On holiday in uk, dp is ill (not covid) and its all a mess **MNHQ title edit to suggest reading whole thread before responding***

[ghostmouse]

Holiday was moved from last year to this year and now I'm here im having a shit time.

Dp is ill, sudden gall bladder trouble and in pain and indigestion all the time. 3 strong lots of antibiotics and he's no better, tired all the time, lost weight as he can't keep much down.

I'm upset because I hate seeing him from going from a fit and active man to one who is sleeping a lot. The kids dds 9 and 11 know there's something wrong but they don't know what. Theres talk of ultrasounds and ct scans..I'm convinced he has cancer.

We shouldn't have come but dp wanted to. I'm going to the very limited shows with the kids but most of it is prebooked the whole atmosphere just isn't the same..just not the same.

I could cry (no judging) just going to drink a large glass of wine instead

Very syindeed to hear this update.

Very sorry....

Very sorry to hear your news. I hope you'll soon have a treatment plan and an idea of the way ahead
Thinking of you and your DP

Dear OP

I've been through this exact situation more or less. 100 percent bring your wedding forward it makes everything more straightforward whatever his outcome. Legally and financially.

We were married in ICU.

Best of luck to you both

To add ours was arranged in 90 minutes with just a few phone calls. It's quite straightforward.

I'm so sorry to hear your update. I would suggest that if it's confirmed as a rare cancer, you ask for a referral to a specialist cancer hospital. Finding someone who knows what they're doing will make a huge difference (speaking from experience).

Oh no! So sorry to hear that. Sounds like he’s in good hands at last. I hope they are keeping him comfortable and that it’s treatable. Sending hugs.

So sorry to hear this @ghostmouse - I agree with others, get that wedding arranged now. You being his legal next of kin is important at this point, as well as the financial implications.

Get in touch with a hospital chaplain - doesn't matter if you're religious or not, they know the drill in making this happen and it's likely one of them is a registrar.

You can have the ceremony with friends and white dress and party later. Get the legal stuff sorted now, it will be one less worry.

Oh OP, that's such an awful update. You both must be in shock.

Fingers crossed for you both

Sending good wishes and hoping for a good prognosis

Fingers crossed OP xxx

So sorry to read your update. Sending hugs and best wishes your way.

ghostmouse love, I'm so sorry to hear about your dp's diagnosis. That must have been such a shock for both of you. Much love to you for your upcoming wedding. x

Rhinking of you and your family

Sending love and praying for you x

Oh OP, I'm so sorry. His GP has a lot to answer for.

He's in good care now; great they diagnosed him quickly after getting him in and now it can all move forward. Sending good thoughts for you and your children

sorry to hear this, best of luck

Sorry to hear the latest update.
Fingers crossed for a quick treatment plan and more information for you both.
Sending lots of love xx

Oh, op, I’m so sorry to read your update. I am really hoping for a positive outcome for you all.

Oh @ghostmouse, I am so very sorry it’s turned out to be what you feared. I really hope that tomorrow brings some further clarity and a treatment plan. You are both in my thoughts💐

Thinking of you both ❤️

I've been following the thread and I'm so very sorry to see your latest update. I sincerely hope that the prognosis is as good as it can be and treatment can start ASAP. Thank goodness you got him to a hospital. Thinking of you and sending love

I can't imagine what it must be like for you both OP .

I'm not sure if it's helpful to say this but I just want to warn you that there may be a delay while the biopsies are sent off for analysis .The waiting is v v hard ,one of the worst bits .Hang on in there ,there is some small comfort in knowing more about what you are facing .

Yes they said that Thursday or fri we will have results

The tumour is pretty big

He can come home later if he has the biopsy this morning. His pain is manageable

Thanks for all your kind words

so sorry to hear of the latest update. I am pleased the pain is manageable and he is able to come home soon. Hopefully there will be lots of different things they can do to help him. Will keep you in my thoughts.