Rude comments from friends

[Battyieoa]

Just wanted to feel I’m not alone

An old friend came to my new home, walked through the door, stopped and said ‘bit small isn’t it?’

No, she wasn’t joking. It was a reasonably pricey house that id worked VERY hard for. She was being a bitch.

Anyone else?!

I’ve lived in two ex-local authority properties, neither of which had a ‘council house look’ at all. confused One was a flat in north London in a terrace of houses where some were council owned and some privately owned, and the other our current home; a very pretty tile-hung terrace with big garden (1930s solidly built and spacious). I’d ask that question of a good friend without any implied judgement whatsoever.

So what is this council look, that the ex council properties you have lived in didn't have, can you explain ?

@OnlyFoolsnMothers is the one making the nasty, judgy comment in that situation, imo.

The friend that made that comment to the poster might have history of making disparaging comments about council properties, difficult to tell seeing how you them.

Person I was on a course with
"I wish I was more like you ... (long pause as she looked me up and down) ... and didn't care what I looked like

Can people shut the fuck up and stop going on about council house comments. It's getting boring!!!

I don’t understand the “ex council house” stigma either.
I’d absolutely ask if it was ex council and follow up by stating all the council houses I’ve known have had the best storage and layouts as well as decent sized gardens!
My uncle lives in a council flat and the amount of cupboard space he had is incredible! We lived in a brand new build and there was one tiny under the stairs cupboard.
As my uncle says “They don’t build them like they used to!”

Would no longer be my friend with an ignorant comment like that!

@Gingerwhinger01

I’ve lived in two ex-local authority properties, neither of which had a ‘council house look’ at all. confused One was a flat in north London in a terrace of houses where some were council owned and some privately owned, and the other our current home; a very pretty tile-hung terrace with big garden (1930s solidly built and spacious). I’d ask that question of a good friend without any implied judgement whatsoever.

So what is this council look, that the ex council properties you have lived in didn't have, can you explain ?

@OnlyFoolsnMothers is the one making the nasty, judgy comment in that situation, imo.

The friend that made that comment to the poster might have history of making disparaging comments about council properties, difficult to tell seeing how you them.

Wouldn’t it be more appropriate to ask that question of Bluntness100, @Gingerwhinger01, since my post was in response to her using that exact phrase (you’ll notice I even included her post, and put the phrase in quotation marks).

The point I was making was that the flat in London didn’t have a ‘council house look’, whatever Bluntness considers that to be, because the house was indistinguishable from all the others in the terrace. Similarly, where we live now is in the vernacular style of the others in the area, so you wouldn’t know that they were LA-built if you didn’t live there. I was arguing against there being a ‘council house look’.

HTH.

'I don't like her, she screeches' in response to a song I posted on Facebook I really liked.

Piss off with your negativity

"I used to have a big mouth like you"

I was bemoaning something I said that I'd regretted.

We were teenagers and she was trying to be supportive. I think!

I’m cringing. As a young 20 something living with my in laws, I had told them I was a bit nervous about staying in the house alone overnight because I didn’t feel safe. It was a very large house (like a mansion to me) in a very posh, leafy area. I am from a very rough area and lived in a tiny council flat until then. There were fights on my street every weekend.

The reason I didn’t feel safe on my own in this bigger posh house was that if someone broke in, the house was too big that the neighbours wouldn’t hear me scream. Back home if I farted loud enough the neighbors would hear: and I knew they would be straight into my house to help if I was being burgled or attacked

To be fair, I think some of these started out as compliments and lost their way, rather than being deliberate insults.

I remember one of my friends, who has struggled to be confident in her looks, drunkenly saying to me once, ‘You know what? We should be confident. We’re good looking women. Not Louisa good looking, I know, but still…’

Louisa is another friend of ours who is admittedly very attractive - but I’m not sure I liked being lumped in as one of the ‘not in her league, but quite presentable all the same’ friends!

@FunTimes2020

Can people shut the fuck up and stop going on about council house comments. It's getting boring!!!

This!

