My mum has just been rushed into hospital

[QuestionableMouse]

She had a bad headache, wanted to be sick and seemed confused/weak. She's not well in general but I've never seen her look so bad. She's been positive with Covid too so came to stay with me so I could keep an eye on her.

I'm fucking terrified. Have to wait for a couple of hours before I can ring the hospital and I'm just numb. My dad is no help. I need to tell my sister but don't want to worry her until I know something.

I don't even know why I'm posting, just need to get it out I think

I am sorry, I see you can't visit at the moment. Horrible isn't it. I am thinking of you.

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

I have to say that all the staff have been wonderful and very kind when I've spoken to them. I just wish we could visit and they had an answer about what caused it.

@stilldumdedumming

Hi I know that hearing other people's stories doesn't always help and can be very annoying. But my dp had a massive brain bleed last year. Straight to surgery and neuro ITU. He didn't wake up for weeks. He had a tracheotomy- I was really scared about that but it was ok. He got pneumonia and Covid. They twice said we would need to consider his quality of life and withdraw life support. He is now Ok. Doing well. Can walk and talk and even in hospital we laughed a lot. I think the one thing I would say is that while your mum is in hospital they will watch her so closely, every temp spike, raised blood pressure, sign of infection, they get on straight away. I found they hugely reassuring. When my dp was there I missed him so much. I kept a journal where I wrote to him every day. It at least allowed me to feel like I could talk to him. Also I am not sure if you are able to visit, but he says he could hear us. I am fairly unconvinced by this as he doesn't remember anything. But we got through it and although he is quite significantly affected, he is kind of OK with life. And very much still him. She is in good hands and under very watchful eyes.

My mum was in ICU a few years ago, had sepsis. She got infections, and lots of her organs failed. To be honest, we found out a while after that the staff thought she would die. The point of my post is this. Lots of scary things happened, but she totally bounced back and is fine now. Yes it's scary and a close call, but she got through it. Hope your mum can do this too

Thank you! Hearing people's positive stories is really helpful, so please keep sharing them ❤️❤️

I'm so sorry OP

Thinking of you and your Mum, OP.

Thank you! No improvement yet unfortunately. ☹️ They can't get her off the sedation because she gets distressed and bites the tube. Not sure what the plan is yet ☹️

Sorry to hear that Mouse and thinking of you all.

Thinking of you and your mum ❤️ Hope things starts to improve soon xx

Sorry @QuestionableMouse I can't post positive story my mum had a bleed on the brain last year and it was all over very quickly I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy I truly truly hope your mum makes a full recovery and you get her back so soon. It sounds like she is in very good hands and they are trying many different things
Hugs x

I'm sorry too, Mouse.

@QuestionableMouse my dp also had to stay sedated because he kept pulling out his trachy and his catheter (!!!!!) They told me it's normal and a good sign as he is fighting (John Radcliffe neuro ITU). It meant they had to take it very easy weaning off the sedation. It is desperately worrying but there's still all sorts of hopeful outcomes. I think it's ten times worse if you can't see your mum. She is still there.

@QuestionableMouse
Thinking of you. My mum had a catastrophic brain haemorrhage in 1992 and collapsed straight into a coma...they told us she had only hours to live. She was kept under for 10 days before they started to reduce anaesthesia and, if it's any comfort, she was very agitated as she woke up. Her catheter, central line, naso-gastric tube, etc, were all pulled out by her at one time or another. She had surgery to clip the aneurysm and had to learn to walk, talk, and function again through intensive rehabilitation. In the end she was in hospital for just under 7 months.

She's still with us almost 30 years later. Different to before, but still all there. It has been a long journey. I remember well those very dark days and wanted to give you a hug.

Wishing you and your mum well.

Still thinking of you and your Mum Waiting and hoping is a horrible feeling so I hope you get positive news very soon Look after yourself too

Still thinking of you too, OP. Hope you are OK.

Still here OP. Sending love and good thoughts x

Still thinking of you and hoping for some positive news x

Thinking about you and your mum this morning, hoping for some positive news for you today x

Thank you ❤️

Haven't been able to speak to anyone yet today but I'm going to ring again in a sec.

Thinking of you and your mum op

We all are still thinking of you and your mum. Hope you get some good news today. Xx

Thank you 💜💜

She's had a tracheostomy and they're slowly reducing the sedation but they're a bit worried because she wasn't responding appropriately so I just don't know ☹️

She could make more progress when her sedation is reduced, people react very differently to it so there is still hope she will change from the state she's in. I'm sorry they didn't have better news for you, but this isn't a dead end, they still have so much they can do for her. When she's more stable you might even get to see her. Hope you're okay and looking after yourself OP x

Thank you 💜💜💜

I'm finding the waiting and not knowing really hard today.

The waiting for news must be so stressful, but keep hold of hope, there is every chance that things will change once she's weaned off sedation. At the moment her brain is resting Please look after yourself