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Maggiemaggie332 · 17/08/2021 22:54

I want to visit my parents every 2/3 weeks in London from Newcastle (by train) and I’m paying for my own train ticket not my partner. But my partner doesn’t agree and if I do he will refuse to rent? What do you think ?

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Givemebackmylilo · 18/08/2021 09:20

@rainbowstardrops

I wouldn't move. It would be a disaster. Stay where you are. He chose to move miles away.
To get a job, because OP can't be bothered to work
Sirzy · 18/08/2021 09:22

@rainbowstardrops

I wouldn't move. It would be a disaster. Stay where you are. He chose to move miles away.
To be fair from what has been said he moved to get a job to support his family, and he moved under the impression they would be coming too.
Hadenoughofthisbullshit · 18/08/2021 09:22

I wouldn’t move in with someone who said ‘if it doesn’t work out you can leave’ and who chose to get a job so far away after I’d had his child.

You need to work out proper child maintenance with him though and can’t expect him to pay for everything.

QforCucumber · 18/08/2021 09:22

40k isn't a lot if he's having to house, clothe and feed 3 of you.

The train from Newcastle to Kings Cross isn't cheap unless booked months and months in advance, we recently looked and it was coming in at £220 return.

Are you expecting him to pay for all bills etc while you live with him and you only pay for your London travel? If so I can very much see why he is annoyed about it.

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Maggiemaggie332 · 18/08/2021 09:23

Who said I don’t want to work ? He doesn’t want to pay for childcare ?

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Maggiemaggie332 · 18/08/2021 09:24

Yes exactly that’s literally what he did to me !

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ineedaholidaynow · 18/08/2021 09:25

You said you didn’t want to put your child into nursery until they were 2 as too young before that.

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Maggiemaggie332 · 18/08/2021 09:26

Yes I don’t want to and he doesn’t want to pay for childcare either

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Givemebackmylilo · 18/08/2021 09:26

@Maggiemaggie332

Who said I don’t want to work ? He doesn’t want to pay for childcare ?
Stop changing your story.

It's quite clear you don't want to work as you think your child is too young for nursery. You even said that yourself.

ineedaholidaynow · 18/08/2021 09:27

Do you expect him to pay for everything? Apart from the train tickets which your parents are going to pay for

Howshouldibehave · 18/08/2021 09:27

Are you expecting him to pay for all bills etc while you live with him and you only pay for your London travel? If so I can very much see why he is annoyed about it.

This.

Though to begin with you said you’re Oahu h for your travel, and now you’re saying it’s your unwell parents who will be paying?!

Howshouldibehave · 18/08/2021 09:28

Sorry-that should say that ‘you said you’re paying good for your travel’

purpledagger · 18/08/2021 09:28

If he doesn't want to pay for childcare, it doesn't sound like he's he's going to support you financially to stay at home, so you would be putting yourself in a vulnerable position of you move across the country to be with him.

You would be better off staying in London and building a life for you and your child here.

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Maggiemaggie332 · 18/08/2021 09:29

Ok. Are you feeling alright I’m not replying to your post and you keep commenting.

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Givemebackmylilo · 18/08/2021 09:29

@Maggiemaggie332

Ok. Are you feeling alright I’m not replying to your post and you keep commenting.
I mean are you alright cause you sound about 9.
ineedaholidaynow · 18/08/2021 09:30

Does he want you to live together? How old is he?

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Maggiemaggie332 · 18/08/2021 09:31

He said he will see how things are and if they are not good we will just separate. Would you be annoyed if your partner said this would at least give you some doubts

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LIZS · 18/08/2021 09:31

If he had found a job in London would you feel the same?

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Maggiemaggie332 · 18/08/2021 09:32

Doesn’t matter if I’m alright or not . I don’t want you to comment on my post is that to much to ask for ?

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ineedaholidaynow · 18/08/2021 09:33

How long have you been together?

Hadenoughofthisbullshit · 18/08/2021 09:33

I reported your post at 9am @Givemebackmylilo. Why are you calling the op names and replying rudely so often? I agree with the op, you don’t seem ok.

MyOtherProfile · 18/08/2021 09:33

It sounds like he's not really your partner, just the dad of your baby. I wouldn't move based on the relationship you've described here.

Sirzy · 18/08/2021 09:34

@Maggiemaggie332

He said he will see how things are and if they are not good we will just separate. Would you be annoyed if your partner said this would at least give you some doubts
That depends what your saying to him too surely?

Your posts are coming across very much as if you don’t want to move so if he has moved there to get a job and under the intention of setting up family with you as planned then he could easily be turning your doubts into “well we will give it a try. I am here anyway and if it doesn’t work we will sort something”

Hadenoughofthisbullshit · 18/08/2021 09:36

Op it honestly seems like the relationship is over already. Talk to him and be 100% honest. You need a formal arrangement.

blueberrywaffle · 18/08/2021 09:36

@Maggiemaggie332

He said he will see how things are and if they are not good we will just separate. Would you be annoyed if your partner said this would at least give you some doubts
I'd get doubts if I was him.... if I had a child with someone, Took up a good job position to support my family end make them better off an moved expecting my partner an child to follow to then be told she doesn't really want to move as she likes been with mummy an daddy and doesn't want to work either as the child isn't old enough until it's 2 in her opinion (if that was the case the law would be set at that but it's not unfortunately) . You don't want to work and want to stay with mummy and daddy. Just end the relationship it's pointless,
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