On holiday in uk, dp is ill (not covid) and its all a mess **MNHQ title edit to suggest reading whole thread before responding***

[ghostmouse]

Holiday was moved from last year to this year and now I'm here im having a shit time.

Dp is ill, sudden gall bladder trouble and in pain and indigestion all the time. 3 strong lots of antibiotics and he's no better, tired all the time, lost weight as he can't keep much down.

I'm upset because I hate seeing him from going from a fit and active man to one who is sleeping a lot. The kids dds 9 and 11 know there's something wrong but they don't know what. Theres talk of ultrasounds and ct scans..I'm convinced he has cancer.

We shouldn't have come but dp wanted to. I'm going to the very limited shows with the kids but most of it is prebooked the whole atmosphere just isn't the same..just not the same.

I could cry (no judging) just going to drink a large glass of wine instead

So very sorry to read the update this morning. Praying for a strong prognosis and best wishes to you all x

So sorry it's such awful news.

Big unmumsnetty hugs.

I hope your Mum and other family/friends are there for you.

Oh that's very hard for you all

Op - sorry to read update. Personal message - a family member of mine was diagnosed with stage 3 agressive very rare cancer last year. After surgery and chemo they are now currently cancer free.
Please hold onto hope like this during what will be difficult worrying time of that diagnosis is correct.
I cannot express strongly enough how absolutely brilliant the nhs have been and continue to be for me sibling.
Support.

So sorry to hear this news, OP. I hope he can get some good treatment and that he starts to feel better.

DH has a rare and aggressive cancer and our best news and advice has come from seeking a second opinion in his type of cancer. Don't be afraid to push for answers and don't be afraid to find a charity that deals in his cancer and seek their help, we would be lost without the AMMF.

Thank you heron I'm trying to stay positive at this moment of time but its so so hard.

Its the fear its spread is whats making me feel so awful

Thanks everyone for all your best wishes.

I've seen dp this morning, seems quite chipper. He came off the ward for a walk and we had a little cry and a laugh together.

Weve decided to try and bring our wedding forward asap and now its just a waiting game

...second opinion from a specialist in his type of cancer.

Thank you bloodywhitecat I will. We should know more tomorrow or wed about his prognosis

I just can't believe this is happening to us

I just wanted to send love and best wishes to you all xx

So sorry to hear your latest news OP. Thinking of you

I am so so sorry. Sending you and your family lots of well wishes.

Oh god you poor things.

I'm so sorry to read this, and keeping my fingers crossed that your DP gets the right treatment and the prognosis is as good as possible.

Sending you kind thoughts, OP. It must be so frightening, but there are lots of positive stories out there. One step at a time xx

So sorry to read this OP.

So sorry to see your update today. I hope Wednesday brings you a positive treatment plan.

Ah bugger.
Sorry to hear the update GM
Poor bloody all of you.

Sorry to read your update, OP - best wishes for the prognosis.

So sorry to hear this and I hope all turns out ok. For what it’s worth, Happy Birthday

take care op

So sorry for the bad news , fingers crossed they can offer him some treatment , it amazing what they can do nowadays where once it seemed hopeless x

Hi @ghostmouse, obviously every case is different, but just to offer you a little bit of hope, I too had a very rare liver cancer and had 2 liver resections. My cancer is a bit different as it's not a curable type, but 5 years after my ops and my liver has remained clear. The good thing about livers is that they grow back, so resection may be an option for your husband. I will keep everything crossed for you.

Fuck.

So sorry @ghostmouse. I have everything crossed for you that it's of a type that can be treated successfully.

I a, so sorry to read this.
I just wanted to say that IME the hospital staff/Macmillan nurses can help you arrange your wedding very quickly and I would strongly advise you to do that asap. It will take away a substantial amount of stress and worry for both of you. A dear friend was able to arrange a registrar and special permission in less than 48 hours. I am sure that isn't necessary in your case, but I just want you to know that it is possible.