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I think harry is really brave

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ssd · 21/05/2021 09:18

Talking about his mental health. Starting talking is the hardest bit. I have to start the conversation and i cant. And i can usually talk for Britain.
I admire him.

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MajesticWhine · 21/05/2021 23:17

I expect the only way he could be happy would be to step out of this mode of blaming others and feeling so hard done by. It feels really stuck. And going public with the contents of your therapy sessions is not at all healthy.

pabloescobarselasticband · 21/05/2021 23:17

Harry is coming across like a spoilt brat trying to get back at his family and cause maximum humiliation because they didn't give in to his and Meghans demands. I have no doubt he have suffered immensely by losing his mother but i also don't believe hes ever been the happy go lucky one of the lads we were all led to believe he was. The palace PR machine did a fantastic job, we are now seeing the spoilt, spiteful, petulant brat that is really Prince Harry. I believe this is the real reason both Chelsea and Cressida wouldn't marry him, nothing to do with not wanting to be members of the royal family. Meg saw an opportunity and is absolutely milking it for all it's worth!

Brazilianut · 21/05/2021 23:34

@User5485421134

Spot on, they are so far removed from the reality of ordinary people who struggle with MH and how difficult getting treatment is.

mermaidsariel · 21/05/2021 23:40

@mylovelydd

In a world where people are losing their loved ones, homes, jobs, relationships, are under horrendous financial strain, health suffering and freedom taken away, I personally think rich, pampered, 30 odd year old Prince Harry and his wife Meghan should shut the fuck up about what victims they are and blaming their parents for everything. Especially as his Grandmother has just lost her husband and his father has just lost his own father. Their whining is tone deaf.
Perfectly put.
woofgoesthecat · 21/05/2021 23:43

Not in the UK. But he’s annoying as shit. His wife even worse. Undermining his family to make money, using mental health on the way.

mermaidsariel · 21/05/2021 23:45

@LublinToDublin

One of the things I have witnessed with my DD (who has complex mental health problems) is that when the emotion she experiences in connection with an event is very strong, that actually becomes her memory of the event.

I mean if someone says something such as "That's not how you do it. Do it like this" and that makes her feel that they think she's stupid. She might remember the event convinced the person actually said "God you're stupid! Don't do it like that, do it like this."

Her memory of the emotion of the event is "her truth".

I think Harry may have experienced something like this. He may have experienced an overwhelming sense of hopelessness and remembers it as no-one helping (for example).

I think this is very interesting. I do think many people remember an event in this way. Particularly when they are young or lack an ability to rationalise the situation.
mermaidsariel · 21/05/2021 23:46

Many trauma therapists work with the emotions and body memories of an event rather than the facts because it is a much better and quicker way to work with trauma than recalling events .

KaleSlayer · 21/05/2021 23:48

I think this is very interesting. I do think many people remember an event in this way. Particularly when they are young or lack an ability to rationalise the situation.

Alternatively, I think many people want to minimise others experiences.....and blame it on them being young or irrational. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Roussette · 21/05/2021 23:51

Ahhh right... so a rich privileged person can't have mental health problems. Got you....

FYI anyone can. Rich. Poor. Privileged. Struggling. Famous. Not Famous.

Letsgetreadytocrumble · 21/05/2021 23:52

I just don't get what Harry is getting out of all of this airing of his dirty laundry. He is not going to actually be helping others with mental health issues by slagging off his family in public, and people are going to grow very tired very quickly of revelatory interview after revelatory interview. I think the public are already fast running out of sympathy for the person who for a long time was probably one of the most loved members of the RF.

KaleSlayer · 22/05/2021 00:07

Ahhh right... so a rich privileged person can't have mental health problems. Got you....

It’s disgusting, isn’t it, but clearly what many people on this thread think.

DeRigueurMortis · 22/05/2021 00:23

@KaleSlayer

Ahhh right... so a rich privileged person can't have mental health problems. Got you....

It’s disgusting, isn’t it, but clearly what many people on this thread think.

This very point has been made ad nauseam.

No one is saying that being wealthy makes you immune from MH issues or suffering.

What is does however provide you with is a very fat cushion on which to fall.

Unlike people with limited financial resources you're not going to be put on waiting lists or assessed for the latest treatment path. You won't be part of a postcode lottery wrt what therapy is available to you.

You have the means for example to take a few months sabbatical off work - abroad if you like in a beautiful property that's loaned to you for free.

It's a very different position to be in than that of the average member of the public in respect of access to treatment and choices.

