.

Vent away @GrandTheftWalrus! That's a lot on your plate (and your shoulder!) to carry around.

For now, you don't have to. Lay it all down, right now. We'll corral it into a cirner and keep our beady eyes on it, so that you can rest. Just rest. That's the way. It's OK to let it all go.

Waiting to go into labour and getting frustrated that it’s not happening means I cannot switch off at night. I’m not even 40 weeks yet, but my last baby came at 38 weeks so to have reached 39 without so much of a whisper has me feeling grumpy and overdue. But then I know being tense and overthinking isn’t going to help matters! During the day I can distract myself and think rationally, once bedtime comes I lose that ability. And then I feel anxious about when it does happen, it’s going to hurt, will
i make it to hospital in time, will anything go wrong, will my mum wake up when I call her to look after DS? Not to mention my acid reflux is back with a vengeance. I would love to be able to just relax, find my inner calm and switch these thoughts off so I could sleep. Or, hopefully, have a baby.

Ah @hownowpurplecow isn't it amazing how each of the last days feels like months? It must be the combination of excitement and fear and wonder and change around the corner.

So glad you stopped by here. This is the perfect place to leave all of it. We will hold it tenderly and patiently while you sleep. Your body and mind will need to be rested, so come on over whenever you need to, until your little miracle arrives. We've got this for now.

Could I bring a worry please or maybe a few!

I have crippling health anxiety that is getting worse by the day and now my DS (3 years) has decided he won't behave this week.

Just feel so totally overwhelmed and down...would help if DS also slept the night but this has regressed as well!

Aghhhhhhhh

Hi @elephantmarchingin
I’ve got you tonight. You leave those worries with me and the cat. We’ll take good care of them for you while you get some sleep.
Just lie quiet and forget about everything except relaxing.

Two years ago this week DH was in hospital having had most of his digestive system removed, we were waiting on the results of the biopsies the surgeons had taken. Tonight I just feel bitter and sad that all the delays caused by covid and botched biopsies in the months before mean that I am alone tonight. Sometimes I am just so fucking angry about it all.

@bloodywitchescat no wonder you feel like that! It is all so so very unfair.

Can you let yourself have a wee break just for tonight, and let us hold the sadness and anger and frustration and loneliness? We can do it.

We will hold that whole giant ball of pain for you, tenderly and firmly. Cats will be needed but they are at hand. you just need to cosy in. Shut your eyes. Breathe. No thinking. Just breathe and let it all go. Just for now. We have you. Really, it's OK to just let it all go, for a while.

Sending sleepy thoughts to enfold you.

I don't want anyone to take my worries or hold them, I'm too much of a cynic to personally find much reassurance for that. But I find comfort in talking and sharing my worries.

Its a week until my 3yo is going back under general anaesthetic to find out if her brain tumour is on the grow. For various reasons I suspect it is (and the numbers are against us).

It's a 'slow growing' one, so probably won't kill her, but it might, and who knows how 'intact' she'll come out of this. She's already had 2 brain surgeries

Except she's currently coming down with a cold. Her last one 6 weeks ago lasted for 2.5 weeks and out her in hospital. If that happens again, her MRI will be delayed.

I've got so many other worries as well - I'm broke as I'm self employed and have barely worked for months due to her illness. I've put on weight. I have health worries. But all this issue into insignificance compared to the worry about what's going on in her head.

@Somuchgoo I'm glad you came here to share your worries, and boy, these are some worries you have. I'm so sorry. It must be incredibly difficult for you.

Keep talking to us, someone is always here and happy to just sit with you, if you like.

This is a lovely thread. I'm scared about some health stuff at the minute. Waiting for treatment and trying to stay positive but I also have ADHD and perimenopause to contend with. Some days it's frankly a shitshow. But we KOKO.

Love and solidarity to everyone having a tough time 💙

welcome, @SquirrelSoShiny. That all sounds really difficult, sorry to hear it.

For tonight, just let it come over here. Park it. You deserve a night of sleep without anything to worry about. We'll just squish it all into a wee ball, and ask a cat to keep a beady eye on it. Okay? Now you go sleep. That's all you have to do. For now, we've got you right here.

Thank you 🥺💙

I am as usual stressed over my adult DDs uncaring selfish behaviour, worrying about my adult DS too. I have disabling illnesses do hardly anything but sleep due to this and now deep depression with no motivation to even shower. I could go on but I’ve had enough tonight I just want to cry. Thankyou for this little corner I just found

Oh dear, @womblesofwimbledon5 that sounds horrid.

Have a wee cry, then just let it all go. We can corral it all here, and you don't have to think about it tonight. Really. Just push it away. That's it.

Now cosy in. Shut your eyes. Get really comfy. Now sleep. There. That's the way.

Thankyou 😊Goodnight 💐

I'm worried about my DH waking up tomorrow morning and the hell that will break out.

He's come home drunk. That's expected after a night out with the lads. He usually just crashes. However ...
Tonight I've blocked the waste disposal - or so I thought it was me - I told him to leave for tonight (water is not leaking and is contained in the sink) and we will sort next day. It's a messy job and has happened several times before. Long story short - He's decided to sort it 11.30pm tonight while drunk. Hes been screaming in the kitchen for 30 mins to himself. Referring to me as all the names under the sun. Then same in the garden while looking at the external sink pipe. Also shouting 'the dirty cow has had a massive shit in the sink". The neighbours will have heard it all. Comes to bed, shouting at me about it. I calmly tell him I'm not listening to him. He tells me to fuck off out the house and to clean the mess up. Where he's tried to unblock it, there is food/water/waste everywhere. Literally flooded water in the kitchen. He's thrown the frying pan across the kitchen and dented it.
I've cleaned all the mess up. It's gone 1am. There is evidence of food he has put in the sink that has blocked it. He will despute that. I've left a pile of food as evidence. We have booked to take the DC out tomorrow and paid over £100 for it. Not sure if that will happen now.
He won't talk to me for days for this now. It will ruin the weekend.
I don't be able to sleep tonight
I was exhausted after doing my second job tonight that I've taken on for extra cash. I'm now wide awake

My god @Snugglebum99. That's horrendous. You do not deserve this.

If you feel safe and have another place to sleep, do it. You will need a clear head tomorrow, he certainly won't have one.

I'm sending wishes for peace and calm for you, and a hug, if you'd like. So very hard for you.

@Snugglebum99
I'm so sorry. If you can go out with your children. You don’t deserve to be treated like this. You deserve love and respect. His failings are not your fault. I hope you manage to get out today with your children. Have you got somebody in real life you can talk to?