Rude comments from friends

[Battyieoa]

Just wanted to feel I’m not alone

An old friend came to my new home, walked through the door, stopped and said ‘bit small isn’t it?’

No, she wasn’t joking. It was a reasonably pricey house that id worked VERY hard for. She was being a bitch.

Anyone else?!

[MargaretThursday]

When we had just moved in bil was also moving house. We were talking to MIL and asked her how it was going. Her reply:
"He hasn't told me much about it except it is bigger than yours."

The result was had a couple of months later when we went round and they offered to show us round, and as we entered a room I said, meaning it genuinely, "do we double back to see the rest of the house."
No, that was the last room-in a house that was noticeably smaller than ours. Queue lots of dirty looks.
Dh did point out on the way home that they hadn't seen our house, so how could they have known theirs was bigger. They still do like to holiday in Elevenerife. I ignore it now.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

@MrsBongiovi

I'm confused why you would take that as an insult?

Why would anyone need to know though? It’s a weird question.

Not a weird question. Legitimate and not patronising. Council houses are well built. And the older ones beautiful and desirable.

[MinnieJackson]

When I was about 20 my friend said 'you'd have a really nice figure if you lost weight' I was a size 10 she was about the same size. Wonder what she'd think if she saw me now ten years on at size 16

[MrsBongiovi]

Council houses are well built. And the older ones beautiful and desirable.

I agree. But it’s naive to think that many people do not look down at them. Some people are bastards.

[MrsExpo]

Not so much rude, as totally tactless ....

I was feeling a bit stressed one day and my "friend" said "what you need is a bloody good shag!!!" (a bit rude I guess) .... when she knew my DH was being treated for prostate cancer, and having sex was definitely not of the agenda for us!!!!

[Charlize43]

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

A “friend” of mine who still lives at home at 39 saw pics of my home and said “is it ex council”….nope but even if it was it’s not a bedroom in my family’s house.
People who can’t be happy for others usually have little, too much negative energy around them.

A friend of mine lives in an ex council house, built in the 1930s. It has very generous bedroom sizes by today's standards and a 85ft garden. I don't really understand the stigma.

In London, you're lucky to have a house with a good sized garden. Everything that seems to being built by developers these days seems to be apartment blocks, small rooms with combined kitchen/living rooms and your outdoor space is a balcony or the option of using the shared green spaces. A one bedroom flat will set you back £300K +

[SamW98]

My ex bf's so called BFF told me I was completely different to his usual type as he doesn't normally go for big girls - I'm a size 12

[kessiebird]

My ex "friend" on finding out my large family was also related (2nd cousin) to a man she went to private school with. I've never met him but one of my Texan cousins had tracked his parents down and they rocked up to a family party.
"Did you feel intimidated by them because you're from the poor side of the family?"
Shredded her after that, was the final straw in a long line of insults about my family.

[partyatthepalace]

🥁🥁🥁 I think a few people here need to have a friend cull...

[NoProblem123]

My (ex) friend- ‘my god, you’re a fat cow aren’t you?!’

I was 8 months pregnant. Never spoke to the bitch again.

[chicadelmonton]

A friend introduced me to someone at a party as 'this is chicadelmonton, she's poor as a church mouse!'. Nothing wrong with being poor as a church mouse but I had a successful career and had just bought my own flat. She walked off and left us to talk and he was like, WTF was that!

[SleepyPartyTime]

@MrsBongiovi It's just taking an interest in someone's new house. In the same way you migh ask when it was built or if a feature is original. Just polite curiosity.

[junipertree2]

'Your hair is your best feature.'

Er, yes, thanks for that.

[Dancingsmile]

I was told that I suited makeup !

[HoppingPavlova]

I’d ask the same about ex-council if it had a large yard as they tend to have decent size front yards and really long backyards around here which is a huge bonus not a drawback! They also tend to have larger bedrooms. If I asked that question it wouldn’t be derogatory.

[ImaHogg]

I told a friend that my 13 year old dd has dreams of being an actor. She laughed and said no way, she’s far too shy and has no confidence, she’ll never make it’s as an actor.

[MrsBongiovi]

It's just taking an interest in someone's new house. In the same way you migh ask when it was built or if a feature is original. Just polite curiosity.

That’s true for some. But it’s definitely a put down from some people.

[frami]

Many years ago a bloke asked me for a date because
'he liked his women with a bit of meat on them'
Needless to say my response was a very impolite no.
(I was about 19 at the time - he was in his 40s!)

[RockingMyFiftiesNot]

Friends of DH came to lunch when they were visiting relatives in our area. She asked to look round the house, which I thought a bit cheeky anyway. Downstairs, we have a lounge, kitchen with small dining area, separate dining room, downstairs toilet. As we came out of the dining room to head upstairs she said 'is that it?' I made an excuse about not going upstairs. So rude.

[JarJarQ]

“You paid too much for that house” on a property my sister hadn’t seen, had no idea how many bedrooms or bathrooms, in a town she’d never visited. She’d weedled the price out of my mother earlier as I never tell her anything as it’s not worth the agro.

When she finally visited she moaned it was too bright because of the large french doors and refused to take her sunglasses off. 😂

When inspecting our kitchen cabinets uninvited she’d obviously planned to say “you haven’t got much have you!” because she knows I’m not a cook. My husband is a chef and the cabinets were packed with equipment and foodstuffs - she said it anyway… 😂

[SleepyPartyTime]

@MrsBongiovi True, I'm sure there are some people who are snobby about it.

[SpnBaby1967]

My younger sister is like this, can never just say something nice.....you should have heard the temper she threw when I gave birth to my eldest 2 weeks early on her birthday. I'd been in labour 2 days by thay point ! 🤣

When I had my 3rd baby I got a 45 minute lecture about what a mistake I'd made, got a new job and she commented about starting a new job at my age seemed silly (I was 38!)

She hasnt seen my new house (we move in 2 weeks) and she doesnt live locally so thankfully I wont have to deal with her on that front for a while.

[RadandMad]

It took me 40 years to understand that anyone who comes out with a put-down intended to make you feel small, less than, guilty, or whatever negative emotion they're aiming for is not a friend. No friend goes out of their way to hurt another person's feelings. Bin them.

[Gingerwhinger01]

[quote SleepyPartyTime]@MrsBongiovi It's just taking an interest in someone's new house. In the same way you migh ask when it was built or if a feature is original. Just polite curiosity.[/quote]
Would think the poster is in a better position to understand her friends motives than you are.
If you think the house looks well built with good sized rooms, gardens etc. then comment on those features.
Council housing does have stigma attached to it and commenting on it whether its done with good intentions or not is not necessary.