So I just wonder what it is that causes broodiness in some but not others.
I've wondered this too in life. I think it's a combo of nature/nurture. Nature side possibly down to hormones maybe? Or like someone said, nature's way of lowering an animal's population, so genetics?
I don't remember if I wanted kids when I was a child. I definitely was the girly type--played with barbies, baby dolls, etc. In teens never had a thought or desire for kids or a relationship. By young adult, consciously knew I never wanted kids.
The nurture part might be down to experience. For me, I had traumas starting from a baby. Also, growing up and observing parenting and how it was for my mother and other adults in my life also seriously put me off parenting. Seemed awful--for parents and kids.
Also, didn't want kids but also knew/know I'd be a terrible parentnot cuz I wouldn't do my best for the child...the opposite...I have ptsd, extreme worrier, stuff like thatso I knew I'd negatively affect a kid, like I know I'd be an extremely over-protective parent to the point of neurotic and I know that'd damage a kid psychologically. I'd feel bad if I had a kid. I know there are no perfect parents, but still.
Not having kids was also for the potential kids' sakes, for real.
Now, I have, a lot, gotten the: you are SO selfish for not having kids. Like wtf?! No, it'd be MORE selfish of me to have kids knowing I have deep psychological wounds that even now dictate my life largely, even with working on em for years. So I should just have a kid cuz society says so, knowing I'd mess up despite best efforts not to? Also when I didn't and don't have enough money to support em, would have to rely on government help? Also don't want a relationship? Also knowing in my family history are some pretty bad physical and mental dispositions cuz of genetics that I would not want to pass on?
I'm selfish for not adding more humans to an overpopulated planet, that in reality my kids would turn out some sort of psychologically messed up cuz of my own issues plus the world's? wow?!
Society expects and pushes you to have kids. It's ingrained in you from preschool or kindergarten onwards.
I've had women tell me they had kids only cuz you're supposed to. Not saying they aren't good parents.
Also have had a number of women tell me that a lot of women regret having kids and so are jealous of women who didn't have kids by choice so spout the OMG you are SO selfish bs. After I heard that I was able to let go of the guilt, cuz I did feel kinda guilty like flawed for not wanting em. Like, not my problem you had kids and regret it.
And why that attitude of it being selfish is still so prevalent nowadays, dunno, cuz with overpopulation, climate problems...umm even scientists say the best thing to do to help that, even moreso than recycling etc is to NOT have kids.
Also, I do think some it in society is expecting women to have kids cuz in their minds thats ALL women are for--kids and men, cleaning cooking. And I think there's still an underlying idea of anger and resentment cuz women are supposed to be "tied down" with kids, a husband. You aren't opting in to the societal shackles and you are making others nervous by not following societal tropes.