Cf or am I being nasty.

[Gouldengirl9]

Next week 5 of us are meeting up.
We have a group chat.
I posted the time and place at the same time as one of the non drivers asked for a lift.
I live the furthest way.
She then came back and said thank you so much for picking me up.
I hadn't mentioned in my post about picking her up.
Am I being nasty in saying that I can't pick you up as it means going past the place we are going by another 2 miles.
She lives nearer to one of the other ladies but she hasn't offered.

Good grief.

Yes, I would be happy to pick her up.

just say there is a misunderstanding and a cross posting and that you won't be picking her up because it's completely out of your way

Surely that's like a 5 minute drive? Maybe say you'll pick her up but ask if the other person who lives closer can drop her home?

Cant she walk 2 miles? Takes half an hour.

@JustHereWithPopcorn

Surely that's like a 5 minute drive? Maybe say you'll pick her up but ask if the other person who lives closer can drop her home?

I wouldn't take the car me saying I would like the option of alcohol. Soz and all that.

I would do it. It's 2 miles 3/4mins 5 max?. You're not obliged to but it's not that far.

Are you stingy with petrol? Why is driving an extra 2 miles for a friend so awful?

Reply.. Sorry were you talking to me?
I'm not sure I'm taking my car. But if I do I'll let you know

Has she made a genuine mistake or is she trying to rail road your into into lift because nobody is likely to pick her up?

If genuine mistake I wouldn't cause a fuss for a 2 mild drive.

But yes 2 miles is nothing less than 5 min.

Because you have to go around a one way system and coming back I have to go back around that system.

2 miles? fgs stop being so petty and pick her up.

For the sake of 2 miles I think you are being a bit petty.

That said, I think she's being cheeky railroading you into getting a lift.

Just say that you will be drinking beforehand and see if she still wants a lift then

You could put 'oh I think is closer to you than I am, maybe they can pick you up'

I would pick her up. 2 miles is not far to go in a car but for her it would mean a taxi/public transport or not attending which isn't very fair if you are friends.

FFS just pick her up, it’s 2 miles!

Oh and I might as well add (steel pants are on) that if you choose not to drive (I'm not critical of non drivers for medical reasons) then it's up to you to determine how you get where you want to go and not assume other people will ferry you around - regardless of distance.

The cost savings of not buying/taxing/maintaining/fuelling/depreciation on/of a car are huge and more than stretch to a few taxis here are there.

I’m confused. You haven’t offered a lift and nobody else in the group has offered a lift so who is she thanking?

That would actually piss me off. If she wants a lift, then she should bloody ask nicely. I’d say sorry, I’ll be coming from X direction that night so can’t.

I'd just pick her up but then I do got out of my way for non drivers as it's hard being a non driver. Yes there is public transport but if it's anything like ours it's utterly shite.

2 miles? You are being ridiculous. I thought you were going to say 20 miles!

Why don't you just say you can drop her home but she needs someone else to give her a lift there because of the one way system?

Fucking hell. It's 2 miles.

I find it really shocking that you've even written a post about it. 😮

Because you have to go around a one way system and coming back I have to go back around that system.

It’s still just 2 miles though?

Just pick her up.