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I just got called a whale

170 replies

Millionaireinthemaking · 12/07/2021 11:48

For context
I gave birth 6 months ago. Had 2 children in the space of 18 months. I’m 11st 5ft4 size 14...
is this really society’s version of being a “whale” now days? I’ve been trying my best to loose weight but this has really hurt me. Why do people have to be so evil

OP posts:
mumwon · 12/07/2021 15:59

Small point about her trying to make out she didn't call you a whale
Since when do whales lie around? Sounds like she was trying (& failing) to excuse what she said by rephrasing it to me -pretty obviously!
Nasty person

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 12/07/2021 17:00

Ditch the spiteful little witch. Who needs friends like that?

ILoveYouILoveYouIDo · 12/07/2021 17:17

Wow. You don't need friends like that girl. Sack them off.

Rainbowsew · 12/07/2021 17:28

I wouldn't have any more to do with her!
Wish I was still 11 stone, I'm your height!

Thing is that isn't an appropriate thing to say even in jest to a friend and her "justification" is no better and still hurtful.

Margerine78 · 13/07/2021 17:33

OP - that is disgusting, that man is a prick. I'm that weight/height and haven't just had two kids.

Was it a tiny man who called you a whale? I find skinny men tend to class any woman over a size 12 as obese, that way they convince themselves we're the big ones, not that they might be small for a man.

Peppermintpatty24 · 13/07/2021 17:45

Can't be that close a friend. How horrible, nasty and ignorant of them. Some people just really engage their brains before speaking, and if they're incapable of doing that, should just keep their mouths firmly shut!

Peppermintpatty24 · 13/07/2021 17:45

*need to

bigmumsymcgraw · 13/07/2021 17:49

I love whales......their opinion doesnt matter, bit like them

AnnieSnap · 13/07/2021 17:55

@Millionaireinthemaking

Very very close friend!
S/he’s not a friend. Get rid of her/him. A size 14/16 is actually average size in the UK. What a bitch/bastard
RickiTarr · 13/07/2021 17:56

11 stone something isn’t enough to be a dolphin. She needs her eyes checked as well as tongue cleaned. Horrible person.

Diva66 · 13/07/2021 17:58

I’m 5ft 1ins and size 16. I’d love to be 5ft 4ins and size 14! Regardless of your height and size, no friend says something like that.

Dogvmarmot · 13/07/2021 17:59

@Millionaireinthemaking

For context I gave birth 6 months ago. Had 2 children in the space of 18 months. I’m 11st 5ft4 size 14... is this really society’s version of being a “whale” now days? I’ve been trying my best to loose weight but this has really hurt me. Why do people have to be so evil
it would be best long term if you weighed less/had a healthy diet for your health. think about being healthy and worry less about 'weight'. however, the extra weight after 2 children is something that you can deal with if you wish, whereas your 'friend' clearly is insensitive and cruel and that is much harder to fix. perhaps you can guide her towards counselling or therapy or a social skills class if she feels the need to be abusive or supervise your body shape.
Julia001 · 13/07/2021 18:05

@Millionaireinthemaking

Very very close friend!
Now an ex friend I hope
bemusedmoose · 13/07/2021 18:20

That is no friend!

2 kids, middle of pandemic - that's no time to pick on weight for a start! But 14 is perfectly average.

Im a 14, 2 kids, yeah I little pudge but nothing to worry about - went to order a top and it recommended a 4xl!! That made me feel like a whale and needless to say didn't order. So to get that from a 'friend' is a stab in the heart.

You are not a whale, you are a regular woman with little time for herself since having kids. Few mums are the weight they want to be without a lot of time in the gym and always watching what they eat and frankly most of us don't have the time or inclination for that (if get time to myself which is very rare I want to spend it with my feet up and some chocolate!)

Dont give them the head space - it's a nasty comment either because they feel shit or they want to bring you down. Either way that person needs a very wide birth!

DreamTheMoors · 13/07/2021 18:30

@Millionaireinthemaking

For context I gave birth 6 months ago. Had 2 children in the space of 18 months. I’m 11st 5ft4 size 14... is this really society’s version of being a “whale” now days? I’ve been trying my best to loose weight but this has really hurt me. Why do people have to be so evil
“I can lose the weight. You’ll always be a bitch.”
AuroraSophia · 13/07/2021 18:34

Wow that is vile!!!! Also don’t you dare for one second let this sink it. That is horrendous. Your body has performed miracles and women take years to be comfortable in their new body/size/shape. Women don’t stand a chance if that’s what other women say to each other???
Please block and delete said friend and go do something that makes you feel great!!

BajanB · 13/07/2021 18:37

What a shitty thing to say. Wouldn’t have mattered what size you are it would always be a hurtful and nasty remark.

EspressoDoubleShot · 13/07/2021 18:41

That’s really ghastly. I can’t fathom why a so-called friend would be so mean to you. Obviously it’s going to hurt your feelings and it’s unwarranted to say such a thing. I’d really have to rethink the friendship based on that comment.

Bertiebiscuit · 13/07/2021 18:43

You are a size less than the British female average - which is a size 16 - so this purely about a nasty abuser - it says nothing about you, just reveals them for the pathetic sick muppet they must be - p s I am the biggest whale by this standard 😂😂😂😂🐳don't give it brain space - you are a normal average - ish woman in a world that loves to try to put us down - just don't have it

Thewinterofdiscontent · 13/07/2021 18:43

I don’t think it’s being vile or evil. It’s a telling comment and you need to consider why a friend made it.
Presumably you are close because you like each other and have stuff in common. You also know how to hurt each other.
Why did she feel the need too? Is she jealous of your kids? Fed up of you being a mum and not her drinking buddy or something rose pissing her off and she’s taking it out on you?
You are not a whale and let’s face it why would it matter if you were.

Harls1969 · 13/07/2021 18:46

No need. Why do some people think they have the right to comment on someone's weight? Not only is it fucking rude, it's none of their business! Tell her that at least you can lose weight, she'll always be a snarky bitch!

LizB62A · 13/07/2021 18:48

That's no friend...
I know it's hard but try and ignore it.... and them

Musmerian · 13/07/2021 18:49

I’m 5ft 3 and currently 11 stone and my youngest is 17 so I don’t have that excuse. While I am trying to lose weight I still feel and look attractive so your friend is being idiotic.

Tessabelle74 · 13/07/2021 18:51

I hope they are now an EX friend

CarnationCat · 13/07/2021 18:55

Wtf. They are not your friend. That is a horrible thing to say.

You don't sound overweight to me from your weight and height. Even if you were, someone calling you a whale???? Disgusting. I would never speak to them again.

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