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My husband died suddenly today

478 replies

vickibee · 06/07/2021 01:57

And I don’t know what to do. It has not sunk in yet and I only know it happened at work around noon.
I don’t know if there is anyone up to talk to I just feel I need some human contact

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TableFlowerss · 06/07/2021 09:26

I’m so sorry for you OP. You must be absolute shock. I hope someone could point you in the right direction. You take care xxxx

RampantIvy · 06/07/2021 09:28

So sorry to read this. To echo what everyone else has said, it is OK for both of you to feel not OK Flowers

WitchDancer · 06/07/2021 09:29

I'm so sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace

When my dad died the coroner was involved, which will be the case for your husband. They issued an interim death certificate so we could sort out his affairs. They were very helpful and good about explaining what was going to happen, as were the funeral directors, so don't worry about asking them any questions you have.

KurtWilde · 06/07/2021 09:36

Good morning vicki, you must be shattered with so little sleep. I'm sending you and your son strength to get through this first day.

PraiseTheSunshine · 06/07/2021 09:36

I'm so sorry for your loss op. I can't imagine what you must be going through. Offering you a handhold Flowers

olderthanilookapparently · 06/07/2021 09:38

So sorry for you loss from what I can see "No cap on the number of people at a funeral - numbers will be determined by the size of the venue." so hopefully you should be able to have friends to help you celebrate your DH life.

Thinking of you x

user1471466920 · 06/07/2021 09:54

So very sorry for your loss

Dohrehmee · 06/07/2021 09:56

So sorry for your loss. I’m weeping for you . It’s not fair

Paddingtonitspaddingtonbear · 06/07/2021 10:00

Huge hugs. I am so sorry about your lovely husband. Please look after yourself and Son. Don't be afraid to ask for help/support. Flowers

BestofLuck · 06/07/2021 10:07

I’m so sorry to hear this Vicki. I’m so sorry for you and your son. Keep talking, keep going.xx

Honeypickle · 06/07/2021 10:10

I’m so sad and sorry for your loss. And for your poor son. I hope you can take comfort in knowing your DH knew he was loved by you both x

annacondom · 06/07/2021 10:11

I'm very sorry to hear this awful news. I think you'll find that banks, funeral directors, solicitors etc will go out of their way to be kind and helpful. There is a govt initiative whereby once you've got the death cert, you put the details into a govt page and it informs tax office, passport, etc so simplifies it all, when that time comes. The funeral people will tell you about it. Sending you strength and best wishes. Flowers

NormaSnorks · 06/07/2021 10:15

So sorry to hear this @vickibee Flowers

There will be lots of practical stuff to sort out in the coming weeks and there are lots of useful links already shared.

I don't know if anyone has mentioned this already, but if he died at work then you may be able to claim/access 'Death in Service' benefits. Sometimes these include lump sum payments, counselling for family etc. You will need to ask his employer and or any trade union he was part of.

Iwant2move · 06/07/2021 10:18

@vickibee
I'm so very very sorry.
I too lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly three and a half years ago.
I am so very sorry. I wish I could come and hug you while you scream, sob, rant. It is truly awful.

Diva66 · 06/07/2021 10:21

How awful for you and your son. So sorry for your loss x

FoolsAssassin · 06/07/2021 10:25

I am so sorry for your loss 💐

isobel79 · 06/07/2021 10:26

I am sorry to hear of your loss. How very sad 😔 I hope you find comfort in family and friends.

Inthesameboatatmo · 06/07/2021 10:26

Gosh what a shock for you lovely.
I'm so sorry to hear this and I will be think of you and your son.Flowers

InterstellarOverdrive · 06/07/2021 10:35

I'm so sorry for your loss. What an awful way to find out such sad news. I have experienced the sudden death of a friend recently and it felt like someone was sitting on my chest for days. My insides literally ached. We carry on though, for our children.

When the time is right for you, it is worth being persistent with CAMHS. My ASD daughter was initially refused CAMHS help but eventually was referred to a paediatric psychologist who diagnosed her with ASD and she has had more help since with workshops and counselling sessions.

It must be so hard to process everything now so try not to think too much, just take one step at a time and take each day as it comes. Flowers

Usual2usual · 06/07/2021 10:38

I am so, so sorry.

Abhannmor · 06/07/2021 10:42

I'm very sorry for you loss. What a horrible shock for you both. Thinking of you .Flowers

AgathaMystery · 06/07/2021 10:43

I'm so sorry about your husband Vickie

TakeMe2Insanity · 06/07/2021 10:45

I’m so sorry for your loss 💐

wakinguptosunshine · 06/07/2021 10:46

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Yondergoat · 06/07/2021 10:58

Echoing others to say I am sorry you are going through this. Others have already linked to Cruse; they really helped my ASD DS when my DF died suddenly.