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Rude comments from friends

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Battyieoa · 12/06/2021 07:57

Just wanted to feel I’m not alone Grin

An old friend came to my new home, walked through the door, stopped and said ‘bit small isn’t it?’

No, she wasn’t joking. It was a reasonably pricey house that id worked VERY hard for. She was being a bitch.

Anyone else?!

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Diddumz · 12/06/2021 08:53

I got the same from ac"friend" who kindly informed me that I could have bought a "much bigger" house in her area.

She was jealous, I think.

TiltTopTable · 12/06/2021 08:53

I don't see the "ex council" comment as rude or judgemental either. My DD lives in a lovely one with an amazing garden. It's worth about 500k!

Sunnyday321 · 12/06/2021 08:54

My ' friend ' : " You will cope with lockdown better than me because your so insular " .

Battyieoa · 12/06/2021 08:54

@thequeenofsandwich

My friend came to visit after I’d had new stair carpet fitted (that I’d waited & saved hard for) “This reminds me why I have laminate throughout “ was her only comment
@thequeenofsandwich people are unbelievable. Either extremely thick or plain nasty.
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Battyieoa · 12/06/2021 08:55

@Clawdy

A friend of mine said last week " Have you never thought your hair would look so much better with a fringe and maybe a side parting?" Hmm
@Clawdy always amazes me that people think it’s ok to comment on appearance!
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Battyieoa · 12/06/2021 08:56

@SleepyPartyTime

I remember describing a new appartment I was excited to be moving in to to a friend and she said 'well you've always been used to making do'.
@SleepyPartyTime !! Wow. What a bitch.
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Fromage · 12/06/2021 08:58

I moved into a new house and a former friend asked for a tour during which she criticised everything and told.me how she would have done it/painted it/arranged where the bath went etc. I made sure she wasn't invited in again.

Six months later she is at a work do a 5 minute walk from my hideous shit hole and she asks if I can put her up for the night .

Nope.

I told her I was planning a massive re-renovation based on her suggestions and thus I had no spare room, and no bathroom. She was displeased, and kept calling me, and suggested she would take up no room and would bring her own inflatable mattress and bedlinen, at one point.

I said no, it's very dangerous with all the exposed wires and the open trench in the kitchen and no hand washing facilities and I only had one poo bucket.

She was near-obsessional. Surely I could clear a space on a floor somewhere?

I told her she could make do on the door step, with her lilo and duvet, but the police would likely move her on as they're quite sharp with homeless people round here.

Honestly, it was weird, she genuinely believed me (I should add there is a bigger story behind this wherein she pissed off the entire friendship group and joined the EDL) because it didn't occur to the narcissistic fool that she might be disliked and unwanted.

Anyway, some people are just bloody rude, self centred, and think they have a right to air their views and if you're upset by their honesty it's your problem. There is no filter twixt their critical, miserable little mind, and their gob.

Epilogue: she suddenly stopped asking me and we all thought she was finally accepting "no" but then it turned out it was because she was no longer attending the work do as she had been fired and the rest of us all lived happily ever without her. The end.

justanotherneighinparadise · 12/06/2021 08:58

@OneKeyAtATime

To me some of these are not bad at all. Perhaps your friends weren't being rude!
Or perhaps you’re one of the people who say rude shit to others and think you’re being friendly?
Scarby9 · 12/06/2021 08:59

But then you've never been pretty.

Sparklfairy · 12/06/2021 08:59

@Bluntness100

Oh I hate faux naivety and and that fake bemusement, everyone knows there is a council house look that’s not perceived as a positive. There been many a thread on it, so clearly the implication was the house had that undesirable council house look.
Depends on how snobby they are i think. My philosophy is if I'm in the house I can't see the outside Grin
MrsBongiovi · 12/06/2021 09:03

I see your point. I'm just happy for my friends whatever house they get. But I wouldn't ever see ex council as a bad thing.

I believe that about you. Smile Not everyone is so nice.

