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Weird wedding card

169 replies

changedthenameforthis · 16/05/2021 20:28

If you received a card like this for your wedding, how would you interpret it? White background, Mr & Mrs in black, a few miniscule hearts, blank inner. Hand written best wishes - that's it.

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changedthenameforthis · 16/05/2021 21:27

@Faevern

So you are thinking that the person sent you this card reluctantly and chose the most boring and minimal wishes because the unconnected matter, matters more than you thought? . Are they usually more flowery and wordy?
Thanks, Faevern. Forensic thinking, that's what I needed.

I dug out the card for the engagement, and it was a riot of colour, flowers, and extravagantly expressive wishes for happiness!

Kind of answers the question....

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3CCC · 16/05/2021 21:29

I'd think dh had wedding card on a shopping list written by dw.

They had a bit of a tiff as it's not what she would have chosen but too late now

Best wishes is how they have already signed the card

Chloemol · 16/05/2021 21:29

I would assume someone wants to send me best wishes on my wedding

It sounds like you want it to mean more in a nasty way

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quizqueen · 16/05/2021 21:30

I think it's quite rude to criticise the style of card someone sent for your wedding, to be honest, unless it's downright offensive. It says more about you than them, in my opinion.

speakout · 16/05/2021 21:31

You are over thinking this OP.
The person didn;t need to send a card at all if they had an issue with you.

Scramblerr · 16/05/2021 21:31

Honestly, I can see why you've fallen out with them.

...because you're determined to think they've done something wrong when they haven't and that you're a victim of something when you aren't.

timedoesntalwaysheal · 16/05/2021 21:32

Just be grateful they sent you a card at all. Honestly what I strange thing to worry about.

clary · 16/05/2021 21:32

OP to be totally honest, I would think, "oh that's nice, a card from xxx".

My mum used to literally write her name in a card, or maybe "from Ella". I would always write "lots of love from Clary" but peopel are different.

The card itself sounds nicer to me than one embossed with gold champagne flutes but tastes differ.

I think you sound like you are looking for an issue, If there is something bothering you about your relationship with this person, then take it up with them. But don't go looking for a deeper meaning in a wedding card!

SuziQuatrosFatNan · 16/05/2021 21:33

You won't say OP is overthinking things when this deviant card sender is arrested for sabotaging her bin rotation. Which they will be. Any day now. I know the type.

Go careful OP.

LindaEllen · 16/05/2021 21:34

Someone has sent you a wedding card, and you've ungratefully come online to make a thread about weird the car is? You seem ... nice.

IhaveMyMoments · 16/05/2021 21:34

I wouldn't think anything of it.
In fact if it was from my son it would just say to...
From....
In fact be lucky to get the word from!

PotteringAlong · 16/05/2021 21:34

You dug the engagement card out to compare them?! Hmm

3CCC · 16/05/2021 21:35

My dm doesn't write to ... in cards

She assumes the receiver knows who the card is aimed to them so why bother

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 16/05/2021 21:35

I think your massively over thinking it

Onlinedilema · 16/05/2021 21:35

It's not to my taste but every one is different. Signing best wishes is perfectly fine, especially if you are not a young teenage couple still living at home with your parents. If you were a young teenage couple and this was your first real boyfriend and you were about to embark on your very first and only relationship and it was a religious ceremony, then I would expect a more convoluted message about finding live and making your life together work etc.

covetingthepreciousthings · 16/05/2021 21:35

I've picked monochrome style cards with very basic but stylised font on for wedding cards as I love the simplistic design, I hope the receiving couples didn't read too much into my approach Grin

Here for the backstory....

buckeejit · 16/05/2021 21:36

If it is a passive aggressive dig in some way, I'd totally ignore it. Wouldn't think anything much if it was someone who everything was peachy with. Although I really appreciate when people write a few personal words.

ViciousJackdaw · 16/05/2021 21:36

Please don't be one of those dreadful people who gets offended by cards. Like those who are aggrieved by a Christmas card from a multipack. It's the thought that counts.

Anyhow, if they were really upset with you, they'd not even have bothered at all.

fallfallfall · 16/05/2021 21:38

My dh does his initials, like cards are business mail. So card, no to from or writing then chicken scratch.
He says preferably in pencil so the recipient can erase it and reuse.

MyDogIsDrivingMeMad · 16/05/2021 21:39

The card being so different from their card for your engagement announcement does raise some questions.

It could be that they think a wedding card should be more formal than one for an engagement, but if this seems out of character for them, I would wonder if they were being cool and formal as a result of the other issue.

I'd probably keep it in the back of my mind, the next time I interacted with them, and be observant for more clues to their attitude.

TheVanguardSix · 16/05/2021 21:39

So they previously wrote this card?

I dug out the card for the engagement, and it was a riot of colour, flowers, and extravagantly expressive wishes for happiness!

And then sent the very cut and dry wedding card?

It's a statement, undeniably. One or both of you have lost cool points along the way. Try not to care about it. You can't please all of the people all of the time.

OrchidLass · 16/05/2021 21:39

Yep folks, you really can be offended by just about anything it seems! Grin

maslinpan · 16/05/2021 21:40

There really is only one way to get to the bottom of it. Scan the wedding and engagement cards, ask them to explain the difference in style, and why the wedding one was so very terse, send it to them by recorded delivery and await their response.

thisplaceisweird · 16/05/2021 21:41

I'd be more concerned about how dull your husband must be to fixate on this as a newlywed

SparklyLeprechaun · 16/05/2021 21:42

I'd think that's great, at least this one can go in the recycling bin unlike all the glittery ones.