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Cf or am I being nasty.

86 replies

Gouldengirl9 · 07/07/2021 21:46

Next week 5 of us are meeting up.
We have a group chat.
I posted the time and place at the same time as one of the non drivers asked for a lift.
I live the furthest way.
She then came back and said thank you so much for picking me up.
I hadn't mentioned in my post about picking her up.
Am I being nasty in saying that I can't pick you up as it means going past the place we are going by another 2 miles.
She lives nearer to one of the other ladies but she hasn't offered.

OP posts:
Gouldengirl9 · 07/07/2021 22:10

She doesn't drive because she was banned for drink driving about 10 years ago and decided that she wouldn't get a car again.

OP posts:
Ohshittt · 07/07/2021 22:10

Well if the 'for the sake of 2 miles' applies to OP can it not apply to the friend as well? Surely she can get herself 2 miles without putting someone else out?

Howshouldibehave · 07/07/2021 22:12

It doesn’t matter if it’s 2 miles or 20 miles-I’d do it for a friend who bothered to ask me properly.

She has not.

I honestly don’t have one friend who I can imagine saying that. My friends are not CF though.

MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 07/07/2021 22:15

She honestly can’t walk two miles? It would take me about twenty minutes. Is it two miles of motorway or something?

WithANameLikeDaniCalifornia · 07/07/2021 22:18

All the pp saying “it’s only 2 miles, she can walk it” have probably never walked anywhere a day in their life.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 07/07/2021 22:21

Tell her you're not driving as you want to be able to drink. I wouldn't drive for this reason if having a meet up.

vipersputpaidtomylastusername · 07/07/2021 22:22

Why are you choosing to spending time / go out with someone you're not prepared to go 2 miles out of your way for??! Wow.

thedancingbear · 07/07/2021 22:24

petty as anything.

Workinghardeveryday · 07/07/2021 22:26

It’s your mate. It’s 2 miles!!! .....???!?

CarnationCat · 07/07/2021 22:26

FFS. Pick her up. I don't think I would want you as a friend if you treat people like this.

CarnationCat · 07/07/2021 22:27

I would drive 10,000 miles for my friends.

Yrevocsid · 07/07/2021 22:29

I wouldn't walk two miles where I live or expect anyone to. It's rural and PITCH BLACK when it gets dark. No pavements or street lights. Just long grass verges and hedges. Scary and dangerous AF.

gamerchick · 07/07/2021 22:32

@WithANameLikeDaniCalifornia

All the pp saying “it’s only 2 miles, she can walk it” have probably never walked anywhere a day in their life.
Yeah and those saying just pick her up navigating a one way system are either none drivers or complete CFs themselves

It IS only 2 miles. It's bugger all in walking terms

gamerchick · 07/07/2021 22:33

@osbertthesyrianhamster

Tell her you're not driving as you want to be able to drink. I wouldn't drive for this reason if having a meet up.
Me neither. Taking the car is a right PITA for social stuff
Meggymoo777 · 07/07/2021 22:34

2 miles 🤣 Jesus Christ... if this is what constitutes a CF in your book then you're very lucky!

thisplaceisweird · 07/07/2021 22:36

2 miles?? Come on OP. I can't imagine begrudging my friends a tiny favour like thia

Foghead · 07/07/2021 22:37

Reply to her saying ‘as friend lives closer, ask her. But if she can’t, then I can’

Meggymoo777 · 07/07/2021 22:38

But seriously... if you're not planning to drive anyway, just tell her that! I'm sure she can grab a cab. Honestly can't believe you started a thread over this

Cheeseandlobster · 07/07/2021 22:41

Is it worth all this angst for 2 miles?

caughtinanet · 07/07/2021 22:47

@MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig

She honestly can’t walk two miles? It would take me about twenty minutes. Is it two miles of motorway or something?
2 miles in 20 minutes, wont you be on your way to the Olympic speed walking event by then Grin
beigebrownblue · 07/07/2021 22:57

She can get a taxi.

Not your business.

What IS this thread about?

FlatteredFool · 07/07/2021 22:57

Good grief. Make sure you charge her petrol money OP. What a CF.

Some friend you are. You sound just like my sister who charged my mum petrol money to collect her from hospital a total round trip of about 10 miles. And are wonders why I have no time for her Hmm

redandwhite1 · 07/07/2021 22:59

Why don't you get her but some one else take her home?

Nextchapterofmybook · 07/07/2021 23:00

2 miles?! LTB

MolyHolyGuacamole · 07/07/2021 23:01

@Gouldengirl9

Because you have to go around a one way system and coming back I have to go back around that system.
So?