Some people will absolutely see ‘ex council’ as a negative and use it to put down other people for whatever reason. There’s a lot of nasty people around. Some people are always thinking whether about they are better or richer or whatever, in some made up hierarchy in their head, and will do and say whatever they feel necessary to keep themselves in a ‘higher position’. My mother is one of them.

FluffMagnet · 12/06/2021 09:04

I've asked the council question before Blush but it was genuinely because I think they have better build quality and far better and bigger gardens than any newer builds. It was asked out of excitement that my friends would not have the (numerous) build quality issues that we've had with our house and not intended as a slight at all.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/06/2021 09:09

Sometimes people give offence without intending to. This week I complimented one of the school mums on a great skirting, which I thought I recognized from a stall in Walthamstow market which sells similar (to my eye!) skirts.

Turns out it was a much more expensive skirt from a particular designer. Luckily she didn't take offence, but I can see that my question might have been taken as rude. But I buy clothes in the market myself, and it just didn't occur to me.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/06/2021 09:11

Or perhaps you’re one of the people who say rude shit to others and think you’re being friendly?

Here I am!

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 12/06/2021 09:13

@FluffMagnet

I've asked the council question before Blush but it was genuinely because I think they have better build quality and far better and bigger gardens than any newer builds. It was asked out of excitement that my friends would not have the (numerous) build quality issues that we've had with our house and not intended as a slight at all.
Yeh this wasn’t asked like this - here council houses are small, badly built with pebble dash exterior Basically because my house isn’t Victorian or Edwardian she was looking down her nose- unfortunately I didn’t have a spare 1mill. Fact is when someone shows you something they are proud off you don’t ask questions as if to quantify it
supermoonrising · 12/06/2021 09:18

Most people are massive dicks unfortunately. It’s the common thread that has carried through ancient history right up to the present day.

MaMaD1990 · 12/06/2021 09:21

@Clawdy

A friend of mine said last week " Have you never thought your hair would look so much better with a fringe and maybe a side parting?" Hmm
Good Lord! Apparently a side parting ages you (so I've been told!). Maybe let her have that little nugget of information!
IrmaFayLear · 12/06/2021 09:23

Agree that there are the desirable 1930s ex-council houses grouped round a green in a village… and the grey 1960s ones.

Ime the most critical of council houses are those who have “moved on up”. Dh’s friend’s ex referred to people and things as “council house” (ie common). She had just moved out of one…

frazzledasarock · 12/06/2021 09:24

My first ever house was a ex council house. I had no idea there was a stigma about that. It’s worth £500k now.
I loved living in it, near trains and tubes into work, close to amenities and had loads of storage space. I had a walk in pantry!

It looked like a regular house from the outside no idea whether it would be considered ugly by MN standards, and it was built well.

Was perfect for us.

I’d not have realised if someone had insulted me by asking if it was ex council I’d have said yes it is. But then many insults go over my head to the chagrin of would be mean people 🤷🏻‍♀️

user1493494961 · 12/06/2021 09:28

During the first lockdown, I didn't colour my hair and it turned a silvery blonde colour. Saw friend after several weeks and she complimented me on my hair colour, said it suited me as my face didn't look so drawn.

SleepingStandingUp · 12/06/2021 09:31

I mean I think some of you need to consider the definition of the word friend.

Summersnake · 12/06/2021 09:32

I dropped the shampoo bottle in the shower …after ,my fil said” what was that huge bang,I thought it was someone falling through the shower “..
I’m very large ,so was an obvious dig at me ..
As was when I said I was pr with no 3….you can’t at that size surely ?

bluelemming · 12/06/2021 09:33

@Fromage
Brilliant! Grin

Fromage · 12/06/2021 09:35

Some people have the linguistic skills of a tractor.

These are the same people who say things like "I'm not being mean BUT..." and "I'm not being a snob BUT..." and "I'm not being racist BUT...." etc.

TheCatsHaveEyes · 12/06/2021 09:43

Oh I hate faux naivety and and that fake bemusement, everyone knows there is a council house look that’s not perceived as a positive. There been many a thread on it, so clearly the implication was the house had that undesirable council house look

Yy to this. Yes there are many positives as people have listed but there is a stigma to ex Council houses