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Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 20/07/2021 16:56

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

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MrsTerryPratchett · 23/07/2021 01:41

Wringing not writing!

Becca19962014 · 23/07/2021 01:46

Yes I've been doing that. There have been in previous years some excellent threads on here about people who struggled with hot weather but, they'd attract abuse, and most of the time it got targetted at me. Sometimes it got removed but sometimes not and I'd get nasty PMs too. Some people just don't understand, this week there's been the weather alert and people have been laughing about it. Reality is the temperatures are life threatening for some people.

Thank you for the offer. Going to try and get some air(!) and then head to bed and read. Still well over 25c though which is triggering for my condition. I badly overslept yesterday and really struggled to get up and I'm scared of it happening again - it appears the fire alarm went off (it's a klaxon so the sleep through it is concerning), and my alarm too.

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/07/2021 01:50

I know most people don't understand. I do. I hope you get some sleep.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 23/07/2021 02:06

@MrsTerryPratchett being far away makes it all so much harder to navigate, I know. So sorry. 💐. I will give that worry a place tonight. It can cuddle to with me and behave. You try to just rest. Sleep. Let us hold it for you until you are rested.

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Bearsbearsbears40 · 23/07/2021 02:06

Hello @MrsTerryPratchett I’ll look after that one for you while you get some rest…

DidSomebodySaySiamese · 23/07/2021 02:07

@MrsTerryPratchett leave that worry with me I will take care of it tonight. I won’t try to solve it but will just sit with it for you so you can rest your mind.

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/07/2021 02:10

Thanks lovely people. This means a lot.

BalmyNights · 23/07/2021 02:15

I have a worry; a sadness that I'd like someone to mind for me please.

I had an emotionally and physically abusive childhood/adolescence. I've never been loved. No one in my adult life has ever loved me either. No one here can do anything about that but I feel it as a heavy weight in my chest that I carry around with me all the time. The weight is the fear that I will live a whole lifetime and never be loved.

It's a column of dense black matter. It weights about a kg, maybe more, and it sits in my chest. Sometimes it expands and I can feel the pressure of it in the back of my throat. It sometimes makes it hard to breathe.

I can't sleep tonight.

If someone can take it from me while I sleep, I'd be ever so grateful. Thank you

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 23/07/2021 02:24

@BalmyNights that sound awful. I'm sorry you have this burden. For tonight, pass it over here and let us carry it for you. We can hold it and give you some healing rest. Peace. Sleep. Just let it go for now. That's the way. You just rest now.

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Bearsbearsbears40 · 23/07/2021 02:26

Yes @BalmyNights can can look after that one too. I’m sorry things are difficult for you. Time for you to get some rest and I’ll look after things til the morning.

orangejuicer · 23/07/2021 05:00

@BalmyNights

I have a worry; a sadness that I'd like someone to mind for me please.

I had an emotionally and physically abusive childhood/adolescence. I've never been loved. No one in my adult life has ever loved me either. No one here can do anything about that but I feel it as a heavy weight in my chest that I carry around with me all the time. The weight is the fear that I will live a whole lifetime and never be loved.

It's a column of dense black matter. It weights about a kg, maybe more, and it sits in my chest. Sometimes it expands and I can feel the pressure of it in the back of my throat. It sometimes makes it hard to breathe.

I can't sleep tonight.

If someone can take it from me while I sleep, I'd be ever so grateful. Thank you

We will take this and get rid of it for you. Let it go. You do not need it.
BalmyNights · 23/07/2021 06:43

Wow. I've struggled sleeping so much the past few nights through the heat and this. I didn't check to see if anyone had replied once I'd sent it. But I slept quickly and peacefully so thank you.

newidentiy · 23/07/2021 10:06

Thank you all so much, this is a truly heart warming thread

I recognise some names as well who always seem so upbeat on threads, this thread shows how we all seem to have to put on a strong face but we all need a bit of hand holding sometimes

Becca your situation sounds dreadful and I recognise you from the heat threads when I thought how awful you seemed to be having it. So sad it still is. I am west midlands by solihull if you are nearby if I can collect meds or anything for you

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Becca19962014 · 23/07/2021 11:33

Already 30c again Sad

HollyGoLoudly1 · 23/07/2021 16:04

I'm ready to take some worries tonight if anyone needs. The compassion and empathy on this thread are incredible Flowers

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 23/07/2021 17:21

@RyanAirVeteran it is so good to see you here, and I've long wanted to say thank you. Your reach out when you needed it most inspired all of this. We are here - have remained here - as a resource of sorts to all of MN is because of you. Thank you. I'm eternally grateful, and hope that your health is not such a worry now. Star and Flowers

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 23/07/2021 17:22

@Becca19962014 praying and hoping for some relief for you today. It all sounds horrendous Flowers

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GenuineKlatchianPottery · 23/07/2021 22:45

I’m signing in for the night watch. Any worries can be dropped off until you are ready to collect them.
Me and the cat will take good care of them.

ABitOfAShitShow · 24/07/2021 00:53

@GenuineKlatchianPottery Dropping mine in the cat basket, if I may. Thank you.

Becca19962014 · 24/07/2021 00:54

Thankyou all for being kind.

It means so much, it's a bit cooler now. Am really dreading tomorrow. As I must get meds and food. Well today I guess now. Anyway want to leave my worries here, and hopefully actually will! Everytime I try and think about it I get so overwhelmed it's like my brain just freezes. Without any support to go through it it's just impossible. I don't even have a GP anymore.

I need SLEEP!

orangejuicer · 24/07/2021 01:03

Leave your worries here Becca, we will mind them.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 24/07/2021 01:04

I've got these worries for the rest of tonight, @Becca19962014. I'm so glad it is cooler and you can now just let us carry it all for you. For now, you just cuddle up and leave it all here. That's it. Just rest.

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Inarightpickleandpreserve · 24/07/2021 01:09

Hello, I’m sticking my waving hello hand in, I was on these threads way back when, long time ago!
I’ve not got worries that keep me up it’s menopause at the minute!
So just being able to read other chats on the thread is reassuring and also calming so thank you Flowers

CormoranStrike · 24/07/2021 01:22

We live on a nice street with lovely neighbours. There’s just been a verbal fight outside and it was all getting very heated.

It’s calmed down now, but I can’t sleep for it.

DidSomebodySaySiamese · 24/07/2021 01:28

@CormoranStrike that must have been upsetting to hear. It’s over now. Get some sleep and leave the feelings on this thread.