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Rude comments from friends

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Battyieoa · 12/06/2021 07:57

Just wanted to feel I’m not alone Grin

An old friend came to my new home, walked through the door, stopped and said ‘bit small isn’t it?’

No, she wasn’t joking. It was a reasonably pricey house that id worked VERY hard for. She was being a bitch.

Anyone else?!

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andthedogtoo · 12/06/2021 11:53

My so called friend did exactly the same to me. I started realising then that she always put me down and I always left meeting with feeling shit about myself. The last straw was the I was weird for liking a tv programme that she didn't. We're no longer in friends and live is much better without her.

Rhubarbfizzles · 12/06/2021 11:55

I had some cuts that were scaring on my legs from some bites.

I went for a walk with a friend and her partner a couple of years ago. My friend asked what they were and I just said some bites. Her partner said they made my legs look awful and my friend said they made her legs look attractive Confused

Felt pretty awful for the rest of that walk and only wore jeans for the rest of summer.

2bazookas · 12/06/2021 11:59

We had just moved in to our first house and were so excited.

MIL and SIL arrive to inspect.

MIL enters, pauses, licks finger, turns and wipes it across the top of the door lintel to check for dust ; damning evidence found; shows finger to SIL rolls her eyes at ceiling.

UnderTheSkyInsideTheSea · 12/06/2021 12:00

@Bluntness100

Oh I hate faux naivety and and that fake bemusement, everyone knows there is a council house look that’s not perceived as a positive. There been many a thread on it, so clearly the implication was the house had that undesirable council house look.
I’ve lived in two ex-local authority properties, neither of which had a ‘council house look’ at all. Confused One was a flat in north London in a terrace of houses where some were council owned and some privately owned, and the other our current home; a very pretty tile-hung terrace with big garden (1930s solidly built and spacious). I’d ask that question of a good friend without any implied judgement whatsoever.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers is the one making the nasty, judgy comment in that situation, imo.

BrandNewHeretic · 12/06/2021 12:03

My MIL when DH walked through our open patio door - "Oh the door was open! That makes sense, I wondered why your glass was so clean!"

Rhiannon13 · 12/06/2021 12:03

My partner, the only time I've seen him drunk: ''You're the most beautiful woman in the world... Well not THE most beautiful but you're quite nice''.

My 'best friend' after I'd given her a wide berth for a few years in our 20s: ''Oh! You've grown into your face. I can actually see something else other than your nose!''. No idea why she thought to say it but I now feel I must've looked hideous when we were at school. Might explain the lack of boyfriends.

My sister, after I'd had a long bout of illness and had finally, with a lot of effort, managed to get the energy together to paint the alcoves in the living room, looked disgusted and said ''Well it's not a colour I'd have chosen''. Felt very deflated. It's funny how one thoughtless comment can make you feel so down.

amusedbush · 12/06/2021 12:06

My ex-flatmate (with whom I got on very well, making this even more gobsmacking) told me that she’d bumped into someone she used to work with. She said ‘she has gained soooo much weight since I last saw her. She’s huge now, about the same size as you.’

I was so taken aback I just stared at her. I only a couple of stone overweight but that’s beside the point - nobody deserves such a personal comment whatever their size!

username0489 · 12/06/2021 12:07

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

A “friend” of mine who still lives at home at 39 saw pics of my home and said “is it ex council”….nope but even if it was it’s not a bedroom in my family’s house. People who can’t be happy for others usually have little, too much negative energy around them.
Asking if it's ex council isn't a slur. You took it as a slur. What does that say about you?
Doodlebug71 · 12/06/2021 12:11

A very old friend of mine has an MIL who says stuff like that. Friend was excited and pleased to have found a bigger, older house (they were upgrading from a tiny modern 2-bed semi) , and took the MIL to see. MIL walks in and declares, "oh, I'd *love something as small as this...."

The seller was there, apparently, and looked a bit "EH??"

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 12/06/2021 12:17

A friend of mine-and she is still a friend-
said to me when I was 9months pregnant-gave birth the next day-

"that top isn't as cute as you think it is"

is has become a famous quote in our house

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/06/2021 12:18

You're the most beautiful woman in the world... Well not THE most beautiful but you're quite nice

See I'd be happy with that Grin

whynotwhatknot · 12/06/2021 12:26

See i think its all in the tone-if the friend said it rudely about ex council house then course youre going to take it badly

Rhiannon13 · 12/06/2021 12:27

*You're the most beautiful woman in the world... Well not THE most beautiful but you're quite nice

See I'd be happy with that*

@TheYearOfSmallThings Ha ha you're right: it was probably meant as a compliment really. At least he was keeping a grasp on reality despite his drunken state Grin He had no idea he'd said it when I brought it up in the morning. I'm afraid I haven't completely let it go...

