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My DC won't let me post a front door photo of them going back to school!

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bigbeachedwales · 08/09/2021 17:48

All over my Facebook are photos of my friends' kids looking cute by a front door in uniform. My DD is refusing point blank to let me post one of her. I told her it's just because I'm proud but she's still saying no. We got talking about permission/consent. Does she have to give permission for me to post her photo? She's 10. Or would she have to consent to me posting it? I'm not going to, just in case I'm roasted on here, but I'm now just interested in the rules.

OP posts:
cheeseismydownfall · 09/09/2021 17:38

Eh? I can assure you I don't post photos of my children online. I haven't posted on social media for years.

I use Google photos and am always getting montages, this-time-last-year photos etc. so absolutely no justification to do it from that perspective.

Seesawmummadaw · 09/09/2021 17:39

Happily smug and sanctimonious here.

shallIswim · 09/09/2021 17:44

And of course I have loads of first day in a year 2,3,4, etc pics which I treasure. And I don't treasure them any less because the rest of the world hasn't seen them. If that's sanctimonious then I'll take that hit.
I do think at 10 a child should have the confidence and autonomy to say no. You should be rather pleased that she can speak up, OP

EatAllDay · 09/09/2021 17:50

Don’t post it if she doesn’t want you to. Personally I cannot understand people posting pics of their kids. I just would never do it

shallIswim · 09/09/2021 17:53

I inwardly cringe when I see them, and 'like' out of politeness! It's not that I don't like their children. I know many of them and think they're splendid young humans. But I just don't get the constant display thing.
Maybe I'm old!

boreda09 · 09/09/2021 17:54

Your DD is to be applauded and you should be very proud to have such a wonderful child. And no, I am not being ironic. Never mind whether it is allowed or not.

fuzzymoomin · 09/09/2021 17:57

This is everything I hate about social media. Your need to show off and match your friends vs your child wish for privacy Hmm

Farfalle88 · 09/09/2021 18:55

@bigbeachedwales

Thanks all. Great advice. (From some of you). Judgemental shite though from many of you. And I absolutely do not believe you don't post photos of your kids online. You're just being smug and sanctimonious. Mumsnet is full of this. Saying one thing online to make you feel more superior.
I don’t post any personal photos on Facebook. Not even of myself. I absolutely hate having photos or personal information on SM.
LimeRedBanana · 09/09/2021 19:43

Plenty of people don’t post photos of their kids online. Some people do.

Why would you believe that people on this thread are lying?

I’m not in the UK so it’s not back to school time here, but I do have some UK friends. There have been a few first day at school photos in my feed.

But by far the majority have not posted photos of their kids’ first day. 🤷🏻‍♀️

user1496146479 · 11/09/2021 11:51

@MilduraS

Why ask about the legal position? Are you planning to rub it in your daughters face and make her feel grateful for respecting her right to privacy?
Maybe she is just curious?! Hmm
BluebellsGreenbells · 11/09/2021 11:57

And I absolutely do not believe you don't post photos of your kids online. You're just being smug and sanctimonious

I absolutely don’t post picture of my children, not since a pedophile snatched a few local girls photos and posted them on a porn website with their location.

Police were involved.

Previous to that I didn’t because high school kids trawled parents Facebook accounts and ridiculed previous photos of the teens on Snapchat - in a ‘rate my’ or love/shag/marry type posts that others voted on

Same things happen now on Tik tok or YouTube videos

Not necessary

GreyhoundG1rl · 11/09/2021 11:57

@bigbeachedwales

Thanks all. Great advice. (From some of you). Judgemental shite though from many of you. And I absolutely do not believe you don't post photos of your kids online. You're just being smug and sanctimonious. Mumsnet is full of this. Saying one thing online to make you feel more superior.
Complete nonsense, I'm afraid.
Plumtree391 · 11/09/2021 14:26

@BluebellsGreenbells

And I absolutely do not believe you don't post photos of your kids online. You're just being smug and sanctimonious

I absolutely don’t post picture of my children, not since a pedophile snatched a few local girls photos and posted them on a porn website with their location.

Police were involved.

Previous to that I didn’t because high school kids trawled parents Facebook accounts and ridiculed previous photos of the teens on Snapchat - in a ‘rate my’ or love/shag/marry type posts that others voted on

Same things happen now on Tik tok or YouTube videos

Not necessary

Exactly.

I absolutely would never post a photograph of a child online.

HereForThis · 11/09/2021 15:42

And I absolutely do not believe you don't post photos of your kids online. You're just being smug and sanctimonious

OP, from your wanting to know your legal standpoint, saying that everybody else on your list has posted their kids photos and this part of your post, I believe you really want to post that picture and may well do so behind her back. Well, if it makes you feel better...

I just think you shouldn't ask questions on mn if you don't want to hear the answer. Do what you really want to do instead.

Lweji · 13/09/2021 08:00

I don't post photos of DS mostly because he doesn't want to, and many people I know don't post either.
It's not hard to believe that some pp on MN don't.
We do notice those who do, but if you stop to think you'll notice those who don't.

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