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I did something daring today... do you think I'll get a reply?

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aurynne · 16/08/2021 01:31

I was at the Drs. waiting room today and a gentleman came in and sat by my side. We looked briefly and smiled at each other. I thought he looked like a really nice person, not gorgeously handsome but there was something in him that made me want to know a bit more. He was well dressed and was wearing a name tag but I did not find the way to properly read it without being very obvious. I was trying to find an excuse to talk to him when I was called in to my appointment.

When I finished he was gone. I was just about to leave myself, when I stopped and thought: "What the hell, what do you have to lose?". So I asked the receptionist: "Excuse me, I'm going to be cheeky but, if I pass you a note would you be able to give it to the gentleman who was sitting by my side about 20 min ago?". She smiled at me looking amused and said that it could be arranged.

So I quickly scribbled this on the back of a receipt: "Hello, I am the lady sitting by your side at the waiting room earlier. I was wondering, would you like to go for a coffee one day? If not, I just hope this note made your day. Aurynne, 555-3453", and a smiley face.

I can't believe I did that!!! I'm 45, no spring chicken, but I am feeling quite excited. I have no idea whether the man is married, has a girlfriend, is gay or celibate, but even if I get no answer I am enjoying imagining his face when he gets the note. Which I really hope he gets. I want to know where he works, and why he was wearing a name tag. And what his name is. And most of all, whether he thought he'd like to know me too, or if it was all in my head only.

Do you think I'll get a reply?

Has anyone else done something like this? Please tell me what happened while I nervously wait for a message that may never arrive!!!

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Iloveginger · 16/08/2021 09:57

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HalzTangz · 16/08/2021 10:00

@sycamore54321

“ So you've never ever in your life been passed a note left to you buy a receptionist.

I get notes left all the time, some coffee meets (personal messages) some work related.
These notes are passed through our receptionists.”

You really can’t see the difference in your own receptionist passing you on a message and this scenario in a medical setting where there is a clear expectation of patient confidentiality?

There is no difference, a receptionist is a receptionist no matter where they work.

Confidentiality isn't broken by saying someone left this for you Sir

Sparklingbrook · 16/08/2021 10:00

People can take the thread very seriously if they want. Presumably the OP will come back and update with any news and comment on any replies saying it was not appropriate or it's all made up.

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Pebbledashery · 16/08/2021 10:03

Shamelessly place marking for the update 🤣

AlbertBridge · 16/08/2021 10:03

I just hope it wasn't the STD clinic.

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MichaelMumsnet · 16/08/2021 10:06

Hi all. We've taken a look behind the scenes and the OP has been on the site for years so we'll let this one run.
As always, if you have any concerns about a post or poster then please report rather than posting on the thread - we're always fine to take a look.

WitchBaby · 16/08/2021 10:07

imagine the receptionist was being polite and binned the note instantly given that it would likely be against company policy and possibly a firable offense.

If that was the case surely she would've refused to take the note in the first place?

thebeatingofthedrums · 16/08/2021 10:09

If the receptionist passed the note to him after he came out of his appointment, I don't see how she's shared any personal details?

It would be different if she used his personal details to contact him to pass the note on. Although, whilst we have GDPR over here, I don't know if NZ/US/Canada/wherever-that-non-UK-dummy-number-is-supposed-to-represent has similar rules.

llmk · 16/08/2021 10:11

How did I break any talk rules? I literally said the phone number format is non UK Confused

AbsolutelyPatsy · 16/08/2021 10:12

@aurynne

it has been some time since you posted, did you hear back?

Flyinggeese1 · 16/08/2021 10:13

AlbertBridge brilliant.

Bretoony · 16/08/2021 10:14

@OhWhyNot

It’s just a bit ick

If you really wanted to approach him wait outside

In a cafe or even a library maybe but a GP’s just seems off

Ugh! Switch this around and it would be ok for a creepy man to wait outside for a woman and approach as she leaves?

She'd be terrified.

AlmostSummer21 · 16/08/2021 10:19

@Lumpwoody

I have ptsd and anxiety.

If someone did this to me I would spiral. It would make me incredibly anxious altogether. Even the thought of it has me anxious.

It is so massively inappropriate to involve a doctors receptionist in something like this.

No, it's really not. Passing a bit of paper from one person to another is not inappropriate.

I'm really sorry you have anxiety & PTSD but you're projecting your issues onto something that's nothing like your situation.

You need more help than your currently getting if you are unable to close a thread that has nothing to do with you.

peridito · 16/08/2021 10:20

Another here following for the romance .Huge respect to you OP.

Please come back and update.....

OhWhyNot · 16/08/2021 10:24

It’s GP surgery it’s a place of privacy

If the op really felt compelled to do this I think waiting outside would be better yes

santaclawzz · 16/08/2021 10:26

There's no shortage of mumsnetters on here to shit on your parade, is there?

Well done OP, hope you hear back 🥰

Sparklingbrook · 16/08/2021 10:28

@santaclawzz

There's no shortage of mumsnetters on here to shit on your parade, is there?

Well done OP, hope you hear back 🥰

It's not that. When you post on MN asking a question then you will get replies and opinions-that's what it's for. Some won't be what you are wanting to hear but it's ok and I think OP has been around long enough to know that.
messybun101 · 16/08/2021 10:36

I'm actually not sure how I feel about this one...
If I was slipped a note I'd be creeped out. But then, I'd rather be slipped an unwanted note by the receptionist than a man hang around outside to talk to me
Either way, popping a reply on the thread so I get notification of possible op update Grin
FWIW I hope he does contact you

rainbowstardrops · 16/08/2021 10:38

@NautaOcts

Anyone else really wondering what he was seeing the doctor about?

Hahahaha I was thinking this too!

iheartredsquirrels · 16/08/2021 10:45

I would be really uncomfortable about being hand a note tbh let alone handing one on. The receptionist probably binned if truth be known.

ChipButties · 16/08/2021 10:45

I am female and this happened to me when I was younger!

I must have been 17/18? I was at work when the postman (who can’t have been that much older than me) handed a note to my boss for me saying he’d seen me and liked me and would I call him? Then his number. I didn’t find it creepy. I had a boyfriend so didn’t do anything about it, but it never bothered me at all. He didn’t ever ask again or stalk me or make me feel weird. He shot his shot, missed, and moved on with his life.

I don’t think every attempt at getting to know someone has to be creepy and weird. If it were me, I’d prefer to get a note rather than someone hanging about to talk to me in person as that’s more uncomfortable.

Hope you hear back OP, good luck! X

HeyGirlHeyBoy · 16/08/2021 10:47

Being handed a note - which you could immediately bin - is creepy? Confused I despair.