@vickibee
Yes everyone has been amazing. I didn't realise what good friends I had xx
So the coroner has released him back into or care. The cause of death was calcification of the arteries😕😕so the funeral is going to be 21 July. I am trying to pluck up the courage to go see him in the Chapel of rest. I think I'd regret it if I didn't.
I'm glad you have lots of support, that's good to hear.
Re. the chapel of rest - I've seen 2 grandparents in similar, and it DID help, bizarrely. Mostly to realise that what makes them them (whether you call it soul, spirit, or whatever) is no longer there. You are just looking at the "clay" that remains - and to be honest, they do look rather like waxworks of themselves. What I, personally, couldn't do was touch them (although I did cut a lock of my Nan's hair off).
I didn't go to see my Mum in the Chapel of Rest because we'd been with her in ICU when she died, and I'd seen her after they cleaned her up and took all the tubes out then. Didn't need to do it again after that.
Take someone with you - even if they don't want to come into the room with you, take them anyway, just for support. I found it useful to be able to say some things that I hadn't been able to when they were still alive, despite knowing they weren't actually "there", iyswim.
Actually, just realised that today is the 14th anniversary of my Mum's funeral - ha.
The anger is absolutely normal, and is part of the stages of grieving - but what isn't always explained is that the stages aren't linear, you can move between them all, all the time. And in fact, the whole premise of the 5 stages of grieving has been criticised - but it can still provide a useful framework initially. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_stages_of_grief
((((hugs)))) to you - I hope the support continues after the funeral, as this can often be the "falling away" point for many. Make sure you ask for whatever you need. 