I think my Husband is dying

[DollyParsnip]

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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I'm so sorry, Dolly. Wishing you strength for later when you tell DD.

I'm so so sorry.

So sorry.

So so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your daughter. (As a forward thought. It may be good to reassure your daughter that if she needs to talk, but can't to you, that you will help her find someone to talk to. Schools often have counselling services.)

@DollyParsnip thoughts are with you

Very sorry to read this news. Like everyone else, hoped for a miracle.

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. Love to you all

I’m so so sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry

Also thinking if you and your DD Dolly.
You know what is best for her, be kind to yourself and ignore anyone who isn't. Sincere sympathy.

Dolly, I am so sorry 💐.
I wish you strength when talking to DD. She will of course be heartbroken and you may find that she is very angry. Although this will probably be directed at you she will not mean it. I know that you know this but sometimes it just feels that way. Just let her know that you are there for whatever she needs.
I am glad that you have support from family and friends please lean on them and let them look after you. Take the time you need to gather yourself.
I am sure if you do want to talk to people outside the situation then a lot of us will still be here but don't feel that you have to.

Just checking back.

I am so sorry to read the update.

Glad that you could be with him and he passed peacefully.

I am so sorry, there are no words but I am thinking of you and your lovely girl today. She is so lucky to have you as a mum, so strong and resilient. The amount you love her absolutely sings off the thread here and you will scoop her up, cry together, stay close to one another and get through this together

So sorry for the loss of your much loved DH. You have been so strong and I know this strength will see you and your DD through the difficult times ahead. 🎉

So sorry for your loss

So sorry to read your sad news. Have a hug from me xxx

So sorry for your loss. Totally understand about waiting until after the sleepover. I too would want my dd to have a few last moments of joy when I knew what sadness was coming. Xx

So sorry to read your update. What an utter shock. Sending so much love and strength to you and your DD. 🙏

Sorry to read the update. 💐

My condolences. Polly. I am very glad you were able to be with him.

I am so very very soon for your loss.

Very very sorry that should read.

Such sad news and the worst outcome
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’ve been there twice and it’s an awful shock.
Hopefully the love and prayers you are getting here will bring some comfort x