What has someone done to make you see then in a different light

[NeedyNora]

General chat post. Curious.

Mum/teacher I knew and didn't much care for. There was something odd about her family. I got the impression she didn't like DS. She seemed unfriendly.

Saw her donating blood while I was waiting for DD to finish giving blood. Had to stop being so judgy.

@Ratonastick

As an antidote to the hideous animal cruelty stories. I used to work for a very senior woman in a very tough industry. To paint a picture, she was hard as nails, took zero shit from anyone, well respected and earned a lot of money (as in high 6 figures). She could have had the most pedigree cats on earth but instead had rescue cats that were all basically knackered. Three legs, one eye, missing tail, elderly, you name it. She always said that she went straight for those because other people didn’t want them and she wanted to make sure they had a nice home because they had clearly had a tough life. To say these cats landed on their paws would be an understatement! It always struck me as out of character, but I now think it was probably a reflection of her true character.

I've seen similar stuff to this before, and it's lovely isn't it. I have a theory that it's sometimes people who have gone through very hard times, and rescue/help the underdogs as a way of levelling things up in the world. Kind of like the wounded-healer idea. Good that such people exist.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants. Isn’t it? She was always so elegantly dressed and lived in a beautiful house, the sort of person you would expect to have a pair of Siamese to match the decor. Instead those battered and unwanted rescue cats had the run of the house and garden and lived in the lap of luxury with everything their little furry heart’s desired. She adored and doted on them all and definitely rebalanced the universe a little bit.

My opinion of my DF changed when he had an affair with a work colleague when I was 13.

I sat up with my DM at night while she cried and helped her look after my siblings, and then three weeks later the arsehole came home.

I’ve never forgiven him, DM is no longer with us and I’m nearly 50 and I know it’s unhealthy to hold resentment for so long, but I will have my day with him one day!

Has he EVER acknowledged that that must have been painful?
My parents really hurt me, in the past. But it's not the past that hurts so much as that they just won't acknowledge it, won't take responsibility for having hurt me. Won't promise never to make jokes about it again.

@PearlNextDoor He’s never, ever spoken about it. Two of my siblings don’t know anything about it, and the other just shrugs their shoulders at it.

DM & I used to talk about it a lot, she’d talk about how he apologised over and over, told her every day how much he regretted it.

But he never apologised to me, never even acknowledged all the upset it caused to his two eldest children and I cannot imagine doing that to my DC without even acknowledging how it affected them.

@Barbourella nope definitely two twats then. It was my ex-best friend.

Twice I’ve felt sorry for colleagues who have for one reason or another found themselves homeless. And twice I’ve been utterly appalled at their bathroom habits!!! Both women.

@Winterjoy

Friend of 30 years had an affair with a married man. Got all the usual 'you don't understand' 'It's different for us' 'We're in love' blah blah blah. No, just no. Witnessing lie upon lie so easily roll off the tongue of someone I had considered to be an honest person was astonishing.

And this was after previously tearing into friend's husband who had cheated. So a hypocrite to boot.

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My Mum. I had a very turbulent relationship with her when I was growing up. She had an affair when I was 14 and I never really forgave her, and it gave me the excuse I needed to be vile to her. We never really spoke much and I left home at 17. I got into an abusive relationship (didn't tell anyone), but when I told her I was getting a divorce at 27, she was amazing, really supportive and it would have been a horrendous time without her. It really was the making of our relationship at that point.

@ChiefAdjusterOfRubensShorts

My opinion of my DF changed when he had an affair with a work colleague when I was 13.

I sat up with my DM at night while she cried and helped her look after my siblings, and then three weeks later the arsehole came home.

I’ve never forgiven him, DM is no longer with us and I’m nearly 50 and I know it’s unhealthy to hold resentment for so long, but I will have my day with him one day!

why are you waiting?

Several people who are suddenly pushing the radical trans anti - women agenda - doesn't sit well with me

I spotted the neighborhood "mean old man" sitting in his backyard, holding a tiny kitten and crying. Dogs had killed mama and siblings. Kitten was maybe a week old. I got him set up with a bottle and Kitten Milk Replacer, showed him how to feed and help the kitten potty. I've not spent hours with him, and he is a wonderful, kind soul who just never knew how to reach out to others. And the kitten, Lucky, is thriving. Our Mean Old Man has turned into Mr. Nice, and is now a favorite of everyone.

"now," not "not." How come my best proof-reading happens AFTER I hit "post reply"?

Chances are she’s buying her designer clothes on BNPL? It’s silly, regardless.

Voted for trump. Also thought the January insurrectionists were far less of an issue than people taking the knee.

Amazing !
This is eft it’s important to not inherit enemies. I’ll never understand the “ X doesn’t like you, so I must not like you either “ mindset.

Huh? Cos THEY got rid of THEIR dog which was THEIR responsibility? Would you rather they kept it & not cats for it ?

Friend told me that the regular trips her and her husband took to Paris were to visit sex clubs. She had sex with complete strangers whilst her husband watched and pleasured himself. If you were to meet them, never ever in a million years would you think they would do that. Both heading towards retirement, not particularly sociable at home.

People who you thought were friends can’t be bothered to make a bit of an effort for you 😡

Mate is currently NC with her mother, who I know well.

I just can't get past the utter nastiness of this.

A man I worked with got into drunken fight one night and tore the muscles in his arm and shoulder. Coincidentally he had a slight bump in his car earlier on that day, so the next morning he went to a & e, told them it had happened because of his car accident and claimed 1000's in compensation.

@Paddingtonitspaddingtonbear, was your mother by any chance in the “troof”?

Sadly, my uncle (who is more like a big brother). Have seen him pushing memes on SM laughing at trans people. His step child and my eldest child are both trans. It grinds my effing gears and it has dented how I see him very much.

Mum of DS'S friend once blamed the overflowing bin at the park on 'the Jews who live around here'.

We were outside of the school. We weren't at the park. There was no-one discernably Jewish in sight. So Wtaf??