I think my Husband is dying

[DollyParsnip]

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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So sorry to hear this.
Thinking of you, your DD and your in laws.

I’m so sorry

Oh no, I'm so sorry to read this. I've been hoping for the best for you all.

So glad you got to be with him, that you were the last person to hold his hand. It sounds like a peaceful end.

Sending strength for the next bit. And 💐

I am so very, very sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and strength for the days ahead.

I'm so sorry OP, but I'm so glad that you got to be with him at the end and that it was peaceful. That will bring you great comfort in the coming months. Thinking of you all

I am so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you x

I am so sorry OP. So sorry.

You sound like the most fantastic mum to your daughter. I am sure the pair of you will cope better than you think.

Very best of luck x

I am so sorry 💐

I'm so very sorry to hear this.

I’m so sorry OP. I can tell how much you love him. The only good thing is it sounds like he wouldn’t have suffered. His peaceful death with the music playing sounds beautiful and I hope that it’s something that can help you find peace.

Do what you need to do to grieve. It’s okay to break down. Your DD will understand.

So sorry for your loss, it will be such comfort that is was peaceful and you were with him.
We lost a great friend two years ago who had two children, just wanted you to know that of course it was so hard for them but they have continued to grow and thrive and do talk about him all the time xxx

Oh gosh. I’m so sorry for your loss. 11 is such a tender age. Sending you love xxx

Some comfort that you were able to be there, and that you made the end as comfortable as possible.
Love to you and your family, it is a hard road ahead.

This took my breath away. I was really hoping. I am so so sorry for your and DD's loss. Am glad that you were with him if that is a comfort to you. You are in our thoughts and prayers Dolly

I'm so very sorry. xx

This is heartbreaking to read, so so sorry. But so glad you were with him

So very sorry.

I'm so sorry.

So very sorry for your loss. Sending love, strength and peace to your family.
I lost my husband very suddenly to a bleed on the brain eight years ago. It was a devastating time. There is help out there, people do want to help don't feel you are on your own. Widowed and Young , Winstons Wish, are just two charities that are very useful, and there are others online. I hope you have much support.

I’m so sorry to read this.I wish you, your daughter and in laws strength, love and peace in the coming weeks.

I’m so very sorry for your loss sending you all my love for the moments to come when you’re going to need that little bit of strength to carry on. Remember you don’t have to be strong for everyone else at the detriment of yourself x

I'm so sorry to hear that

So so sorry for your loss 💐 💐
Everything that’s happened will take a long long time to sink in so don’t push yourself at any point. You need time to grieve. Thoughts are with you xx

I'm so sorry for your loss.