Cf or am I being nasty.

[Gouldengirl9]

Next week 5 of us are meeting up.
We have a group chat.
I posted the time and place at the same time as one of the non drivers asked for a lift.
I live the furthest way.
She then came back and said thank you so much for picking me up.
I hadn't mentioned in my post about picking her up.
Am I being nasty in saying that I can't pick you up as it means going past the place we are going by another 2 miles.
She lives nearer to one of the other ladies but she hasn't offered.

I'd do two miles to help an acquaintance or annoying family member to be honest so I'd think nothing of doing it for a friend I'm close enough to be having nights out with. It sounds like she's just cross posted with you?

Saying that, if you think someone asking friends to go two mile max (cos you said you're the furthest so I'm guessing the others are much closer) to pick them up is a cheeky fucker request then I'm gonna assume you either really don't like her or there's a drip feed coming and she's always asking for lifts 70 miles away or something.

I wouldn’t expect a friend to have to walk for 40 minutes when I could nip to pick her up in my car in 5 minutes. It’s safer for them too. I honestly don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t. She sounded very grateful so I can’t see how she’s been a CF. I’d be pissed off if a friend demanded it but sounds like a genuine misunderstanding from a cross post.

Driving round a one-way system is no big deal either 🤷‍♀️

Tbh OP, in your comments you don’t sound as if you like her very much.

It sounds like it's not far but I can understand why it's annoying that she's acting like you r already said you'd give her a lift

@WithANameLikeDaniCalifornia

All the pp saying “it’s only 2 miles, she can walk it” have probably never walked anywhere a day in their life.

Walked that quite often when I lived in a city. Or would go on my bike. It's quite nice if youre going out for a meal to work up an appetite.

@Yrevocsid

I wouldn't walk two miles where I live or expect anyone to. It's rural and PITCH BLACK when it gets dark. No pavements or street lights. Just long grass verges and hedges. Scary and dangerous AF.

It's JULY they're hardly likely to be meeting in the dark.

2 miles? yes, it would be ridiculous to put yourself out by two miles for a friend, and absolutely reasonable to take to mumsnet about it

@Gouldengirl9

Because you have to go around a one way system and coming back I have to go back around that system.

So what?

It's 2 miles. What is the real issue?

Why can't she walk? Surely if she hasn't had a car in 10 years then she must be well used to walking everywhere?

I used to walk 2 miles to work and then most days I would have a rucksack full of groceries when walking back. All throughout pregnancy. And in the dark during winter. Its really not difficult.

Everyone saying it's two miles - doesn't that mean its two miles past the destination everyone is meeting at, then two miles back, then a return journey to drop her back home? So eight miles. Which I agree isn't the longest distance in the world but if OP herself is only a few miles away from the destination then it is a bit annoying to have what would be a five minute journey from OPs house to destination turn into a half an hour one! But my main issue would be the fact she hasn't bothered to ask, if she's just assumed you will pick her up (and why you?).

Its 2 miles at the start of your post
It's 2 miles after every comment posted
It's 2 miles at the end of your post.
It's 2 miles. 2 bloody miles. Don't be so stingy.

@WithANameLikeDaniCalifornia

All the pp saying “it’s only 2 miles, she can walk it” have probably never walked anywhere a day in their life.

Or are completely able bodied