Enough4me · 22/05/2021 00:25

I think Harry is cashing in.

lighteincastlewindow · 22/05/2021 00:27

@KaleSlayer Yet he is monetising every word he says, he CAN HAVE MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS even if he is rich but he doesn't have to be paid for speaking about them. How can you not see?

KaleSlayer · 22/05/2021 00:33

Yet he is monetising every word he says, he CAN HAVE MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS even if he is rich but he doesn't have to be paid for speaking about them. How can you not see?

He can do whatever he wants to. Why can you not see? You don’t get to decide.

And WHY ARE YOU SHOUTING? 🤣

KaleSlayer · 22/05/2021 00:36

This very point has been made ad nauseam.

Many points on here are being made ‘ad nauseam’. It seems everyone is ok with the same shit being repeated as long as it’s against Harry.

DeRigueurMortis · 22/05/2021 00:39

@KaleSlayer

Ahhh right... so a rich privileged person can't have mental health problems. Got you....

It’s disgusting, isn’t it, but clearly what many people on this thread think.

Just to add what's actually disgusting is that a very wealthy man with multiple connections to MH professionals was too embarrassed to get help for his suicidal wife.

I can't begin to fathom the cognitive dissonance your brain must be employing to adopt the position you repeatedly have.

He's a man nearing middle age whose having a hissy fit because his father stopped his pocket money when he couldn't be arsed to do his paper round.

Hazeyday · 22/05/2021 00:39

Dear God, he's had a rough ride but so has his brother. I am not even slightly trying to detract from losing his mother in the most awful way but he needs to get a grip. People have crap and far worse crap without privilege to deal with every day.... Thus showcase on Oprah etc is doing him no favours in the real world. He needs to zip his mouth up! Enough!

DeRigueurMortis · 22/05/2021 00:43

@KaleSlayer

This very point has been made ad nauseam.

Many points on here are being made ‘ad nauseam’. It seems everyone is ok with the same shit being repeated as long as it’s against Harry.

Because (sigh) people who blindly believe in the virtue model of H take no heed whatsoever of the points made by his detractors, such as yes - having wealth does not make you immune from MH issues.

You want to disagree even when we agree...

astery · 22/05/2021 00:44

I do not think speaking out is in his best interests.
But I find some of the views towards him pretty vile.

EmeraldShamrock · 22/05/2021 00:44

No I don't.
I supported him with his new life, defended his actions on threads.
The world is in financial shreds, 1000's have died from covid, starvation, families in Palestine are being blown apart.
I haven't rtft yet. I'm sure there is many more reasons his emotional outlet is bad timing.
It's embarrassing.

Paquerette · 22/05/2021 01:01

@DeRigueurMortis

This is interesting:

"I thought my family would help, but every single ask, request, warning, whatever it is, just got met with total silence or total neglect."

What's absolutely not clear is what those "asks", "requests", "warnings" were and if they were even remotely reasonable.

If they were unreasonable it's perhaps not surprising they were treated with silence and neglect.

There's far too much ambiguity to take what H claims at face value especially in conjunction with how many times he's contradicted himself.

I noticed that too. More delightful vagueness from H. The requests must have been something in writing from H/his office. Quite likely he was behaving like a complete man child, and the "ignoring" part was trying to get him to grow up and deal with things himself after it had already been pointed out to him he's a man in his thirties?
Mintsmints · 22/05/2021 02:14

I think they are a pair of attention seeking idiots. The incident that sticks in my mind was them announcing that Megan was pregnancy at euganies wedding. Who the fuck does that. If he wants privacy and to protect his mental health maybe signing a deal with netflix is not the way to go.

SaturdayRocks · 22/05/2021 03:01

@EmeraldShamrock

No I don't. I supported him with his new life, defended his actions on threads. The world is in financial shreds, 1000's have died from covid, starvation, families in Palestine are being blown apart. I haven't rtft yet. I'm sure there is many more reasons his emotional outlet is bad timing. It's embarrassing.
This ^^

For someone who hates attention, he sure does love attention.

Redrosesandsunsets · 22/05/2021 03:38

I too like other posters think he is being used by a whole new group of advisors who are making money from this. Private therapy = great. Moving away to live quietly to protect and help your family = great. What we are seeing megan and Harry do = is a money spinner. I am sad by the continuous flow. We don’t need to hear it. He wanted to move away and start afresh. The royals won’t change. What’s the point of continuous media clips? Nothing, or it’s just filling more rich people’s pockets. Time for them to hide away at home and let it all go. No harm done. Do what you want to do but do it behind closed doors.