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Tell us a secret that no one else knows?

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GloomyWaters · 04/06/2021 00:23

Me...by the end of this year I will be divorced...DH has no idea!

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BetterThanKleenex · 06/06/2021 19:57

@Rubbishatchoosingusernames She lived near Gloucester! There were some odd shaped lumps in the lawn now that I think about it...

ScrollingLeaves · 06/06/2021 20:01

“ImprobablePuffin
I get over 2k a month in UC and DLA because I have disabled children and cannot work due to caring for them. I don't tell anyone because I can't stand the scorn.“

How could anyone scorn you or resent you having that financial support? You should have every penny and more.

Rubbishatchoosingusernames · 06/06/2021 20:03

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BetterThanKleenex · 06/06/2021 20:08

@Rubbishatchoosingusernames Ah yes, Gloucester's infamous patio disturbing moles. Pesky things!

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allthevowels · 06/06/2021 21:46

That I absolutely detest 98% of my family. Not my household family but my aunts, uncles and especially my grandmother who is mean, nasty, selfish and cold and has raised children (with the exception of two) who are the same. No one would have a clue as I help each and every one of them on a daily basis. COVID has made me realise that they don’t care about me as a person they care about what I’ve not being doing for them. Out of 67 family members I probably rank 64th in value, yet, I do virtually everything. I hate them. With a passion.

MellyFluous · 06/06/2021 21:55

Honestly, STOP WITH THE DAVE JOKES. It was barely amusing on page 1 and like a previous poster has pointed out, it looks really shit when people are sharing quite heartfelt genuine stuff

To whoever posted the above you need to realise that if people come late to the thread there may be already dozens of pages to read through, and if they are on a page near the beginning when they think to post a 'Dave joke', it will automatically be put up as the last to be posted at that time. Mine is on something like page 29 but I posted it when I'd only read as far as page 2.

pinkstripeycat · 06/06/2021 21:59

My first love (from aged 15) and the one person I wished I’d ended up with died 2yrs ago of cancer. My DH doesn’t know I loved this person more than him. It’s just that first love didn’t realise I wanted him (despite his brother telling him) and by the time he knew I was already married. Still love him desperately. Just wasn’t meant to be I guess

Shannith · 06/06/2021 22:06

I AM CANADIAN.

Bonus points for anyone who gets that.

TaraR2020 · 06/06/2021 22:10

No one knows how very close I came to walking out of my life and disappearing a few years ago. And even if I shared, no one would believe me. The only person who cottoned on and took it seriously was a counsellor I was seeing at the time.

Oh and Dave* really wanted to sleep with me but I said no.

*His real name

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 06/06/2021 22:20

Here's a new secret.

I was invited to apply for a big promotion at work recently. But I liked the sound of the even bigger promotion that was also available at the same time even more, so I've applied for that as well. It's a fairly high status position in my little pond, too - way above my present lowly minion post where a small number of people speak to me like shit when they think they can get away with it. Way above their positions, as well.

The secret is that I already knew they were coming up long before it was public (or even restricted) knowledge and deliberately volunteered to take on some very technical stuff because I knew they can't afford to lose whoever knows how to do it; the particular skills in question are highly in demand elsewhere - so if I don't get what I want, I could walk into a job somewhere else pretty much immediately. In the long run, they could probably recruit, but it would cost them significantly more to do so, probably involve agency rates and some investment in IT at short notice/high cost and in the short-medium term, the consequences of not having anybody there would be a huge problem.

Either promotion appeals, I'd be happy with the lower one in all honesty, but lots more money? I'm all over that.

I don't think it's occurred to them that nice little me (I'm not nasty or unkind at all - but I'm certainly not all fluffy bunnies and rainbows on the inside) could find out all this stuff perfectly legally and deliberately plan to put myself in a position where it boils down to whether they want to screw themselves over or give me what I want.

Well, nice is good. But nice and on double the salary and some extra status is even better. And if I do get one of them, I'm going to enjoy that people who are so bloody rude to me not daring to try it ever again.

HereIfYouNeedMe · 06/06/2021 22:26

@NeverDropYourMoonCup

Here's a new secret.

I was invited to apply for a big promotion at work recently. But I liked the sound of the even bigger promotion that was also available at the same time even more, so I've applied for that as well. It's a fairly high status position in my little pond, too - way above my present lowly minion post where a small number of people speak to me like shit when they think they can get away with it. Way above their positions, as well.

The secret is that I already knew they were coming up long before it was public (or even restricted) knowledge and deliberately volunteered to take on some very technical stuff because I knew they can't afford to lose whoever knows how to do it; the particular skills in question are highly in demand elsewhere - so if I don't get what I want, I could walk into a job somewhere else pretty much immediately. In the long run, they could probably recruit, but it would cost them significantly more to do so, probably involve agency rates and some investment in IT at short notice/high cost and in the short-medium term, the consequences of not having anybody there would be a huge problem.

