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Is it rude to do this when invited for dinner?

624 replies

yummytum · 01/07/2021 18:47

I often bring my own bottle of fizzy drink when going to someone else's house for dinner.

There's been a few situations over the years where I just don't know the host enough to know if they'll have a fizzy.

Anyway, I'm off to MIL's for a dinner tomorrow night and H questioned me in the car, saying 'Oh you're not bringing a bottle of drink are you? People must feel really uncomfortable'.

I said I am! It's what I like to have with my food. He just looked very Hmm

Am I really rude to do this? Is it some unspoken etiquette? If it helps, I don't announce it's for sharing but I do always say 'Got this with me, you're welcome to some' to the person standing by whilst I put it in the fridge

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NigellaSeed · 02/07/2021 17:41

Id be pretty embarrassed if I were the host and all I had for the non drinker was water. At a dinner party! That's BU.

To all your wine drinkers who thinks the OP has no manners, I can only imagine the AIBU if you went to a friend's for a meal and there was no wine, only water, and you weren't allowed to bring wine.

VerticalHorizon · 02/07/2021 17:42

@JennieLee

Congratulations on your transition Vertical! Brave and stunning.
Let's hope there's no anaphylaxis
VerticalHorizon · 02/07/2021 17:44

I was under the impression that in some circles, Vodka and Coke WAS a meal?

It would appear I have been under this misapprehension for some time!

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1940s · 02/07/2021 17:44

@AbsolutelyPatsy

seems childish and pernickity
I agree. It wouldn't offend me but I'd think it was very childish
NovemberRain2 · 02/07/2021 17:44

@NigellaSeed

Id be pretty embarrassed if I were the host and all I had for the non drinker was water. At a dinner party! That's BU.

To all your wine drinkers who thinks the OP has no manners, I can only imagine the AIBU if you went to a friend's for a meal and there was no wine, only water, and you weren't allowed to bring wine.

I personally have an array of soft drinks but if the OP didn't like any of them then why wouldn't water be ok?

I guess if OP is going to a dinner party where the hosts have form for not having any soft drinks and she doesn't like water, then it does make sense to take her own fizzy drink.

NovemberRain2 · 02/07/2021 17:45

Yes agree with this.

VerticalHorizon · 02/07/2021 17:45

*Pernickety - just for the irony!

NovemberRain2 · 02/07/2021 17:46

@NovemberRain2

Yes agree with this.
Sorry, meant I agree with 1940s
HyggeTygge · 02/07/2021 17:47

[quote MargosKaftan]@Crockof - I would also think it odd that someone had a drink like vodka and coke with a meal. Wine and beer are pretty much the only alcoholic drinks that "go" with a meal.

But then its not as odd as the people who have a cup of tea with a meal other than breakfast or a sandwich... [/quote]
I don't sip tea with my meal, but I do make a cup as I'm serving up so it's ready to drink as soon as I've finished my food!

JennieLee · 02/07/2021 17:48

Thanks Vertical I'll get a crate - no make that two - of vodka. And six crates of fizzy.

What a dinner party it will be!

VerticalHorizon · 02/07/2021 17:50

@JennieLee

Thanks Vertical I'll get a crate - no make that two - of vodka. And six crates of fizzy.

What a dinner party it will be!

A night to remember (that we won't!)
BiscuitsNoMore · 02/07/2021 17:52

It's fine!

NigellaSeed · 02/07/2021 18:00

Well, if it were me I'd be happy with any soft drink, i don't need a specific drink i just want something abit nicer then water from the tap. My comment was more aimed at hosts that don't offer soft drinks

NigellaSeed · 02/07/2021 18:01

In Scotland Fizzy drinks are called "juice"

And they call squash "diluting juice"

Just want to stir up some more bingo for @Crockof ;)

VerticalHorizon · 02/07/2021 18:07

In Scotland, food is merely a facilitator to enable increased consumption of alcohol!

Ivy48 · 02/07/2021 18:07

I do this but only with family as I know they don’t mind and do the same. If I’m a guest at a friends house I’d have whatever’s offered, they usually do have fizzy soft drinks though. However if friends say bring a bottle of whatever you’d like I take my own. I always take enough to share too

VerticalHorizon · 02/07/2021 18:08

I do of course, speak in jest. I'd like to hope that's known!

JennieLee · 02/07/2021 18:28

If it's a Scots dinner party, can we have tablet and Irn Bru?

JennieLee · 02/07/2021 18:29

If anyone doesn't like tablet, I'll pop a box of Mars Bars in the deep fryer.

VerticalHorizon · 02/07/2021 18:40

@JennieLee

If anyone doesn't like tablet, I'll pop a box of Mars Bars in the deep fryer.
Admit it, you're actually starting to like the sound of these uncouth gatherings!
MaBroon21 · 02/07/2021 20:13

@NigellaSeed

In Scotland Fizzy drinks are called "juice"

And they call squash "diluting juice"

Just want to stir up some more bingo for @Crockof ;)

Where I’m from in Scotland fizz’s drinks are called lemonade as in plain, orange, strawberry ……..

(Diluting) Juice is called squash or juice

VerticalHorizon · 02/07/2021 20:14

And this is why Scotland will never be united! ;-)

SmackMyAssnCallMeJudy · 02/07/2021 20:43

So what actually is the fizzy drink you bring with you @yummytum?

VerticalHorizon · 02/07/2021 20:50

lololol @SmackMyAssnCallMeJudy. 10/10 for a name!

NigellaSeed · 02/07/2021 21:16

I hope it's cherryaid. I feel like cherryaid is even worse for the fizzy haters