Small things that are big tells

[SisterAgatha]

Just for fun, what are the little things you notice about people that actually tell you quite a lot about their nature.

I noticed last week that whenever we go for dinner with my SIL she always assumes the first meal that comes out is hers. Even if it’s very obviously not. And if you order the same thing, she practically snatches the one that is served first. Lots of eye balling peoples dinner to check no one has got anything she ordered. I can definitely extend this behaviour in to other areas of her life too.

Anyone else spot these little things?

@twilightermummy

*Taking pictures of themselves donating to food banks/homeless people/any charity.*

Please dear God tell me that people don’t actually do that!

Im not apologising for the DM link - it's the first one at the top of Google.

Oh yes, the Travellers Food Bank Challenge was a big thing, it had to be videoed and posted to social media, and this poor Sainsbo employee who didnt want to be in a video was slated by them - and then they refused to donate and said they'd get her sacked

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6462767/Travellers-accuse-Hertfordshire-Sainsburys-discrimination-Food-Bank-Challenge.html

People who are rude to restaurant staff. Also people that are happy to tell you what someone else has been saying about you are always trouble, they are doing that to others too.

People who are quick to judgment and rate for reflection

People who get along with everyone.

People who say ‘no offence’ after they’ve just said something offensive.
They expect the other person to say ‘none taken’ when the opposite is true.

When a woman has no female friends and says "I just get on with men better, there's no bitching or gossiping...." nah, sorry but 90% that woman is the problem. Plus the men I know are horrendous gossips

(Rare to reflect / sorry)

People who are constantly being wronged by others.

I know two people like this. One has a very fragile ego. The other has paranoia and anger management issues.

They can’t seem to see the common denominator in each altercation is them.

Anyone who says that they use ‘gentle parenting methods’.
What they generally mean is they practice ineffective or no parenting and without fail you want your child to avoid theirs in the playground and preferably be in another class!

Interesting idea about smokers.
I think that’s true about lots of habits though. Strict dieters are control freaks, over eaters are miserable, drinkers are misunderstood...

ANYONE who describes themselves as Zany is going to be the most buttoned up, humourless fucker that you've ever met - guaranteed.

People who never acknowledge when someone lets them go first at a junction/let you pull out/parked cars etc. A little hand wave thank you isn't hard. I knew someone who I got a lift off a few times and she never waved thanks for anything - yes, as I got to know her I worked out that it was in other areas of her life that she was self entitled and very judgemental.

On a more positive note, I have noticed that...

People who are noticeably anxious all the time are usually very kind and empathetic and, in my experience, make great friends.

People with a dry sense humour usually turn out to be super intelligent.

Someone once said to me 'if you want to see a person's character watch them make a sandwich.'

It's SO true.

Also people that are happy to tell you what someone else has been saying about you are always trouble, they are doing that to others too.

Yes, agree. The friend who is the bitchy, highly critical gossip who says unkind, indiscreet or judgemental things to you about mutual friends will be talking to them in exactly the same way about you.

@Susannahmoody

I don't have a dog but honestly do believe that dogs can sense good people. Best test of character? Introduce them to your dog

Ah well I am very clearly an extremely bad person then as I don't like dogs.

As for the listening thing, if it's true, it's a red flag for the vast majority of the population. In my experience most people are just waiting to speak and don't listen to you properly. I am not saying I am any better, sometimes you can't get a word in edgeways unless you jump in when they stop to breathe, but I think most people are like that.

@DansMaPoche

Someone once said to me 'if you want to see a person's character watch them make a sandwich.'

It's SO true.

In what way? In terms of how much you put in it?

People who whip out a calculator at the end of a shared dinner are invariably tightarses, and usually the wealthiest at the table

And those who object are inevitably the cheeky wotsits who've had 3 courses and a bottle of wine and expect the person having one course and a glass of mineral water to subsidise them.

Ah, but do dogs like you @looptheloopinahulahoop

@Goawaymuppet

A woman in my NCT group said she preferred being friends with men rather than women. I found it suspicious - and was proved right. She was horrible.

This is a load of crap... I prefer to be friends with men because I grew up in a house full of boys. I find them easier to get on with and a whole lot less dramatic than women. I am not a horrible person, nor do I steal other women's boyfriends/ husbands if that is what you are implying.

Rude to food service staff or cleaners = pure evil.

Drama queens.......I'm late/ I've lost my phone/ I have this rare neurological condition/dyslexia/allergy situation blahblah.

No , you haven't.

People who say, “I’m like Marmite. You love me or hate me”.

We hate you, Geoff. Everybody hates you.

@deathbypostitnote haha sounds like my DS1 he is always so composed & polite always, I don’t know who he takes after! 😂

People who say 'You're so sweet' or 'that's so sweet of you' think they are superior to you and see you as a social last resort/low priority.