Why, just why do people this

[LegendaryReady]

Couples posting lovey lovey messages to each other on their public social media.

Everything from Happy Birthday to my wonderful wife to OMG thank you so much amazing DH for the really expensive xyz.

Presumably as they have such amazing relationships and they live in the same house they can say these things easily face to face.

Is it to run others' who may not be so fortunate noses in it? Do their partners need this public validation? Do they not actually talk to each other?

Yes. Seen it. Happy birthday to my gorgeous h/w, thanks for all you do, punching above my weight...etc.

It is a bit like self validation. I often find the ones who post such messages often have marital problems (not always).

A friend of mine who is considering leaving her DH posted a happy anniversary message to DH and changed her profile picture to their wedding picture 🙄.

DH and I do this but only because we live 60 miles away from both our families and only see them - roughly - every 5 weeks or so.

I have never understood them either. .unless working away on the day or something but even then they would chat at some point.. so not just you

@LegendaryReady

For example, the one that's triggered me today is a man who's won an award at work. He posted about it, lovely I'm pleased for him and have said so. But there's also a long post from his wife about how blessed she is to have such a perfect in every way husband. Speaking directly to him and presumably typed whilst they were together in the same house.

Maybe they work different shifts & never actually see each other in person to pass on their messages? Maybe the only way they can communicate is by leaving each other gushy FB messages?

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors

This!

I'm happy to share in my friends' joy and successes. If I wasn't I wouldn't be friends with them.

There's enough shit and bad news in the world already without wasting your time being bitter about a bit of joy or pride publicly displayed between people who care for each other

An acquaintance recently posted a gushing post to her H - "G" you are the love of my life, our 5 wonderful children, 30 years of happiness.....they've been privately separated for over a year but want it kept secret (we all know!)

Pathetic, pointless and embarrassing

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors

This ⬆️

The whole point of Facebook is to be able to say what you're thinking/feeling/doing etc. I get so irritated by the judgers who seem to hate Facebook being used for it's intended purpose....but are still on there themselves. If you don't like FB then don't use it.

When couples say happy birthday to each other using Facebook my first thought is that they’ve split up! I’ve had to stop myself posting condolences

Twitter is even worse than FB. Seems to be a load of people washjng their dirty laundry in public and whinging and moaning about their colleagues at work and how hard done by they are by the world in general.

Oh dear, this is the kind of post that makes people hate MN. Karen's whinging about fuck all 🙄

Your problem is basically happy people being nice to each other??? What difference does it make to your world?! Are you that miserable that you have to neg on people that want to celebrate and shout about their loved ones?!

I dont do it, my partner and i would be mortified, but ffs - if others want to do it then let live!!

My sister and her husband do this all the time. I've now deleted them from my FB friends list because the cost of puke bags was getting out of hand 💋🤮💕🤮 🤮🛍 🤣

I think it's nice to say publicly how proud you are of your partner. I do cringe at the ones in new relationships who post stuff like this though, then a couple of months later it's for someone else 🤭

My ex never would post about me on SM and I used to get quite envious of those with husbands who did

It's the posts to dead people that really wind me up! Are they on Facebook??

Also birthday wishes to a deceased person!! Who fb could be accessed beyond the grave😂😂

**who knew!

I don’t have social media. As in Instagram or facebook. For that exact reason

I don’t feel the need to validate my love for my husband or family to everyone. I’ve even got family abroad. I kee in contact by phone. Send photos.

I don’t really care if others do it. But I don’t. Because I don’t feel the need. But hey ho.

I also hated the ‘I’m in hospital. Oh this is so bad!!!!’ Then people saying. ‘You ok hun?!?’

Then you never find out. What’s that all about?!?

I agree, it's so annoying. Also hate 'so proud of xx child for getting such an anazing school report and being such a popular clever girl/boy!' Tell them you're proud of them, chances are at primary school they're not on fb!

I don't mind people doing it, though TBH if they are too emphatic I do wonder if they're covering for something but I've seldom seen that. Most people with 'online displays of affection' save it for birthdays, anniversaries, I don't think I know anyone of the daily 'blessed' hashtag school of thought!

I never do it myself as I hope people can tell we're pretty happy anyway and I feel it can wear on others a bit, especially if they're having a hard time.

It's normally couples who's relationship is shite but they try to make out to the world its perfect.
All for show look how perfect and well suited we are when in reality all they do is argu.

I post Birthday wishes to my Dad, mainly because I want to, I've never got over him collapsing and dying right in front of me and I couldn't save him so I probably post things because I want him back but hey it's my fb page so nobody has to read it let alone chat about it on another site

@peppermintpat

It's the posts to dead people that really wind me up! Are they on Facebook??

If someone in real life said to you that today would be the birthday, anniversary or whatever of a deceased relative. Would you think, but they can’t hear you why bother saying it ? Or might you feel some empathy for their loss and acknowledge they might be struggling, or missing that person, to say that. It’s not really my thing, but that is the purpose of social media to share your news, thoughts with your 1000 closest friends on Facebook.if you don’t like it then get off it.

@Mumontour85

Oh dear, this is the kind of post that makes people hate MN. Karen's whinging about fuck all 🙄

Your problem is basically happy people being nice to each other??? What difference does it make to your world?! Are you that miserable that you have to neg on people that want to celebrate and shout about their loved ones?!

I dont do it, my partner and i would be mortified, but ffs - if others want to do it then let live!!

Women calling other women Karen's and using phrases like 'neg on people' make me hate MN.

I had to laugh though that you didn't see the irony in your post. Did you not realise you were 'negging' on the OP's post whilst criticising her for 'negging' on someone else's?