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Does anyone not know the number of men they have had sex with?

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Autumnleavesfalling · 31/08/2021 23:10

Got thinking about this after reading another thread about a boyfriend asking.

I have no idea. Is that really bad? Lots is my ballpark guess.

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Hellotoallmyfans · 31/08/2021 23:14

Me! I think it's in the 20's but I don't know the exact number - too many drunken holidays/nights out 🙈

I'm so lucky I didn't get into any bad situations.

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Autumnleavesfalling · 31/08/2021 23:15

I should have said sexual partners I guess... put men because I am straight. I had a wild phase when my marriage ended but really enjoyed myself 🤷‍♀️

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dazzlerdo · 31/08/2021 23:15

Snap! Lots of drunken nights out when I was younger.
Lots of sober too. Luckily I've never had a bad outcome!!

SanFranBear · 31/08/2021 23:16

I lost count around 50 Blush That said, I've been unintentionally celibate for the last 8 years - had a fucking blast in my 20s though!!!

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Autumnleavesfalling · 31/08/2021 23:16

If a partner asked me I wouldn't be able to hazard a guess!

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Shmithecat2 · 31/08/2021 23:16

Absolutely no idea. Didn't occur to me to keep count 🤷‍♀️

CrimeJunkie01 · 31/08/2021 23:17

I literally have no idea. I mean, it's not that many, maybe 15 if I had to guess. Far too many men I slept with to save their feelings rather than my own.

MimosaFields · 31/08/2021 23:17

No idea but I'm old enough to say "lots"

NerrSnerr · 31/08/2021 23:17

I can't remember but reckon it's similar to the Four Weddings and a Funeral quote. 'Less than Madonna, more than Princess Di'.

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Autumnleavesfalling · 31/08/2021 23:18

@NerrSnerr I love that 😂

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PermanentTemporary · 31/08/2021 23:18

I used to know exactly for all the years before going crazy in perimenopause, and I could still count it up if I wanted to I suppose, I just don't do it. Think it's 40s or so. Now feeling a bit sad it might stay around the same for a long time. It was all a bit nuts but I did love the novelty, they were interesting.

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 31/08/2021 23:19

It's been so long since I've slept with another man beside dh that I don't think could remember how many if I tried to 😂

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Autumnleavesfalling · 31/08/2021 23:20

I can't remember all the names... more interesting facts like the guy with the quiff or the guy with purple shoes. I don't regret it though, it's been very good fun and am happily single at the moment.

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ANameChangeAgain · 31/08/2021 23:22

After meeting my lovely DH at 19, mine is considerably less than Princess Di Blush
I would love to be able to shrug and reply "absolutely no idea!", but my life wasn't that interesting. Saying that, I wouldn't change a minute of it.

Theunamedcat · 31/08/2021 23:23

I would say in the last 20 years two (just dont ask about the 10 years prior)

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Autumnleavesfalling · 31/08/2021 23:23

@ANameChangeAgain that's lovely. I think it would be nice to have that shared life experience with someone and I love hearing happy stories like that.

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Sarahlou63 · 31/08/2021 23:25

Fuck no - my early 20's collided with the early 80's. STI's were unheard of, the pill was the contraception of choice and AIDS was several years away. And no social media.

Happy days.

Niffler92 · 31/08/2021 23:26

0 now women that’s a different story 😂

Palavah · 31/08/2021 23:28

@NerrSnerr

I can't remember but reckon it's similar to the Four Weddings and a Funeral quote. 'Less than Madonna, more than Princess Di'.
Quite, although now we know what we know about Princess Di...
Guineapigbridge · 31/08/2021 23:28

Yep, less than Madonna but more than Princess Di is accurate 😁

ISpyCobraKai · 31/08/2021 23:31

Nope, but in the last 15 years it's been 1, and I'm happy with that.
I had fun when I was young.

ComtesseDeSpair · 31/08/2021 23:36

I have a ballpark figure; but I couldn’t give a precise number, unless I were to consciously sit down and list them all (and even then I suspect I’d forget a handful of the less memorable ones.)

It isn’t “bad” unless you regret them, didn’t consent, or regularly put yourself at risk. Sex between consenting adults who enjoy it and take precautions is never “bad.”

Mynameismargot · 31/08/2021 23:37

No idea. I would hazard a guess that it is in the 20s somewhere but I have been with dh so long that it is all a distant memory now.

Ohhelppp · 31/08/2021 23:37

I DID know. Now I’ve forgotten! It’s only around 7 or 8 and only one was a one night stand so I could probably remember if I tried… it’s like a parallel universe though!

noblegreenk · 31/08/2021 23:38

About 20 ish. Which is good going considering I've only been single for about one year of my adult life.