Page 10 | All my friends of a certain age want to run away from home

MareofBeasttown · 2021-09-27T15:40:36+00:00

I thought it was just me, but after speaking to a bunch of friends around my age ( late 40s to early 50s) I have realised that all of us want to run away from home and fuck off to a desert island somewhere. We all have wildly different home lives, jobs and circumstances, but this is the common factor. Of course the pandemic has made things worse, but I don't think it's only the pandemic. Myself, I want to run away just to avoid being asked "Where is the sriracha?" when the sriracha is right on the counter.

Shell4429 · 29/09/2021 19:09

I’m in my late fifties and the most happy and content I have ever been. I’ve been single for thirteen years - maybe that’s the secret! I have my youngest DS who is 30 and on the spectrum living with me but he is happy doing his own thing and me mine. I have a small business selling all things knitting and crochet and design patterns, and I am writing too. I don’t want to run away, I don’t want to go anywhere! I have become rather reclusive.

MissCalamity · 29/09/2021 19:19

Oh yes, I feel like this as well. Luckily I've got a weekend away on Friday with 3 other friends to look forward to, the weather looks grim, but I don't care!
Just looking forward to not having to think about anything bar what to eat or drink!

Dontknowanymore2 · 29/09/2021 19:21

Bertiebiscuit, i agree

dementedma · 29/09/2021 19:26

DS loves sriracha lol. But yes. There is a windswept cottage in Orkney with my name on it. I will see and hear the sea and the silence. Beachcomb. Write.
( fuck knows how I'm going to fund this but thats a minor detail)

LowlandLucky · 29/09/2021 19:26

I ran away and my adult children followed me, i managed a whole 7 months of bliss

trelynarks · 29/09/2021 19:53

Just wait till your in your 60 's , we mature better with age !!!! , husbands ... partners just get grumpier !!!!!

CatsBooksAndCoffee · 29/09/2021 20:38

@ScrambledSmegs

Have to admit, I've been asking for a weekend away by myself as a birthday/Xmas gift for the last 10 years. Not once has it materialised. DH doesn't understand why I don't want to be with my wonderful, energetic, talkative, exhausting family all the time.

I think I just need to sort it myself. I fancy somewhere near the sea, with a lot of books.

Do it Scrambled Eggs! I'm 50 this year and am planning to do similar. I want lots of peace, no cleaning and cooking and just to read and relax. Since my husband made feck all effort last year and not much on previous years I decided if I want a nice birthday I'll have to sort it myself. I'm already researching my ideal haven 😊.

naturallyred · 29/09/2021 20:44

Yep. I’m very unhappily married, one of my teens is so stroppy & demanding it’s untrue, the other is lovely but has a love affair with his Xbox. Me & my pets want a one way ticket please.

Dontknowanymore2 · 29/09/2021 20:53

So many of us feel like this, im 62 going home tomorrow after 5 days away first time ever. I absolutely loved it, never done anything like it before. Getting panicked about returning tomorrow dont want to go. Just retired husband at home stuck permanently in front of tv. Nothing for me there, today dr rang and anti depression medication been increased. Im sure if i could stay away i wouldnt need them 😭

SingingInTheShithouse · 29/09/2021 21:17

I'm 60, I almost did run away today. Packed my trolley & went to the station with the intent to get on the first train & go wherever it took me & take it from there. But the station was heaving & I couldn't face hoards of unmasked people (CEV) & I gave up & went & sat in the park instead.

I'd settle for a caravan in a field tbh, no more bloody stupid questions & attitude & a DH with no backbone when it comes to a manipulative & arsey DD

Derkle · 29/09/2021 22:23

46 here and I dream about this nearly every day! Also perimenopausal, so my BS tolerance and ability to take a deep breath is near non existent.

Mummyto2rugrats · 29/09/2021 22:38

Oh thank god not just me, usually comes to a head at least once a month as I rant and rave that I am not just here to be everyone's maid and that it isn't just about helping with the housework it's the mental load, the balancing the accounts, the organising and paying of DC's many clubs and getting them there and back, making sure DC are doing their chores and homework etc etc or even just getting them out of bed and ready for school / clubs. Hormonal 11 year old DD who loves to push my buttons and argue back, great combination with me though not peri-menopausal definitely highly hormonal unhinged!

