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Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 20/07/2021 16:56

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

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Becca19962014 · 09/09/2021 11:31

I've been unable to get access all night, wanted to come and check thread and look after worries but couldn't. Sorry folks.

AlloftheTime · 09/09/2021 22:37

@TheMamaYo holding on to some of those worries for you tonight.
Sleep well

2018SoFarSoGreat · 10/09/2021 00:22

I'm on am island with very spotty access to wifi or anything, but on the rare moment it works I am reading and minding the worries. It is so lovely, truly paradise cannot be as beautiful. The worries are awestruck so you all can just rest. You are safe here. Just let it all go. That's it. Rest now.

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Becca19962014 · 10/09/2021 01:26

@2018SoFarSoGreat Thankyou!! Exactly what I needed to read.

Hawkaye · 10/09/2021 01:30

Enjoy @2018SoFarSoGreat!

NoMoreBananas · 10/09/2021 01:47

I've literally had enough with life. I don't see the point anymore. Going through so much and it's like I'm at the point that, I'm only human and there's only so much one person can take

Hawkaye · 10/09/2021 02:01

There, there, now @NoMoreBananas. It is true we are but internet strangers but pass on some of that load.
I'll sit with your worries tonight if you don't mind? Would you like to tell us all about it in morning after a little sleep?
I'm happy to listen to you now if you prefer.

NoMoreBananas · 10/09/2021 02:46

Thankyou @Hawkaye
I haven't slept in days, I don't know whether I'm comin or going. Xxx

Hawkaye · 10/09/2021 06:52

Whatever it is, it sounds really intrusive into your life. I'm sorry.

I'm up again but I'm very tired so I can smudge the worries under a pillow for a bit longer while you rest a bit more.

If you can't sleep, just try to rest.

Becca19962014 · 12/09/2021 00:01

So, random bloke came to do toilet, refused to prove he had a negative lateral flow test (I was being pathetic apparently) and was in here over half an hour with a face mask only over his mouth (don't need to be over mouth and nose). Not only was I forced to sit in the pouring rain until I felt able to come in but it's been so hot I'm really worried about covid. Oh and he decided to replace the special handle I had so now flushing it is difficult too. Got into trouble for hoarding and "being filthy" and because of him I cannot have anyone to see me for swollen face and eye for over two weeks in case of covid.

Why are people being so dismissive. I'm in Wales and it's a legal requirement (supposedly) to wear face masks inside. But people aren't. Went out for food today and it was really really packed.

We've a really high rate of infection (highest it's ever been AND greatest number in hospital) so the hospital is closed now to everyone, emergencies now must go to South Wales - almost three hours away.

I need sleep but can't. My fears are causing PTSD attacks which are in turn triggering blood sugar problems resulting in me needing to eat more sugary foods to stop it resulting in me putting on loads of weight. I can only buy from small corner shop, can't access supermarket anymore at all, so no option for healthy eating.

To top it off a website I frequently bought from has now become inaccessible to me due to old equipment. Just a matter of time until I can access nothing at all now Sad

Hawkaye · 12/09/2021 17:13

Oh dear @Becca19962014.
Sounds like it has been rough.

It does seem like you are trying to control your environment and the people around you and the harder you try, the worse you physically make yourself.

I'm an internet stranger so unfortunately there's very little I can assess but it looks like facts are being turned into heightened anxiety. Can you get help for your anxiety locally by any chance?

It'll help overcome a lot of obstacles... and adverse reactions to life not working out the way you want... whatever you decide well be here to carry whatever you need us to take on during the night!

Becca19962014 · 12/09/2021 20:16

Only help was mindfulness and that made it much worse AND cost me my religious community, and consequently my only real life support. My (physical) conditions are completely out of control now too due to lack of medical care. I was tricked into trusting people with things I should never have discussed and that made them much worse. It would have been much better for me if people had simply been honest about was on offer instead of tricking me.

What helps one person doesn't help everyone. Doesn't matter how much "encouragement" I'm given I'll never manage steps again.

AlloftheTime · 13/09/2021 20:30

@TheMamaYo I’m just heading for an early night and hope things have eased a little for you - I have room for some worrisome thoughts if needs be.

Take care of yourself.

TheMamaYo · 13/09/2021 21:10

@AlloftheTime, I’m playing whack-a-mole with the worries today. I think I am winning. Thank you. Flowers Less than two weeks to go.

AlloftheTime · 14/09/2021 20:49

@TheMamaYo whack-a-mole made me laugh!!
I’m pinching that for sure!
Another early night for me and as I have my camping mallet at the ready do send your miles in my direction..,,,,

AlloftheTime · 15/09/2021 05:37

Moles!!

Tiaandchewy79 · 15/09/2021 21:52

Would really appreciate if someone could take my worries for the night.
I want to sleep but not until this weight has been lightened.
Son leaving for uni soon( worried about finance, him coping, me coping!); elderly mum needing more and more help, and just general feeling of nothing being in my control

Thankyou to whoever can take them for the night

2018SoFarSoGreat · 15/09/2021 22:03

Ah @Tiaandchewy79 I've got this one for you. It's such a heavy load you are carrying. The sandwich generation has a big burden, I'm sorry.

For now, you rest and leave it right here. I will hold it and care for them all until you have rested. Go on. It's OK now. Go sleep.

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Tiaandchewy79 · 15/09/2021 22:07

Thankyou so much for taking them for me; I feel more peaceful already.
Goodnight.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 15/09/2021 22:08

Sleep well!

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AlloftheTime · 15/09/2021 22:35

@2018SoFarSoGreat kind and calming words there

Becca19962014 · 15/09/2021 23:24

I lost all gp care today. It'll take momths to one again. Am terrified. They deregistered me because I complained. I've spent every minute crying and sobbing and my throat hurts, I can't speak. I'm so scared and got triggered in shop; babbling about why I have PTSD to people who I need to see tomorrow.

I don't care what you do to it. Just please take it.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 15/09/2021 23:42

Oh dear, @Becca19962014. This is so awful. I'm so sorry and sad for you.

I've got this. You go rest and let it be for now. It's OK. For now, I will hold this for you.

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Becca19962014 · 16/09/2021 01:01

Thankyou.

I'm sorry for being a burden. I then made the mistake of reading the letter and they offered me one last chance - an appointment last Monday. They didn't even send the letter to me before the appointment.

Tiaandchewy79 · 16/09/2021 19:43

I know it’s still early, but can some kind person take my worries tonight
Feel overwhelmed with small and big problems; am on my own. Thanks

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