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/06/2021 12:30

it was probably meant as a compliment really

Definitely! And an honest one too - in vino veritas and all that.

Hashtagforaname · 12/06/2021 12:31

Every time I see my mum, she comments that I am piling weight on - I'm a size 10. She also tells me to wipe that jam off your face, it is a permanent patch of redness, she knows I can't wipe it off 😒.

ClairKingston · 12/06/2021 12:45

@2bazookas

We had just moved in to our first house and were so excited. MIL and SIL arrive to inspect.

MIL enters, pauses, licks finger, turns and wipes it across the top of the door lintel to check for dust ; damning evidence found; shows finger to SIL rolls her eyes at ceiling.

OH my God! If it definitely was not a jokey family thing (we have them in mine!) then I would have held the front door open and ushered them back out.

The first home I bought was an old property and not the smartest but I was so very happy it was mine as my choice was limited due to cost etc. Someone I thought was a friend came to visit and looked up and down the living room and said (I shall never forget) "you bought THIS?" They were not welcome to a return visit and I ceased contact.

Real friends are hard to find.

Clawdy · 12/06/2021 12:54

After I'd told a friend I was trying to lose a bit of weight, she saw me a few weeks later and said "Ooh, you have lost some weight, but now your face looks really haggard!"

thatllberight · 12/06/2021 13:00

A friend when walking into our house for the first time, "oh we decided against a 'starter home' like this, we just decided to go for a forever home". It's a fucking 3 bed detached house. This is our forever home. We can't all have financial planners for husbands Angry

UnitedRoad · 12/06/2021 13:01

My mum showed me that the council house she grew up in had recently sold for £740!

I’ve had a million horrible comments aimed at me (I’m fat, frizzy haired and have bad eyesight) but I’ve suppressed them. This wasn’t aimed at me but I remember it because it was such a shock

We’d organised a ‘ladies night’ fundraising evening at school where you could have mini massages, manicures, tarot readings etc. There was a raffle and the main prize was a hair cut and restyle. One of the other mums, who I honestly thought was lovely, was getting everyone to buy tickets in the name of this other mum who I didn’t know ‘because her hair’s a state’ It was long blonde centre parted hair, perfectly ordinary, probably someone who didn’t give her hair a second thought. It was always clean and brushed.

The mum DID win, but I don’t know if she ever knew it was because she had about 100 entries on her behalf. She did get a hair cut but only had a bit trimmed off the ends. She obviously liked her hair how it was, and I’m so glad she didn’t change it.

Enjoy your new home OP, I hope your friend gets over her jealousy soon.

UnitedRoad · 12/06/2021 13:02

£740,000 obviously!!

Cushionsnotpillows · 12/06/2021 13:03

@Fromage oh that is just brilliant, love the happy ending! GrinGrinGrin

Cushionsnotpillows · 12/06/2021 13:19

@2bazookas how fuckjng rude! I would have shoved her judgemental arse back out the door again! What a bitch!

Intothelabyrinth · 12/06/2021 13:27

"Your eyes are really close together, aren't they?" Followed by tinkly laugh. That was 20 years ago but I still dwell on it and feel self-conscious.

"Don't you wish we were beautiful like (other friend)?" Gee thanks for that.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 12/06/2021 13:31

Not a friend, but a guy on Match. com. Pre DH (obs!) I had, (I thought) quite a nice profile pic. Well you don't put a really crap one up do you?! Messaged me saying looks didn't matter to him, but he felt he had to message me. At this point I need to say that the guy was clearly punching! I messaged him back, to say that I thought a refund from charm school was in order, and that he might have more success if he rethought his strategy....Hmm

Chocolatier9 · 12/06/2021 13:39

“Gosh, X, Y and Z have asked you out? You’re quite popular with boys aren’t you? I can’t think why.”

‘I thought she might be your stepmother. She’s so beautiful and elegant. Is she really your actual mother?”

‘How come your mum’s pretty and you’re not?”

I can chuckle now, but oh, at the time…

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