Friend claiming she got pregnant like this?

[Retuols]

Friend claiming she is pregnant after her partner went half way inside her for 4 seconds and didn’t ejaculate

Is this actually possible?! This is a close friend and in a weird way it’s made me feel distant from her as it clearly seems to be a lie?! Not she’s why it’s bothered me, maybe because I feel like she’s lying and we are very close.

@RockPainting

Did you never read Just Seventeen?! Of course you can get pregnant like this! Unlikely but possible.

I read an open letter recently from an agony aunt column author - they never got genuine interesting stories so made the vast majority up!

No one has said it’s not possible, just how I likely it is.

Do you think she is justifying her pregnancy by telling you that much detail? At the end of of day, even if they had full unprotected sex and then lied because they were embarrassed for not using contraception and getting themselves in thr situation it is nothing to do with you. If she lied then it isn't a big lie. It is weird that you're so fixated on it. I've had a friend that have said it wasn't planned then later admitted that they kind of knew what they were doing but were embarrassed as it was a newish relationship. I understand why they lied. Could it be something like this? Or maybe she really is super fertile. It is completely possible to get pregnant this way.

I can't imagine a conversation with a friend where I talked about my H's penis going half in for 4 seconds, where I had to justify being pregnant, and then in which the friend didn't believe me and went to the internet to ask! What a strange friendship. I would ditch it OP it doesn't sound supportive.

Why oh why would you be talking about this 👀

4 seconds halfway in is oddly specific and weird to offer that level of detail, but yeah it happens which is why the withdrawal method is so unreliable.

Lots of things in life are ‘possible’...
Pulling out method isn’t unreliable because of the minuscule chance of pre-ejaculate getting you pregnant, it’s about trusting a man to remember or care to pull out at the right time. The chance of getting pregnant this way is tiny - if it was p in v for about 2 seconds even less so.

Of course it is possible FFS.

My two closest friends both had unplanned babies due to using the withdrawal method when under the influence of alcohol, one of them even told me they came to their senses and stopped mid way through.

So yes, you can get pregnant without ejaculation and let's face it, halfway in for one man could be the equivalent of all the way in for another 😂

In is still in.

Why are so many people so horrified at the level of detail here? If this had happened to me, and I’d found myself unexpectedly pregnant and shocked and worried, I might well talk to a close friend about what was happening. It doesn’t mean I’m announcing it on FB.

In is still in

That should be the first lesson in Sex Ed.

@StiffyByng

Why are so many people so horrified at the level of detail here? If this had happened to me, and I’d found myself unexpectedly pregnant and shocked and worried, I might well talk to a close friend about what was happening. It doesn’t mean I’m announcing it on FB.

If I was unexpectedly pregnant I may well be 'shocked and worried' but wouldn't be oversharing the detail as to how it came about. Maybe just getting help as to what to do next. I don't know why people think other people want to know that level of detail and I am sure my friends wouldn't either.

@Sparklingbrook
😂😂😂

I’m more interested as to whether she had a stopwatch to know it was 4seconds. I’ve been doing it wrong.

If an unsheathed penis goes into a vagina for any length of time, there's a chance of conception.

Did she have a stopwatch?

We were taught in sex ed (progressive Scandinavian country) that pre-ejaculate can contain viable sperm, so that even superficial genital contact brings a chance of impregnation. Makes total sense. In fact, my first conception went something not a million miles away from that.

This all reminds me of reading Just Seventeen as a teenager and discovering that besides being dangerous, pouring coke in your vagina will not prevent pregnancy.

But things with tiny odds happen to people regularly, given how many people there are on the planet.

When DT2 was born he was diagnosed with a condition that only affects 1 in 100,000 babies. I thought that was so rare. Then multiple other things were diagnosed, the chances of having the collection of diagnoses he has with no underlying cause is extremely tiny, but they can’t find a genetic cause. His geneticist wants to run a trial as they suspect a genetic condition that’s currently unknown, and he may be the only case, or one of a handful. Because of all this I have met many parents of children who have genetic disorders, where they are one of only a few people in the world who are known to have it, sometimes the only one. Statistically the odds of all these things are so low and yet they’ve happened to so many people I’ve met.

So even if the chance of this happening is one in ten million, that means it would still happen to about 6 people just in this country.

But I just looked it up and it’s nowhere near as rare as any of them - approximately 4% of pregnancies occur using the withdrawal method (and although some will be poor timing, it’s surely not all of them), and one study showed 37% of men had viable sperm in pre-ejaculate (although small sample size), and that each man either did have viable sperm in it or he didn’t.

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3564677/

www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/can-you-get-pregnant-from-precum#does-pre-cum-have-sperm

So it’s not even rare for sperm to be present.

(I’m also someone who experienced near death by sink - that’s got to be pretty bloody unlikely, yet I bet I’m not the only person in history it’s happened to!)

It's possible of course, but very unlikely.

I'd be assuming they just had a normal shag without contraception and she feels bad about it.

It wouldn't necessarily put me off a person that she 'lied.' A lot of people talk shit at some point.

OP only you know your friend on here - does she have form for lying?

If not, why do you think she is about this?

And if she is a habitual liar why are you friends with her anyway?

@Sparklingbrook

What a wonderful way to announce a pregnancy. Different.

😂😂😂

@JackieWeaversAuthorityHere

No one has said it’s not possible, just how I likely it is.

Unlikely yes. Impossible, hell no

There is a difference between impossible and statistically unlikely. 4 secs of penetration is enough - its not quite the 10-30% chance of a pregnancy with unprotected sex around ovulation but it certainly isn't impossible

If I was unexpectedly pregnant I may well be 'shocked and worried' but wouldn't be oversharing the detail as to how it came about.

Well, we’re all different. Takes all sorts in the world. So long as the friend doesn’t mind hearing it.

Yes it is the kind of thing I would talk about with a close female friend. Also I don’t think that the OP is bothered that it is about sex I think she feels weird that she thinks her friend is lying to her. I think her friends partner probably doesn’t believe the pregnancy story either so the friend is trying to establish her narrative.
There is a small chance it could happen medically but I think you can sense if a close friend is lying to you but won’t admit it.
I have had friends like this when I have thought we were really close and then they have said something which seems as if they are trying to cover a lie, or change a story where I know the truth to make themselves look better and I have stayed friends with them but been more wary that we are not as close or they are not as genuine as I thought they were.