I just got called a whale

[Millionaireinthemaking]

For context
I gave birth 6 months ago. Had 2 children in the space of 18 months. I’m 11st 5ft4 size 14...
is this really society’s version of being a “whale” now days? I’ve been trying my best to loose weight but this has really hurt me. Why do people have to be so evil

@Millionaireinthemaking

We was waiting to leave... They said “get up you whale” and it was not said in a jokey way either!

Wtaf?!

[quote frumpety]@Bellee11 the OP said this was a very close friend , now I and my close friends have said some things we shouldn't have to each other over the years, for all sorts of different reasons, it doesn't make the saying of them right, but sometimes even the loveliest of people get pissed off or stressed !
I was just trying to work out if OP's friend was a complete bitch or just human [/quote]
Crossed wires here. I haven't read all the comments above- my comment was in response to OPs first post, where she explained her current weight - that's what I meant by giving context.

That’s no friend op

Fucking rude. Ditch them. With friends like that, you don't need enemies.

You can't help what stupid people say to hurt you, but you can decide how you react.

I love this phrase "what other people think of you is none of your business." It's silly, but empowering.

Walk tall, OP. x

@ChargingBuck

it would be best long term if you weighed less/had a healthy diet for your health. think about being healthy and worry less about 'weight'. however, the extra weight after 2 children is something that you can deal with if you wish, whereas your 'friend' clearly is insensitive and cruel and that is much harder to fix. perhaps you can guide her towards counselling or therapy or a social skills class if she feels the need to be abusive or supervise your body shape.

Gordon Bennett, the irony is strong in this one.
STOP SUPERVISING OTHER PEOPLE'S BODY SHAPES, @Dogvmarmot !!!

she said she was trying to lose weight so i was trying to be helpful by saying think about health not weight.

Nasty! Can't imagine what they said behind your back. Avoid people like that.

Type " I can lose this weight (if I wish. Might not), but you will always be a mean insensitive arsehole". Press send,

haha very good

She’s a complete idiot and has lost your trust and friendship- I think she’s jealous of your new life … enjoy your children . Life’s too short to suffer fools .

A "friend" would never say that! What a total tw*t!

@Millionaireinthemaking

Very very close friend!

I'd be rethinking that statement if I were you. They are not a friend of any variety, except maybe the toxic variety. And not needed in your life.

Ditch the Bitch!!! She's no friend. X

They are not your friend.

Even if you were heavily overweight (I'm much bigger than you) it's still nasty, cruel and wrong.

Blimey OP - with friends like that; who needs enemies?!
Distance yourself from this person immediately! If they should ask why, reply; "because you are a thoughtless tw*t and an inconsiderate friend"

I’m a 14 and my ex said I look like a pig in mud when I’m in bed. Hence him being an ex

With a Friend like that you don't need enemies.
Seriously what a mean thing to say. From what you have just described, you are nowhere near a 🐳. You have not long given birth. Your so called "friend", should be told to Fuck Right Off. Next time she says that tell her that "I may be fat, but you're ugly, and I can always diet.

Vile creature ! Hold your head up and ditch the bitch!Sending you big hugs💜

Congrats OP. When people behave in such a way, they are reflecting what's going on inside them. She isn't happy with her own life and tries to bring those around her down too, as they say, misery loves company. Best way is to address it as you did but not allow it to dampen your mood.
She certainly isn't a friend and you should be wary of keeping such company. It was rude and uncalled for. Well done for the way you handled it.

Its such a shallow world now. Some cretins judge people more on how they look than how they act .
You only have to watch programmes like the Kardashians and Love Island to see that. Plus film stars and singers getting back to their pre pregnancy weight within weeks. (Having lots of money does help)
Like I said in an earlier post I wish I was a size 14. I dont want to be any thinner. Well done on having two children in such a short space of time.

Some people are bitchy and stupid and always will be. Some people put on a little weight after having children and then they gradually lose it. I know which one I would rather be.