My DC won't let me post a front door photo of them going back to school!

[bigbeachedwales]

All over my Facebook are photos of my friends' kids looking cute by a front door in uniform. My DD is refusing point blank to let me post one of her. I told her it's just because I'm proud but she's still saying no. We got talking about permission/consent. Does she have to give permission for me to post her photo? She's 10. Or would she have to consent to me posting it? I'm not going to, just in case I'm roasted on here, but I'm now just interested in the rules.

Of course you need her permission!
My daughter said very early on she doesn’t want me to post pictures of her and of course I listened. Sometimes she will say yes but she doesn’t want pictures of herself out there and I respect that

Don't do it!

Legally I don't think you do.

But I agree talking to children for consent is really good from a young age because it teaches them for when they want to do it.

Regardless of consent (which you absolutely should respect), why would you want to post something that clearly makes her uncomfortable?

Why do you feel the need to parade her on social media at all?

Who cares about Facebook. If your children are happy, well cared for and able to speak up confidently (which it sounds like they are) then that's far more important!
Maybe if you asked her if you could send it privately to specific people?

I don't let anyone post photos of me without permission and that's a boundary that I think every human should be able to make.

Of course you would need her consent!! You must have raised her well for her to be so confident and saying very clearly what she isn't comfortable with - good on her

If she's asked you not to, don't do it!

Legally probably not but you don’t want to teach them that they can’t have boundaries.
I only share photos of the dc (12 and 16) with permission and that’s been the case for a few years now

You can't take photos of someone on private property without permission...I guess your front door is still your property. So if it was them walking along a public street thats different.

I think its fair enough, let them have their privacy.

Legally, you own the picture, you can post it.

Ethically, listen to your daughter. Stop doing things just cos everyone else does them on social media.

Ah you’re a Facebook mum
No I don’t want to buy any wax melts thanks

Just take one for your own memories. Not everything is meant for facebook

My children wouldn't like me posting photos of them so I don't. I'm not one to post photos of myself either.

Why do you need to post a photo

Genuinely they’re lovely for us parents and perhaps to show grandparents but no one else in the history of the universe gives a shiny shit. Yes I am a great big grump who does not understand the social media need to have your entire life on display.

Could be worse, could be the photos of people’s dinners I suppose.

She doesn't have to give permission.

But if you've talked about how consent is important and then go ahead and post it anyway, that's a pretty shocking message to send to your kid.

OP HAS SAID IN THE OP SHE IS NOT GOING TO DO IT....

Children are taught not to share identifiable information on social media. Information like their full name, their photograph, their school, their age and their address. These pictures are very thorough at ticking all of those boxes.
It baffles me every year that so many people don’t think it through.

Unless it's family, literally no one cares about other kids first day at school pictures.

It’s a photo of their milestone, not yours - although I appreciate it feels like your own as a parent. So no, if they don’t want a photo shared then that’s their prerogative and you should respect it.

Ask yourself - if my DC were in a photo taken by a stranger and shared on FB without their consent would I be angry/uncomfortable? Just because you’re their parent doesn’t mean boundaries and rules don’t apply.

Agree with them to take an alternative picture- them walking from behind or something?

Bloody hell! Just don't

Ffs sake how did our parents cope not being able to post a return to school photo on anything. The only people that care about them is parents and possibly close friends or family members.

She is ten. She said no. Who cares who else posts anything. She doesn’t want you to. It’s her image and you should listen to your daughter of course!

Legally you don't need consent, morally you do.

Also agree that there nothing interesting about someone else's kids in school uniform.

As much as it pains me (for when my own dc start to protest) , I’m sorry but your dd has her right to privacy and if she doesn’t want the photo on fb, she doesn’t want it there and you have to consider that.

My dd is 10 and has asked me not to put any pictures of her on social media and so I don't. I would love to but because she has asked me not to, I won't

Are you serious? Please tell me this is a wind up.

I want to do something my dd has expressed makes her uncomfortable but I think its more important to get likes from people on the Internet than respecting her wishes.

How on Earth do you expect to teach her about consent? Ask but do it anyway when they say no...