Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

Ahhh@mynameisnotmichaelcaine feel for you. She sounds like a wonderful daughter. I have one too who we sent off on train to uni this eve. 3rd year and I still get weepy. Hoping she settles in new flat.
Sending love to all troubled/worried, what a great thread.

@bloodywhitecat you must be in bits seeing that little one go. You have my greatest admiration for what you do - you are a super hero! We'll sit with you tonight, holding that worry and fear and hope and dreams. You get some rest, and if you can't seep you can at least lie there with all of the memories.

@shadypines ah, I'm sure she'll be fine, but you'll never stop missing them when they go out that door.

sending love and peace to all.

I took my son to sign on for Universal Credit this morning. I'm assigned (?) to act on his behalf but they wanted to make sure he exists!

It is the first time he's been out of the house, apart from 1 or 2 days a week taught 1 to 1 at a specialist college, for 5 years.

We were told he would have to be assessed as not capable of working and he has talked about nothing else for 13 hours. He was assessed at great length for his most recent EHCP so can't understand why they're going to do it again. Those assessments were made by professionals meeting him several times and using iPads as he has severe selective mutism and autism.

All I really want is his national insurance paid. He says he will kill himself if they say there is nothing wrong with him. He was in special schools from year 4 onwards.

I've already posted in all the professional reports I could find. He is on the 9th centile for written language and on the 2nd for physically managing day to day.

oh @Frith2013 that sounds so difficult for him, and for you. Just ridiculous the hoops you must jump through.

For now, leave that worry with us. We'll hold it tight so that you can get some rest. No more worrying tonight. We've got you.

Thank you.

I need to get out of bed to get my hot water bottles and brush my teeth so I can get into bed again!

I've had a sad day, and am really struggling to sleep. I've been told today that my 18m contract (maternity cover) is unlikely to be extended, nothing personal but a charity wide recruitment freeze in response to the economic situation.

I've loved this job, been good at it and so proud to be part of the charity. When they took me on, my manager said in interview that it would be made into a permanent position in due course.

I feel absolutely gutted, I honestly thought I'd be here till I retired - 10 years. I've got till early Feb but I currently feel very bitter that everyone else in the team will be cracking on as usual and my days are numbered. I just feel that nothing I find will be as good as this job. I know I've got to carry on and be professional but I feel so emotional about the whole thing. And do that on no sleep.

I know so many people are going through so much but I don't know how to untangle myself from this role emotionally. I worry there will be nothing of me left afterwards.

@Reallycomplicatedpants that's horrid, I am sorry. It sounds like a great fit for you.

For now, you just cozy in though, worrying tonight won't make it any better. Cuddle in and leave it here. We've got you. You just rest now.

Being heard and hearing kind words in the middle of the night is so reassuring. Thank you.

@Reallycomplicatedpants so sorry, is there any way you could tell them how you feel? Perhaps something could be worked out. Meanwhile thinking of you, offload it to the 'worry dustbin.' (This is what I told DD when she was younger)

My manager knew how I felt, I was very quiet and a bit teary eyed! I went out for breakfast this morning and offloaded to a friend - and that helped. Dusted off my CV today and was actually quite impressed with myself...things may change in my current role but have already seen something which I'd be good at, and was a similar salary. My record of applications and interviews/offers is quite good.

It's those middle of the night panics that are hard to handle - and I was so touched by the kind responses. DH tries but he gets a bit out of his depth with emotional stuff!

Well done reallycomplicatedpants that sounds fantastic. @Frith2013 feel for you both, it makes a mockery in a way of the previous professional assessments. Surely if ANY were needed common sense would say a brief up to date one on the back of all the other ones. Hope you can sleep well tonight.

... And I'm sorry for your troubles @Reallycomplicatedpants that's awful love. X

I have a double sided ear infection and have been fobbed off with nasal spray. It’s been bad since Sunday night and my husband has been away with work and will only return tomorrow (he’s actually changed his flight). I need distractions!! There should be monuments dedicated to how shit this pain is. I preferred labour to this.

@Shopboughtmeatballs that must horribly worrying. I'm so sorry for her, and for you!

@Knnniggets ouch! that must really hurt. I'm glad your DH is hurrying home but in the meantime...

Cozy in. Shut your eyes, pull the covers up and just breathe. Feel all that worry and pain and frustration and sadness just leach away from your body. Send it all the way over here, and we'll hold it tight. We've got you, so you don't have to give it another thought. It is okay; we've got you.

@2018SoFarSoGreat that is such a nice post. Thank you. Being ill in peace is the one thing that I really miss from my life before kids.

I’m also here to help with any late night problems or worries. The cat will keep guard over them for you while you sleep.
Just drop them off at the end of the bed and then you can snuggle down and rest.

I want a better work life balance, I thought a way was going to come but now it looks like it’s three years away

i’ve not used this thread for so long, but I need help tonight.
DDog is struggling massively with arthritis and may not make it much longer unless his next treatment helps.
Dh has been told he needs risky surgery.
DD 15 and DS 17 have had a massive argument with DH over how they treated DS 10.
DS 17 is barely speaking to me.
DD 15 has DSH for the first time in months.
Money is tight.
Work has been emotional and I’ve been the main support for everyone.
Not sure how much more I can carry.
And the nightmares are breaking through.
Can someone carry all this for tonight please? It may be a team effort…
Thanks x

Ah @Howmanysleepsnow that all sounds just too hard for one person! I'm glad toy came.

Okay, you need to just cozy in, shut your eyes, take some slow breaths, and let it all go. Just for tonight. We can hold it - for the doggy very tenderly, for the rest more tightly. It's not your load for now. So let it go!

My closest friend died.

Oh @bettbburg I'm so sorry. I know that pain first hand, and it is unlike any other. So many condolences to you.

Leave it here for now., and try to get some sleep. We'll hold that pain and sorrow, so you don't have to. Just for now. It's OK.

Thank you. I can't sleep.

Any worries needing corralling for the night can be left here with me and the cat.

They will be kept quiet and comfortable while you sleep and you can collect them whenever you feel ready to.
Just drop them at the end of the bed, we’ve got them for you.

Thank you very kindly @GenuineKlatchianPottery

Have a good night.

I haven't been on the thread for ages , really appreciated it a few months ago. So glad to see that it's still running