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My husband died suddenly today

478 replies

vickibee · 06/07/2021 01:57

And I don’t know what to do. It has not sunk in yet and I only know it happened at work around noon.
I don’t know if there is anyone up to talk to I just feel I need some human contact

OP posts:
Puppiesarethebest · 06/07/2021 11:03

Dear Vickibee, I want you to know that I am thinking about you in your sorrow and bewilderment. I feel for you. I am sending you a hand hold and a hug. x

loveliesbleeding1 · 06/07/2021 11:05

Hope you have managed some sleep, I am so sorry this has happened,your Husband sounds like a good man ❤️

ememem84 · 06/07/2021 11:09

@vickibee

Yes my sister was here all afternoon, illegally as she was contracted by track and trace to self isolate. My mum is 86 so can’t really help much. My friends also came to help. I have the worst headache Our son has he asd and I am so worried this is really going to affect him
your sister did the right thing. i'd have done exactly the same for my sister.

sending kind thoughts your way. xx

BronteGirl · 06/07/2021 11:21

Hello - you said you met in a bar in Halifax and I don't know if you live in this area now but I am very local if you do and would be willing to help in any way I can.

bringincrazyback · 06/07/2021 11:22

That's awful, I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine.

ChristinaXYZ · 06/07/2021 11:24

So sorry Vicki. Thinking of your and your son. Flowers

VeryLongBeeeeep · 06/07/2021 11:26

I'm so very sorry Vicki. Sending much love and strength to you and your son Flowers

SingingSands · 06/07/2021 11:30

I'm so sorry darling, what a shockThanks

He sounds like a great man, who showed his love in a million practical ways by looking after his family and creating beautiful things. Whether that be roast dinners, a new shower room, a beautiful garden... they are gifts of love. I'm so sorry that he is not here to enjoy them with you.

Toasty280 · 06/07/2021 11:36

So sorry x

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/07/2021 11:41

I am so sorry to hear this - sending you love and prayers. Thanks

spiderlight · 06/07/2021 11:43

I just wanted to say how very sorry I am - what an awful shock. Flowers

1WayOrAnother2 · 06/07/2021 12:03

So sorry to hear this - it must be such a shock and you have so much to deal with right now.

Remember that if you need to talk and cry freely to someone (and not to have to worry about adding to their grief on your behalf), you can ring the Samaritans. (They are open in the day as well as through the night and you are always welcome.)

You sound to have a wonderful marriage and be surrounded by the evidence of your love for each other. As for the disagreements- don't let your mind torture you about them -no doubt they are all part of that loving relationship.

LittleDoritt · 06/07/2021 12:07

I'm so sad for you and your lovely son. Thinking of you both.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 06/07/2021 12:12

I’m so terribly sorry. 💐🙏

CookieClub · 06/07/2021 12:30

So sorry for your loss. Sending lots of love to you and your Son x

WatermelonKisses · 06/07/2021 12:36

So so sorry for your loss. How heartbreaking for you and your son.

3Britnee · 06/07/2021 12:36

💐 I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Americam · 06/07/2021 12:41

I’m really sorry to hear about this @vickibee, I’ve been through the same four years back now.

Accept all help offered, don’t try to do too much, get by minute by minute not hour by hour. If you don’t want to see people feel free to say so. If you don’t want to eat just yet, don’t force yourself.

Wishing you and your son lots of strength and hope for the future. Pm me if you like Flowers

Frownette · 06/07/2021 12:55

I'm sorry, what a horrible thing to happen Flowers

Just one foot in front of the other for now

JustDanceAddict · 06/07/2021 13:15

Really sorry. My dad died from a heart attack when I was a teen. Was such a shock even though our relationship wasn’t great. My mum coped quite well once the initial nightmare was over (they were both late 50s) and had a different sort of life afterwards I suppose.
Now you need emotional and practical support.

SirenSays · 06/07/2021 13:20

I'm so sorry for your loss 💐Sending you love and strength 💐

Chocolatehamper · 06/07/2021 13:28

So very sorry for your loss, he sounds like he was a wonderful man and loved you and your son very much.

My son is also ASD, I've always found it easier to be totally straight with him. It feels a little uncomfortable to be so blunt sometimes but that's how he processes things best. As others have said, let him lead you - he will let you know how much he can or can't cope with.

Again, with there being no will, everything will automatically come to you but please do now sort out a will for yourself so that your son is taken care of should the unthinkable happen. Would your sister be willing to be named as his carer should you ever not be around for him?

Be kind to yourself, don't worry what other people think, this is your time to work through for you and your son. Sending huge hugs to you both xx

Seeyouontheflipside · 06/07/2021 13:28

I have no other words apart from I am so sorry Flowers

shanks313 · 06/07/2021 13:32

So sorry to hear about your loss..your husband sounds like a great man
I have been where you are
My DH passed away suddenly from a massive pulmonary embolism 3 years ago.
He went to work and never came home ..we find it one of the worst parts that we never got to say goodbye .
I have 2 DC .. my eldest has ADHD ..the youngest took it really hard and still gets very upset ..my eldest doesn5 seem to think about it much .
We didn’t have wills either ..I received death in service benefit ..his pension and bereavement support payment for 18 months .I had to get probate to receive some of it .
I know it’s hard right now but you will get by ..you do it for your children .
We have done so much ..what my DH would have liked for us to do and we keep his memory alive all the time
If you want to talk .,feel free to PM me x

theSunday · 06/07/2021 13:44

I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband sounds like a great man, husband and father. You must be so proud of him. We are all here for you.

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