Either promotion appeals, I'd be happy with the lower one in all honesty, but lots more money? I'm all over that.

I don't think it's occurred to them that nice little me (I'm not nasty or unkind at all - but I'm certainly not all fluffy bunnies and rainbows on the inside) could find out all this stuff perfectly legally and deliberately plan to put myself in a position where it boils down to whether they want to screw themselves over or give me what I want.

Well, nice is good. But nice and on double the salary and some extra status is even better. And if I do get one of them, I'm going to enjoy that people who are so bloody rude to me not daring to try it ever again.

Why am I reading this like you're whispering? 😂 good for you and good luck!! 😀 come back and let me know which one you get!
Talkwhilstyouwalk · 06/06/2021 22:53

@BadMom82

I played fast and loose with my contraception before we were married and after DS was born even though I knew DH wasn't ready to try again. He doesn't want any more babies after the two we have but I still have leftover Clomid and occasionally I consider using it and not telling him. He isn't the sort to leave me because of an unplanned accidental pregnancy
I've not done this myself but I can understand this. It must happen all the time. Obviously it's not the morally right thing to do but they generally love the baby when it arrives....
SleepingStandingUp · 06/06/2021 22:55

Good for you @NeverDropYourMoonCup I really wish you well!!

FuckUcuntychops · 06/06/2021 23:22

Adoree
If you really don’t want it I’ll happily take it off your hands and put it to good use Grin

betterNCforthis · 06/06/2021 23:24

Xmas before COVID was out for drinks with female friends, too much to drink, huge taxi queues, so a few of stayed the night at city centre appt. I shared a bed with a friend that was very drunk. She took off all her clothes, cuddled in to me, moved suddenly, basically groped me in her sleep, etc. I had a really really restless night. I’d always been attracted to her, but I’m married.

June2021 · 06/06/2021 23:25

@Missillusioned

I slept with Dave from work.
Dave's wife knows but she is keeping it a secret (for now).
watingroom2 · 06/06/2021 23:28

@Suki2

As a teenager I got caught shoplifting and received a caution. The caution has stopped me from doing so many things... training as a teacher, volunteering with Brownies and now thirty years later it's stopping me from volunteering in places I'd like to volunteer eg in a hospice. I do sometimes wonder why I needed to be punished so much for what was a childish one off incident.
Are you sure it is still on your record ?

I think they are often wiped at 18.. or last for 6 years as an adult.

FuckUcuntychops · 06/06/2021 23:35

Here’s a real secret of mine. When I was pregnant with my first child I didn’t know who the dad was throughput the entire pregnancy I just prayed it was my then boyfriend’s who I’d been cheating on with my driving instructor. When my DS was born I held my breath when they handed him to me hoping beyond hope, luckily he was the spitting image of my boyfriend and he’s grown into a clone of him now 15 years later. Gosh I was an idiot! I was very young and stupid and thank my lucky stars it all worked out in the end, we’re no longer together and I’m happily married to another man but when I think back to that time I do wonder who the fuck that person was, she’s so far removed from who I am now.

RantyAnty · 06/06/2021 23:36

@EmbarrassingAdmissions

The top attorneys seem to know.

trunumber · 06/06/2021 23:43

@Suki2 I work for the NHS with vulnerable people and have several times shortlisted people who have declared convictions in their youth - please don't let it put you off applying for things

ImprobablePuffin · 06/06/2021 23:46

A family member is a murderer and disowned by all of us. If I ever saw him I would happily kill him and feel no remorse for what he's done to us all.

antsy · 06/06/2021 23:48

I have interviewed people to work with children and appointed people with convictions. It depends on the conviction, and how long ago. A conviction against a child or a very violent crime would always be a firm no. But lots of people have convictions for things like shoplifting or drug offences. They would be a no if recent, but if a long time ago its fine.

Hawkins001 · 06/06/2021 23:56

[quote Wide]@surfingwaves ah you should get one! As I said mine eas only a quid haha but I'd have thought anyone can orgasm that many times if they stick at it?? I just have little rests in between each one. I used it earlier, my dh is in bed next to me asleep with man flu and the neighbour is mowing the grass so that drowns out the buzzing sound, if he wakes up I can blame the mower 😂😂[/quote]
Have you tried the magic wands the plug in version ? They are very recommended.

TickTockBitches · 07/06/2021 00:08

I miss my ex best friend like crazy, she was the only one who had time for me. I know about her new engagement and the baby. I wish we could go back to what we had. I miss the children too.

I really want to message her but I won't.