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My husband died suddenly today

478 replies

vickibee · 06/07/2021 01:57

And I don’t know what to do. It has not sunk in yet and I only know it happened at work around noon.
I don’t know if there is anyone up to talk to I just feel I need some human contact

OP posts:
EKGEMS · 06/07/2021 13:49

@vickibee I am so sorry to read of your loss. My BIL died suddenly in his late 30s leaving our SIL and two nephews. Lean on your friends and family and don't hesitate to ask for help

notsusan · 06/07/2021 14:06

so very sorry to hear. sending love and strength x

uncomfortablydumb53 · 06/07/2021 14:12

I'm so very sorry for your sudden loss Sending love to you and your DS
I'll be thinking of you bothThanks

momtoboys · 06/07/2021 14:35

I am so dreadfully sorry.

Thoughtcontagion · 06/07/2021 14:36

So sorry Flowers

Rachie1973 · 06/07/2021 15:07

I’m so sorry for your loss Vickibee xxx

spagbog5 · 06/07/2021 15:12

I'm so very sorry
Thinking of you

Blondeshavemorefun · 06/07/2021 15:30

I’m so sorry for your loss 💐

It’s awful. Your whole world is shattered and heart breaks

Dh died 10yrs ago. Seems forever ago but no time at all

I found way fab in early years. Widowed and young

I didn’t have children but winstons wish are very good

Please lean on your family and friends

And yes after 19th you can have who you want at funeral

My dh was packed, standing room only and spilled outside

Big hugs and if you want to chat do message me

Sadly no one knows how you feel till happens to them , which we don’t want obv

sage46 · 06/07/2021 15:31

No words of advice, didn't want to read and run though. So sorry for your loss and praying that You and your son find the strength and love you need. Certainly puts my silly worries into perspective. Take care x

10milewalk · 06/07/2021 15:35

I'm so sorry to hear the sad news about your husband, what a horrible shock for you. Flowers

OnIlkelyMoorBahtat · 06/07/2021 15:59

I'm so sorry for your loss. You husband sounds a lovely man x

marigoldflower · 06/07/2021 16:09

So sorry OP Flowers

Tupperwarelid · 06/07/2021 16:18

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you and your son love x

CharityDingle · 06/07/2021 16:22

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please do reach out to people in real life, and accept any help that is offered. Take care.

Cloverleaf20 · 06/07/2021 16:23

Oh this is very sad 😢 what an awful shock.

Skybluepinkgiraffe · 06/07/2021 16:24

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

shinynewapple21 · 06/07/2021 16:26

I'm really sorry to hear this Vickibee. My thoughts are with you and your son Thanks I'm glad that you have some support around you from your sister .

SheRasBra · 06/07/2021 16:51

So sorry. How devastating for you both. Try to take things one day at a time and not to allow yourself to worry about the future. Glad you have your sister with you.

RoSEbuds6 · 06/07/2021 17:05

Dear OP, what a terrible shock. It's not the same, but my dad died earlier in the year, and the only way my mum got through it was really just to keep going, one step after the next. It's all you can do really, just keep breathing, going to bed, getting up, sort out the admin. She has found a lot of comfort in gardening in my dad's plot, working in the soil that he enriched year after year, and eating the produce. It's too soon to think of that now of course, but it's a nice way to enjoy little victories, and to actually get out amongst nature. It anchors you in a way.
Reading your posts your DH sounds like a wonderful man, who worked hard for his family, and made the best of his life from a shaky start. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you, and hope you will come back to this thread and let us know how you are doing in this nightmarish surreal time.
We are all here for you xxx

Everhopeful1 · 06/07/2021 17:23

I have just been through this in May, my son giving cpr as I just froze. It is all a bit unreal at first. The days are a blur. When people ask if they can help, they really mean it, even if it's something small you want done - then let them. (I began to obsess about who would mow our lawn, a way of blocking out the bigger picture)
The mind numbing pain has to be lived through, I wish you and your family all the best & my thoughts are with you. xx
oh and I know it is so upsetting, but keep talking to your son about Dad, it is so important for youngsters to know their Dad is not forgotten. xx

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 06/07/2021 17:44

So sorry for your loss Vicki, it must be heartbreaking. Its great that you have your sister there. You must still be in shock, try not to worry too much about the future, just take it moment by moment, step by step any way you can. It will be tough but your son will be OK, he has had loving parents and a loving family.
I do understand about hearing unexpected things over the phone. It must be hard to take in. But there's never an easy way to hear news like that.
I hope you get as much help as possible for you and your son

xsquared · 06/07/2021 17:48

So sorry for your loss Vicki. Flowers

coodawoodashooda · 06/07/2021 17:49

I am so, so sorry.

ClawedButler · 06/07/2021 18:06

Just wanted to chime in that there are loads of us following your thread and wishing you strength and comfort.

You don't have to do, or decide anything at this stage. If you have to live minute to minute, or even just breath to breath, just do that. x x

Holothane · 06/07/2021 18:09

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