On holiday in uk, dp is ill (not covid) and its all a mess **MNHQ title edit to suggest reading whole thread before responding***

[ghostmouse]

Holiday was moved from last year to this year and now I'm here im having a shit time.

Dp is ill, sudden gall bladder trouble and in pain and indigestion all the time. 3 strong lots of antibiotics and he's no better, tired all the time, lost weight as he can't keep much down.

I'm upset because I hate seeing him from going from a fit and active man to one who is sleeping a lot. The kids dds 9 and 11 know there's something wrong but they don't know what. Theres talk of ultrasounds and ct scans..I'm convinced he has cancer.

We shouldn't have come but dp wanted to. I'm going to the very limited shows with the kids but most of it is prebooked the whole atmosphere just isn't the same..just not the same.

I could cry (no judging) just going to drink a large glass of wine instead

Oh my word, I am so sorry to hear this.

Sending you much love x

Yes he's relatively well in himself.

The consultant thinks it's probably in his stomach as well and from what I've read there's no hope if that's the case

Hes eating and drinking well though and he's pottering about.

I hate cancer and I hate fucking covid

Sorry to hear that @ghostmouse . Please keep us updated on how everything goes.

How are you and your DC?

@ghostmouse I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your family x

So sorry op it's really shit. Vent away we can listen.

I’m so sorry it’s not better news. I hope he can start treatment soon x

So very sorry to read this OP. Cancer is absolutely fucking vile. Make sure you look after yourself as best as you can.

I ended up getting chronic pancreatitis from gallstones. Could be something like this, not nice to have but not cancer. I’d also go home and take him to hospital

Apologies I missed your update, please disregard my previous post. Sending love & best wishes to you and your DH

I'm so sorry to hear this. Big hugs and a handhold to you both. Hope his appt got chemo comes around quickly.

I'm so sorry to read your update
Thinking of you

Oh no. I'm really sorry to hear your news. Has you DH got any thoughts on what he'd like to prioritize outside of treatment?

My mum died of breast cancer when I was 7 and she spent a lot of time hanging out with us kids - making us memories I suppose. We even camped in the fields at my brothers prep school on the cliffs above the sea for a few weeks. I have some good memories of that.

I’ve just read the whole thread. I’m so sorry about what you’re going through

Maybe think about the wedding as a positive to focus on rather than the chemo.
Something small and meaningful that won’t go for too long so it won’t take too much out of him.

So sorry to read this, sending you all love and strength x

I'm so sorry to read your update. Sending all good wishes.

I'm sorry to read this update. Are you getting outside support for you all?

I’m so sorry to hear the latest news

I'm so sorry to read your latest update.

Oh ghostmouse, I'm so sorry to read your update. Thinking of you.
(Also in terms of reading stuff online, do remember that the most up-to-date treatments haven't always made in online yet. I have a friend whose consultant warned her against trying to work out a prognosis from online research for this reason.)

I'm so sorry that you have had this bad news xxx

Sending you a big hug, Mouse.
I hope you are getting support from all around.
So sad to see your updates.

I am so sorry. What a dreadful shock for you all. I hope there is some treatment they can offer which will do probably far too little but more than not doing any. x