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I just got called a whale

170 replies

Millionaireinthemaking · 12/07/2021 11:48

For context
I gave birth 6 months ago. Had 2 children in the space of 18 months. I’m 11st 5ft4 size 14...
is this really society’s version of being a “whale” now days? I’ve been trying my best to loose weight but this has really hurt me. Why do people have to be so evil

OP posts:
Longdistance · 12/07/2021 13:30

You need to ditch the bitch!

Shutupyoutart · 12/07/2021 13:34

You need new friends! Jesus Christ with friends like that who needs flipping enemies! Sorry she was so horrid op x

Mummyoflittledragon · 12/07/2021 13:40

My jaw hit the floor. Good on you for walking out !

RainbowsandSun · 12/07/2021 13:46

OP If they think it is ok to talk to you like that then I would no longer consider that person to be my friend.

That comment is just totally unacceptable. You just wouldn’t come out and say that to someone

Maggiesfarm · 12/07/2021 13:48

That is so rude.

GaspGulpScream · 12/07/2021 13:53

How rude, glad you left them
I wouldn't give it a second thought
The problem lies with them, not you
Enjoy your lovely children

Flowers500 · 12/07/2021 14:01

You mean your ex friend.

What a cow...

ScaredOfDinosaurs · 12/07/2021 14:03

JFC that person can get to fuck.

They are NOT your friend, they are a nasty piece of work. Do not tolerate this in your life, you are worth more than this.

Doublestar · 12/07/2021 14:06

This happened to my friend about 10 years ago shortly after having a baby and all I can say is that everyone thought the woman who said it - a friend of a friend who had previously been thought of as an ok person - was never asked to socialise with us again and was henceforth thought of as a nasty bitch!

Size 14 is nowhere in the realms of whale territory but that is irrelevant. Whoever said it is vile and needs ousting from your life!

Notmoresugar · 12/07/2021 14:10

MasterBeth

It's a nasty thing for a friend to say to anyone, but I can't agree that it means that your friend is no longer your friend.

Of course they're your friend. And friends should be able to talk to each other and share how hurtful what they said was to you. Don't give up on a friendship just because someone said a horrible thing. Give them a chance to apologise.

ARE YOU ACTUALLY SERIOUS MASTERBETH??

She's a bitch.
A true friend would never say that and they wouldn't even think it.
Great respect for you for walking out.

me4real · 12/07/2021 14:13

The opposite of a friend @Millionaireinthemaking , please block her on phone, internet, everything.

Far from a whale, probably a bit less than average size.

And I think you're allowed after having two LOs. I'm sure you will lose weight.

bigbaggyeyes · 12/07/2021 14:16

I think you mean ex friend

Noterook · 12/07/2021 14:16

@Millionaireinthemaking

Very very close friend!
I would say a close friend if that's how they speak to you, they sound horrendous.
Noterook · 12/07/2021 14:16

Wouldnt*

frigglerock · 12/07/2021 14:17

Time to dump that "friend"! Why subject yourself to that? You deserve better.

me4real · 12/07/2021 14:19

Don't give up on a friendship just because someone said a horrible thing

@MasterBeth FFS are you for real? If so, you're wrong. There's a difference between someone accidentally saying something a bit hurtful and verbal abuse (which is what this name calling is.)

I have a younger friend who said 'Did they have The Pill in your day?' I'm 44 Grin I said it had annoyed me, she apologised and that was that. She had just been confused by my saying we used to use condoms more than some of them, at least at the start of a relationship (which wasn't because we didn't have the pill, but because there was AIDS.)

She wasn't being deliberately verbally abusive or anything.

OP's friend was, and should be binned.

MrsKeats · 12/07/2021 14:21

I wish I was a size 14!
This is not a 'friend'

VoiceFaceArse · 12/07/2021 14:24

She should be an ex friend. What a cunt.

bringincrazyback · 12/07/2021 14:42

Ugh, this person isn't your friend OP, they're a Grade A, gold-plated, thoroughgoing bitch.

You don't even sound overweight to me, but even if you were, friends do not say these things.

georgarina · 12/07/2021 14:57

I used to have a 'friend' like this who said and did horrible things to me and other friends. Eventually I cut her loose and was so much happier.

3luckystars · 12/07/2021 14:58

Whales don’t even use sofas anyway Wink so that doesn’t make sense.

I hope you are ok.

OhNoNoNoNoNo · 12/07/2021 15:06

Ohhh, it’s an unkind thing to say but if the friend is otherwise nice and considerate then I’d wonder if it was something she would have said regardless of your size. If she is the type of person to be tackles and unkind then you have every right to be offended

Awkwardispute · 12/07/2021 15:09

That would be the last time she saw me.

I had two children 15 months apart and was teetering at just under 11 stone. I'm now pregnant again (youngest is 2) and I'll probably weigh more than that when I'm postpartum this time but still nowhere near whale territory.

What a nasty cow!

Oblomov21 · 12/07/2021 15:15

ShockAngry

ohnonotyetplease · 12/07/2021 15:39

OP, you do not need to lose weight. How dare she say that to you.
You have carried and given birth to and nourished and nurtured two children. You are worth your perfectly acceptable and healthy weight in gold. Society will tell you subtly (or via idiots who misuse the word whale) that you're worth more if you're very thin. Please ignore them. Please don't carry on with the dieting craziness.
Hugs x

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