On holiday in uk, dp is ill (not covid) and its all a mess **MNHQ title edit to suggest reading whole thread before responding***

[ghostmouse]

Holiday was moved from last year to this year and now I'm here im having a shit time.

Dp is ill, sudden gall bladder trouble and in pain and indigestion all the time. 3 strong lots of antibiotics and he's no better, tired all the time, lost weight as he can't keep much down.

I'm upset because I hate seeing him from going from a fit and active man to one who is sleeping a lot. The kids dds 9 and 11 know there's something wrong but they don't know what. Theres talk of ultrasounds and ct scans..I'm convinced he has cancer.

We shouldn't have come but dp wanted to. I'm going to the very limited shows with the kids but most of it is prebooked the whole atmosphere just isn't the same..just not the same.

I could cry (no judging) just going to drink a large glass of wine instead

Have a look at sphincter of oddi dysfunction

I'm sorry you are having a difficult time.
Be easy on yourself, have a cry if you want to and a glass (or several) of wine if it helps.
I really hope you discover what it is and get treatment soon.

Have been thinking about you and your husband...absolutely shocking that Chemo not starting for 6 weeks because of Covid. Try and stay strong and hope your husband continues to feel ok . 💐Xx

So sorry to read your latest update and I’m sending you support.
Still sending you positivity no matter how difficult to hold onto - my sibling with very rare agressive stage 3 (lymph nodes affected) has finished chemo and is miraculously cancer free now. Over Christmas there was a stage we thought there were weeks only.
I’m so hoping treatment works for your dh. We none of us know when something like this may happen out of the blue but for sure we would all hope to have the support you are being.

Sending you much support. I know this might sound strange given how urgent and shocking it is - however this is probably a marathon, not a sprint. So I’m just urging you within this to eat well, sleep well, drink water etc and visit your own GP if you can and tell them what is going on and that you are under a lot of pressure. Even if you don’t want any extra help, it’s just to start that process of looking after yourself in the roller coaster that has already been going on and is to come.

And sending you support in the bucket load

OP my heart goes out to you all.

I agree cancer and covid can piss right off.

Please try and look after yourself a little bit too to keep your strength up xx

💐 What horrible news. Certainly puts everything in perspective. Sending good wishes and support.

Another one here sending you strength and support. I really hope he can start some treatment soon and that he responds well to it x

I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. Hope Mr Mouse is having a better day today.

So sorry you’re going through this,sending you strength and positive thoughts ❤️

So sorry to hear this, thinking of you and your family x

So sorry OP, life is really shit sometimes :(

So sorry to hear this

So sorry to read your update OP, sending big hugs xx

I'm so sorry to read this - what a dreadful, heartbreaking time for you all.

I hope and pray that things are not as bleak as they seem.

{{{hugs}}}

I’m so sorry to hear your news @ghostmouse, so very sorry. I know this isn’t really the MN way, but I live in the same health board as you and quite close by if the hospital is YG. If I can be of any use then please let me know - emergency shopping, lifts, even just a panad with a stranger so you don’t have to worry about upsetting me. I’ve got an allotment plot if you want somewhere quiet to sit - no need to even meet me.

Sorry if that’s overstepping but I’ll be thinking about you. MN strangers have been incredibly kind to me over the years and I’d love to pay it forward if I can.

I am very sorry to read this thread; I send you love and best wishes.

Just read your thread and feel so sad that this is the diagnosis. Sending and lots of love your way.

Very sorry to hear the news about your husband.
Sending love to you all. X

Im so sorry OP. I really hope theres a decent prognosis xx

OP I know how hard the waiting can be. My mum has metastasised cancer in a few places including the stomach. She’s been on chemo every three weeks for years now. As a PP said there is every chance you’re in for a marathon rather than a spirit. I will be crossing everything this is the case for you both. We will always be here no matter what you want to say even if you feel awful saying it, be honest and we will support you no matter what.

I'm so sorry he's being forced to wait for chemo due to the covid backlog.

It's why I get so infuriated at everyone who thinks everything should just go back to normal ... we can't afford the hospitalizations for covid ... other people are being failed horribly because of it!

Haven’t read the whole thread. Oh had a dreadful time last year and this with stones. If you've decided to drive home, then straight to A&E, mentioning gall stone. Eat as little as possible, sips of water only so that if gall bladder needs to be removed it can be done quickly. Gall bladder removal is keyhole, recovery is unbelievable quick. All the best to you and your family.

That's such shocking news. I'm so sorry. How terrible that they can't start chemo for so long.

@Petronius16
The op’s husband has been diagnosed with cancer.