Why, just why do people this

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Couples posting lovey lovey messages to each other on their public social media.

Everything from Happy Birthday to my wonderful wife to OMG thank you so much amazing DH for the really expensive xyz.

Presumably as they have such amazing relationships and they live in the same house they can say these things easily face to face.

Is it to run others' who may not be so fortunate noses in it? Do their partners need this public validation? Do they not actually talk to each other?

This has been done a lot on here

And fwiw I agree with you, it’s vomit inducing.

@AudreyTattoo

If you went to the pub and celebrated your anniversary with your husband people would allow you to crack on. Why is it such bad form to do it digitally? It's not very rational.

But in a number of cases it's more like; you go to the pub and give a speech about your wonderful partner to people who don't really know either of you. Then you do the same thing the following week.

It certainly isn't anything to get genuinely irate about or wound up to the point of hate or anything. But I don't think anyone has said they have got to that point, have they? More a passing "why would you ever do that?" sort of comment. Which I understand.

Then you do the same thing the following week...and the week after that, and then a few days later

I agree - I always think anyone who needs to post this nonsense is insecure in themselves or their relationship or something. Seems like common sense I suppose that people who really need to show things off often are 🤷‍♀️

I don’t like these type of post either OP and don’t find them genuine. I would never post an over the top bragging and cringe worthy declaration of love to DP on facebook. Like pp of course I’m happy to hear about news such as engagements and weddings and day to day things and am genuinely happy for all my friends happiness but someone gushing about how much they love their husband or wife is just weird. I also don’t get over the top posts on Facebook about people’s DC being ‘their whole world’.

Sycophantic drivel. Cannot stand it either.

I am 100% with you on this. Non stop gushing over each other . The endless photos of cakes people bake because they're doing it for charity with the non stop comments on how amazing they are for doing it and "oh you're such a domestic godess" with the "oh you're so kind" replies. Then the "you should be on Bake Off" with the reply "Me? Shucks, no I'm not good at all".
Oh the full on boosting of egos is endless.
"Happy birthday to my wonderful gorgeous husband, I'm so lucky to have you as my life partner" crap.

Like you, I'm sure they must have told the person directly. It's constant grovelling for public compliments. I now mostly scroll through at a rapid rate now. I'm extremely happy for people who have found love, I myself have. My husband feels the same. In fact he's asked me never to do it on social media as it'd make him look a right dick with his mates😆.

It's so cringey so yes I agree with you!

It annoys me too, feels performative, I try to ignore it

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors

That's how I would interpret it too.

But in a number of cases it's more like; you go to the pub and give a speech about your wonderful partner to people who don't really know either of you. Then you do the same thing the following week.

Possibly. I don't disagree that seeing people banging on about how wonderful their partner is on FB is mildly nauseating (unless there's a genuinely important reason to do so).

But my point is a bigger one: that Facebook has become the only forum in which people are able to go no holds barred with their judgement. An awful lot of the most benign -- if mildly annoying - stuff on FB is used as the trigger for long hand-wringing posts like this. I just think if you really unpick it its become the only safe space to lay into people these days.

I don’t know why - it’s really odd. Just as when people post about their children saying how proud they are - tell the target of affection/pride. Not the whole world! Very self centred behaviour.

Ohhh well!!!..... an old friend of mine likes to discuss all the ins and outs of his relationship with his new partner (who he actually met on Tiktok) as posts on tiktok! I'm talking.. very.. personal thoughts broadcast for everyone to see! And then she 'duets' him ... now that's something we don't all need to know...

I just think if you really unpick it its become the only safe space to lay into people these days.

What do you mean by this? Everyone lays into people everywhere these days, it seems. And social media seems to be the prevalent reason for this. The very cause of it.

I’m old enough to remember a time before SM, where people only shared their thoughts with people they actually knew - friends and family, etc. And people tended (generalisation) to respect each other’s views. Or, at the very least, not share highly controversial views (you never discuss politics or religion, etc!).

SM now gives people a platform to share their views much more widely - and with that comes people expressing their opinions, in turn. And it’s no-holds-barred.

There never really used to be any laying into people - now it’s completely the norm to do this, to everyone’s detriment, I think.

I am surprised that you think FB? Just? Or all SM? Is the only ‘safe space to lay into people’. To me, social media has created a culture of laying into people.

Hate it, also when people write messages to young children and dead relatives, errrr, they aren't on FB..

What can I say, smug marrieds are just that,but it's rarely all sunshine and roses, so don't envy them - they do it just to try to have one over on us independent non siamese twin folks, I never believe such saccharine nonsense personally

I've unfollowed anyone that does this, as I find it really grating. As many pp have said I tend to think it's all bollox anyway. I would come off fb entirely if it weren't for a couple of hobby groups that I'm part of that are only on there.
Every so often I get one popping up on my news feed and it never ceases to amaze me the level of personal detail some people with share with a bunch of acquaintances. Some of these, people literally have over 1000 'friends' and over share every aspect of their lives, and then wander how their identity has been stolen!

Looks like we have finally reached the point where other people’s happiness demonstrated in public forum, is now offensive to some people.

YABU.

I know OP - it does my head in, pathetic

It makes me scream OP. Attention seeking wallies the lot of them.

They are the same people who say something like 'feeling sad' and then wait for the torrent of 'are you ok babe' type responses. These people should be put in a rocket and shot into space.

That’s doesn’t bug me half as much as the yo-yo relationships.... the ones that break up every 5 minutes, put how much they love each other, then they are posting messages about not going back to him or her.... can’t keep up..

I hide people like that.
It doesn't affect me in any way, but I do find it a bit odd- still, to each their own, and that's obviously the kind of relationship they have/want, so good luck to them.

Nah I'm with you OP. Makes me roll my eyes.

I used to do it when I was younger and I cringe at the memory popping up because a)its cringe to do it and b) because the relationship was crap lol

I have a woman on my fb who posts multiple gushing posts a month and its just a bit like, who are you trying to convince here?! I also don't get the
Jane: I love John so much!
John: no i love you
Jane: no I love you! The most
John: no! I love you the most Etc etc
you're sitting next to each other. behave yourselves ffs

l think a lot of ego massaging goes on on Facebook. It's all a bit too public and OTT for me

And l hate the way people will say how beautiful someone looks, when they clearly don't !

It’s effing excruciating 😆