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My mum has just been rushed into hospital

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QuestionableMouse · 09/09/2021 17:52

She had a bad headache, wanted to be sick and seemed confused/weak. She's not well in general but I've never seen her look so bad. She's been positive with Covid too so came to stay with me so I could keep an eye on her.

I'm fucking terrified. Have to wait for a couple of hours before I can ring the hospital and I'm just numb. My dad is no help. I need to tell my sister but don't want to worry her until I know something.

I don't even know why I'm posting, just need to get it out I think

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rainbowstardrops · 16/09/2021 10:39

Sorry you're having to go through this. Hope your mum improves soon Thanks

sprinkleyumnut · 16/09/2021 10:41

💜💜💜🙏🙏🙏

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QuestionableMouse · 16/09/2021 10:44

It takes me ten plus minutes just to get through to someone most times, and then I feel like I'm disturbing them cause I know exactly how busy they are. It's just an absolutely shit situation ☹️

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LIZS · 16/09/2021 10:50

@QuestionableMouse

It takes me ten plus minutes just to get through to someone most times, and then I feel like I'm disturbing them cause I know exactly how busy they are. It's just an absolutely shit situation ☹️
Sorry you are going through this. Had similar last year when dh was in hospital. Sometimes took hours just to get through, only to find relevant nurse was on a break. Noone's fault, just how it is. I found late morning, teatime or after evening shift change a good time to ring.
doitwithlove · 16/09/2021 10:56

Sending you all hugs and hope that the surgeons and staff can help
your mum recover 💐

Fetchthevet · 16/09/2021 13:44

Sending lots of love OP Flowers x

Antinerak · 16/09/2021 14:13

@QuestionableMouse

It takes me ten plus minutes just to get through to someone most times, and then I feel like I'm disturbing them cause I know exactly how busy they are. It's just an absolutely shit situation ☹️
You're not disturbing them, they're there to look after your mum and you need to be kept up to date. They are busy but they will always have time to talk to you. It is an utterly shit situation, wallow in the sadness as much as you like. Sending love x
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QuestionableMouse · 16/09/2021 15:31

Thank you. Sometimes I feel okay then sometimes I feel like I could cry for weeks.

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needtogetfit21 · 16/09/2021 15:48

Praying for your dear mum OP, thoughts with you all x

uncomfortablydumb53 · 16/09/2021 16:30

Still thinking of you and let the tears flow Naturally you're very upset and it's an outlet for your stress

Itonlymakesyoustronger · 16/09/2021 16:32

@QuestionableMouse - I'm sorry to hear about your mum but remember she is in safe hands and will be dealt and treated with carefully and correctly. will keep you and your mum in my prayers this evening and hope you both get reunited soon.

I would like to add one more thing, I would complain about GP because during the Pandemic GPs were not administrating any oral steroids as it can cause the immune system to collapse. Therefore that may have triggered the whole seizure. My father was very ill recently but Doctor refused to give steroids due to this.

TreeTed · 16/09/2021 18:45

@Itonlymakesyoustronger that is bad advise, steroids are the front runner treatment in covid. Other infections steroids are bad sometimes good, so if your father had a non covid infection that might have been accurate. Also one persons covid and history is different to others so what worked and didn’t for others doesn’t mean the OP needs to complain about a treatment given to everyone at this stage.

OP, sorry you can’t visit. Crying and then also not crying at times and forgetting what is going on and being happy for a second is also ok and doesn’t make you a bad person either. Your brain will protect you at different times.

TreeTed · 16/09/2021 18:50

@Itonlymakesyoustronger the OP has also said her mum has had a brain bleed, probably causing the seizures.
OP, it sounds like your mum is getting really good care in the hospital and I hope she recovers enough soon and is moved so you can go and visit her. Could you get a cheap iPod thing, and record you talking to her/her favourite songs or something and drop it in to play to her if it would help make you feel better about not visiting?

YukoandHiro · 16/09/2021 18:52

Hi OP, been thinking of you and your family. Have you managed to get any more information about your mum's diagnosis or prognosis?

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QuestionableMouse · 16/09/2021 21:13

They seem to have settled on it being a bleed (specialists at James Cook Hospital have reviewed her MRI scan)

She had another CT scan today that's being checked by them too.

They want to try waking her up again tomorrow and will reassess.

Thank you for all the support ❤️❤️❤️

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Antinerak · 16/09/2021 21:20

It's great that they can pin-point what happened, they can get her onto the right treatment- and there is so much they can do for her.

Hopefully now she's had some rest and some treatment already she'll react better to waking up. Her reaction can give them some idea of how she's been affected by it and what they need to do from here on.

Fingers crossed you'll get to speak to her soon and get some more answers and prognosis.

You're very welcome for our support, there's not much we can do for you but we'll be here when you need us x

uncomfortablydumb53 · 16/09/2021 22:42

Hope you can get some sleep. You must be exhausted, having Covid yourself too

Nottogetapenny · 16/09/2021 23:18

I keep looking at your thread, hopefully to see that your mum, is improving. It is so hard for you and your family not knowing what is going to happen next! Hope now the hospital can treat her and make her well. 🌺

sofakingcool · 17/09/2021 21:09

How is everything OP? X

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QuestionableMouse · 17/09/2021 23:04

Had a conversation with her doctor tonight who said (copying the notes I made at the time)

  • her CT scan today was unremarkable
  • every time they lift the sedation she bites the tube so they're considering a tracheostomy
  • he's not sure what's going on - MRI showed a shadow(?) that could be pus or blood

So basically not the best update ever. I just wish they knew what the problem was because not knowing is absolutely awful.

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Dogatetheleftovers · 17/09/2021 23:34

I’m sorry that she’s no better, it’s such a horrible time for you. Hope you get some better news soon. Take care of yourself.

BedTed · 17/09/2021 23:36

I’m sorry there are no clear answers OP. We’re all still here for you.

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QuestionableMouse · 17/09/2021 23:38

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

I'm absolutely exhausted from the stress and worry. Can't believe it's been a week already. I really miss her.

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Silkiescatz · 17/09/2021 23:38

Hope things start to improve soon Mouse and thinking of you both.

stilldumdedumming · 18/09/2021 00:02

Hi I know that hearing other people's stories doesn't always help and can be very annoying.
But my dp had a massive brain bleed last year. Straight to surgery and neuro ITU. He didn't wake up for weeks. He had a tracheotomy- I was really scared about that but it was ok. He got pneumonia and Covid. They twice said we would need to consider his quality of life and withdraw life support.
He is now Ok. Doing well. Can walk and talk and even in hospital we laughed a lot.
I think the one thing I would say is that while your mum is in hospital they will watch her so closely, every temp spike, raised blood pressure, sign of infection, they get on straight away. I found they hugely reassuring.
When my dp was there I missed him so much. I kept a journal where I wrote to him every day. It at least allowed me to feel like I could talk to him.
Also I am not sure if you are able to visit, but he says he could hear us. I am fairly unconvinced by this as he doesn't remember anything. But we got through it and although he is quite significantly affected, he is kind of OK with life. And very much still him.
She is in good hands and under very watchful eyes.