Yep sign me up for a desert Island I definitely feel I need it after this last few years of working / managing / homeschooling (of which the DH did none as out of the house working)

anon666 · 30/09/2021 00:12

Wow, I'm 48, I thought it was just me.

I've got three family members, all of whom have serious mental health issues and go through periods of extreme dependence.

I gave up work because it felt untenable to sustain it all. I now do everything at home, most of which I always have.

Whilst I adore them and understand they have issues, and are sick, I have to absorb three lots of nihilism. It's draining.

Mamanyt · 30/09/2021 00:32

Nah. I think it is fairly common. I remember how SHOCKED my ex was when he asked what I wanted for my birthday, and my reply was, "3 days where nobody who knows who I am knows where I am, and nobodly who knows where I am knows who I am, since you ask."

FindingMeno · 30/09/2021 04:46

A tiny house or a white airy minimalist house or a thick walled dark and cosy cottage or a beach shack or a converted van ......I have trouble choosing which.....but the thing about dreaming is that we can tweak the happiness level.
Better to find contentment in the ordinary and live life as it is now, celebrating the simple things.
Obviously without the grindingly irritating DH though, that's a given.

harrytwatter · 30/09/2021 05:03

I'm 38. I love my kids, adore them. But I wish they would move out. One is only 2 so I've got a way to go.

Dontknowanymore2 · 30/09/2021 06:34

FindingMeno ive just had 4 days in a thick walled cosy cottage on my own going home this morning. My sleeping and eating and depression has been so much better. No surprise last night i didnt sleep well and this morning very down. God knows how i will feel when i get home. No children there, mores the pity. Just a very lazy, idle, boring husband 😭

trappedsincesundaymorn · 30/09/2021 06:45

I'm in my 50's and I'd love to just spend a few days by myself near the coast..IMO there's nothing better than a wild, stormy seascape. When I said as much to DP at the weekend, he looked at me like I'd just told him I wanted to go to the moon naked.

QueeniesCroft · 30/09/2021 10:19

I think we're going to need a bigger island! Or a small toem somewhere.

Washeduponthebeach · 30/09/2021 10:22

Yes, can completely relate to this. I went through a spell of looking at flats on rightmove. I was that desperate.

MibsXX · 30/09/2021 11:57

Funnily enough, I was only thinking the other day, I am soo tempted to sell what little we have buy a campervan and just fuck off travelling for the rest of my days... we own nothing much, renting and thats only just affordable got no chance of things ever getting better now thanks to the way the world is turning out, so wouldn't have much to lose and maybe a bit of a life worth living, even if it wasn't for as long...........

UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme · 30/09/2021 12:09

trappedsincesundaymorn is the longing for a wide stormy seascape age related or due to growing up on an island do you think? I live hundreds of miles from the sea now, and our nearest coast is in Italy and doesn't hit the spot... I'm the only one iin the family who longs for a wild sea... but I don't want other people there really - at least not many!

traumatisednoodle · 30/09/2021 19:22

So fellow runawayers I've just come home and DH is trying persuade me to spend £5000 to drive through France at half term to self cater in a tiny apartment with 2 teenagers. I said no thanks, he said maybe we will go without you. I gave him a look and said "are you really suggesting you will drive both children through France and then feed them alone?" He stayed quiet a pity I was really looking forward to it.

Washeduponthebeach · 30/09/2021 19:29

@traumatisednoodle

So fellow runawayers I've just come home and DH is trying persuade me to spend £5000 to drive through France at half term to self cater in a tiny apartment with 2 teenagers. I said no thanks, he said maybe we will go without you. I gave him a look and said "are you really suggesting you will drive both children through France and then feed them alone?" He stayed quiet a pity I was really looking forward to it.

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I would have said ‘great idea, why don’t you do that!’ . You would have bought yourself a week of peace!

TipseyTorvey · 30/09/2021 19:36

@traumatisednoodle

So fellow runawayers I've just come home and DH is trying persuade me to spend £5000 to drive through France at half term to self cater in a tiny apartment with 2 teenagers. I said no thanks, he said maybe we will go without you. I gave him a look and said "are you really suggesting you will drive both children through France and then feed them alone?" He stayed quiet a pity I was really looking forward to it.

I think you need to persuade him this is the best idea ever. Mention bonding and once in a lifetime opportunity to learn about his children yadda yadda.