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My DC won't let me post a front door photo of them going back to school!

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bigbeachedwales · 08/09/2021 17:48

All over my Facebook are photos of my friends' kids looking cute by a front door in uniform. My DD is refusing point blank to let me post one of her. I told her it's just because I'm proud but she's still saying no. We got talking about permission/consent. Does she have to give permission for me to post her photo? She's 10. Or would she have to consent to me posting it? I'm not going to, just in case I'm roasted on here, but I'm now just interested in the rules.

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icedcoffees · 08/09/2021 18:26

Legally no, you probably don't need her consent.

But why would you go against her wishes?

Mariell · 08/09/2021 18:26

Why would you want to?

Susannahmoody · 08/09/2021 18:26

I totally agree with your daughter.

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bigbeachedwales · 08/09/2021 18:27

I've said clearly I'm not going to. I was just interested in the permission and consent question more generally. Read the whole post, people! HmmAngryBiscuit

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GreyhoundG1rl · 08/09/2021 18:27

@bigbeachedwales

I've said clearly I'm not going to. I was just interested in the permission and consent question more generally. Read the whole post, people! HmmAngryBiscuit
You queried the legal position, ffs!
PeterPomegranate · 08/09/2021 18:28

Don’t do it if she doesn’t want you to! Why would you go against her wishes to get likes on Facebook?

pianolessons1 · 08/09/2021 18:28

Sensible girl. The number of people who are normally digitally savvy but post pictures of their kids in clearly identifiable school uniform....Hmm

OlivesTree · 08/09/2021 18:28

@CelloYouveGotABass

Regardless of consent (which you absolutely should respect), why would you want to post something that clearly makes her uncomfortable?

Why do you feel the need to parade her on social media at all?

Exactly.
PeterPomegranate · 08/09/2021 18:29

Pleased to read you’re not going to. But I don’t understand why the legal position is here or there Confused

Susannahmoody · 08/09/2021 18:30

SIL posted dn and dn in uniform outside their door, with the house number on show.

Begs belief

itsgettingwierd · 08/09/2021 18:31

@GreyhoundG1rl

Bloody hell! Just don't Hmm
If you read the op - she isn't WinkGrin
EnglishRose1320 · 08/09/2021 18:34

I took a photo of my ds outside the front door but only to send to his grandparents and godparents. He's happy with that and I still get to show people how grown up he looks.

exLtEveDallas · 08/09/2021 18:36

I understand that you aren’t going to post it, but I’m curious, how would she know if you did?

Mermaidpool · 08/09/2021 18:37

I stopped posting pics when DC asked. I still take them and occasionally ask if I can post one, sometimes they say yes sometimes not.

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 08/09/2021 18:37

Have you rung. 101 for the legal position. That's the go to answer isn't it?

Personally I think it's a sad state of affairs that a parent is thinking about the legal aspects of taking a photo of their own child.

GreyhoundG1rl · 08/09/2021 18:38

If you read the op - she isn't winkgrin
What's the winky face for? She started a thread to query how she'd stand legally if she wanted to override her daughter's wishes not to have her photo on Facebook.
Why you'd reply to my post with a wink and a grin is beyond me.

DiscordandRhyme · 08/09/2021 18:41

Even if you don't need permission I'd want it from my child!

It's her face and body in that photo that's around the inter webs indefinitely. If she says she doesn't want you to it's her choice.

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bigbeachedwales · 08/09/2021 18:42

@GreyhoundG1rl

If you read the op - she isn't winkgrin What's the winky face for? She started a thread to query how she'd stand legally if she wanted to override her daughter's wishes not to have her photo on Facebook. Why you'd reply to my post with a wink and a grin is beyond me.
That's not true. I started the post to see what if any legal position there was. I also stated I wasn't going to post the photo.
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TartanJumper · 08/09/2021 18:42

Legally, you don't, if that is what you are asking. You can post a picture of anybody taken in a public place, I believe, without their permission.

But I think people should respect their childrens wishes.

Audreyhelp · 08/09/2021 18:45

It’s not even her first day . Just send it to people that are actually interested.

Hellocatshome · 08/09/2021 18:45

Since they were old.enough to understand social media I have asked their permission. If they say no then thats that it doesn't get posted. My DS1 didn't give permission for his back to school pic to be posted but because he is 14 and can take a joke I posted a baby photo of him instead with the "Back to school Year 10" caption, he was amused.

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bigbeachedwales · 08/09/2021 18:46

@TartanJumper

Legally, you don't, if that is what you are asking. You can post a picture of anybody taken in a public place, I believe, without their permission.

But I think people should respect their childrens wishes.

Thank you. That's exactly what I was asking. Smile
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brittleheadgirl · 08/09/2021 18:49

'Front door photo' 🤦🏻‍♀️

Good grief the Stacey Solomon style #making memories folk have a lot to answer for!!

Just get on with living and spend less time trying to work out where you stand legally when you're itching to post staged and contrived photos on Facebook.
I've seen so many of these this week, most of the children look either uncomfortable, embarrassed or both!

MintyGreenDream · 08/09/2021 18:50

Bribery

Plumtree391 · 08/09/2021 18:51

If your daughter doesn't want it, don't do it! I don't blame her.

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