Work colleague talking about a wedding she had been to where according to her, one side of the family had made no effort to dress up; 'one of them turned up in a scruffy old puffa coat: you know, like the one you've got!' Wouldn't have cared but the coat was new!

The point I was making was that the flat in London didn’t have a ‘council house look’, whatever Bluntness considers that to be, because the house was indistinguishable from all the others in the terrace. Similarly, where we live now is in the vernacular style of the others in the area, so you wouldn’t know that they were LA-built if you didn’t live there. I was arguing against there being a ‘council house look’.

No because the comment was aimed at you and you still haven’t explained how your local authority properties didn’t have a ‘council house look’, what exactly is the ‘council house look’ that you deny the existence of ?
Not a particular fan of bluntness, but in this instance I agree with her sentiments about the fake naïveté on mumsnet surrounding council property and I say that as someone that lives in an ex council property.
They may have many great features missing from today’s new builds, but aesthetics isn’t one of them

“Surprised you two are still together”
Said by an ex friend I bumped into.
It reminded me why she is an ex friend.

An ex friend of mine when her husband left was incredulous that it hadn't happened to her friend because apparently her friend was "too thin". I thought it was an odd and spiteful comment.

My charming (not at all toxic....nope) friend announced at her son's wedding that at least she had something unlike me who has nothing (I rent).

Met her in a cafe where she immediately told me she couldn't afford to eat there so I said I would pay and she said well it is a good thing you got money from your Aunt (she died last year) or you would be in dire straits. She as a voice like a corncrake and made sure everyone there heard her.

I don't know why a 'friend' has to put someone down so much? She is the only one that does!

Mother in law: Oh you've lost weight again. Good for you!. She was genuinely very happy... I hadn't lost, or gained weight. I've been the exact same weight for the last 11 years I've known her.

@Gingerwhinger01

The point I was making was that the flat in London didn’t have a ‘council house look’, whatever Bluntness considers that to be, because the house was indistinguishable from all the others in the terrace. Similarly, where we live now is in the vernacular style of the others in the area, so you wouldn’t know that they were LA-built if you didn’t live there. I was arguing against there being a ‘council house look’.

No because the comment was aimed at you and you still haven’t explained how your local authority properties didn’t have a ‘council house look’, what exactly is the ‘council house look’ that you deny the existence of ?
Not a particular fan of bluntness, but in this instance I agree with her sentiments about the fake naïveté on mumsnet surrounding council property and I say that as someone that lives in an ex council property.
They may have many great features missing from today’s new builds, but aesthetics isn’t one of them

Speak for your own, @Gingerwhinger01, because the two I’ve lived in are lovely. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Speak for your own, @Gingerwhinger01, because the two I’ve lived in are lovely. 🤷🏻‍♀️
Oh, but I’m sure because you are much less judgy and far more virtuous than me that you would not notice anyway.

Not friend but Dh's grandparents.
I was 3 months pp and we took baby ds to visit them and I made an effort by putting a nice maxi dress on.
As soon as we walked through the door "ooh you still look pregnant" "are you sure everything's gone back down to normal?" I held it together than sobbed when I got out

@Neolara

Basic 3 bed ex council houses go for £500k round here. You can only afford them if you a very healthy salary.

@Neolora where do you live where ex council houses are £500k?! We inherited our house. It's a 3 bed semi with a good garden in a sought after area. Houses rarely go up for sale in this area but when they do they are instantly snapped up. It's worth the top end for this area as are most houses in the street but houses worth £500+around here usually have pools etc and are huge!

@Bbq1

London, Brighton, Edinburgh

There’s plenty of places in the UK where house prices are astronomical compared to the rest. Surely you know that

College Green, London, SE19
www.rightmove.co.uk/property/106910879

Lionel Road North, Brentford
www.rightmove.co.uk/property/108673892

Colbourne Avenue, Brighton
www.rightmove.co.uk/property/65790642

3 Craigleith Hill Row, Craigleith, Edinburgh, EH4 2JX
www.rightmove.co.uk/property/107846585

Any of these could be ex council