Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

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Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

@LCHH123

My mother went to a wedding where the bride married a completely different person to the one that everything thought she was going to marry. It was quite a surprise for the guests.

Also, all the presents were in the wrong names.

What! What about her family? Don’t tell me the mother of the bride was sat there with her best hat on and some other lass walked in.

@PuttingOnTheKitsch

Can we agree that every perspective and opinion on the phase "Irish twins" has now been covered?

It's derailing a fascinating thread.

Oops sorry

Hear hear @OldieMama
My sister got married at 22 because of her boyfriend's deeply religious parents "gentle" pressure. She seemed happy and never told us she wasn't - she didn't want to disappoint her boyfriend and his family, who were goog people all in all. She was divorced two years later.

Marriage can't be forced on people but too often it is, not least by their partners themselves, just because "getting married is just what people do". If people really truly realised what a massive commitment it is - emotional, sexual, legal, financial etc., for the entirety of the only life you have, way fewer people would get married and way fewer would get divorced as a result, saving an awful lot of heartache as a result.

Marriage does serve its purpose, mainly as a financial security net for the partner who gives up their career to look after the kids, but other than that it is really not necessary for a fulfilling, committed, respectful, long-term relationship.

No but went to a wedding where the bride drunkenly admitted late in the evening that she didn’t expect it to work out but what the hell, when that happened she would get divorced. She also later admitted (after they did get divorced) that she had slept with the best man throughout (sometimes with the groom). The whole thing was sordid. Now butter wouldn’t melt and it’s all airbrushed out of her life for her second marriage. We’re related to FB friends thank god.

Relegated not related!

"So your mum basically scuppered the wedding because she wanted her son to stay in the UK?! Wow @DroopyDaff I know you said they were dysfunctional but 😱."

yeah, but his almost wife probably escaped being married to a mummy's boy so better like that really.

Went to a wedding where the bride was caught posing for a topless portrait later in the evening drawn by the stoned hippy neighbour (with her wedding dress to her waist). That was really weird. She’s also divorced.

no but why is there always someone who kicks off at a wedding?

@SchemeOf10

My cousin planned her wedding and had everything booked. Had family flying in from all over. Sent out her invites. Her parents paid 50%, she paid 25% and her husband to be was supposed to pay 25%. It all went into their savings account. He was short on his but was due a work bonus so she just knew his whole amount would come in one go, just before final payments were due. She had bought all personalised favours and cheese boards engraved with names etc.

One day she showed him the evening menu and asked him to make his final choices. He did, no problem. He then kissed her goodbye and went to work and never came home. He text her saying he didnt want to go ahead as she was too controlling and had pushed him into it all and she has never seen or spoke to him since. They still live in the same county. His mum collected all his things from their house. He did not pay a penny towards the wedding so her and her parents ended up paying for it all. When packing up his things she also found his families stack of invitations (he had never posted them). She has never even had a reason why. He moved on within 2 months and is still with the girl now, 4ish years later.

She lost a lot of respect though as she had a limited guest list (due to the very expensive venue she chose) but had been rather ruthless and offended quite a few of our family members. Like inviting me (her cousin) and my husband and my mum (her aunt) but not my brother (also her cousin). She did this to a lot of families so it was nothing personal. She had her sister as bridesmaid but not her niece. Because she didnt want tween bridesmaids. But she had her other niece who was a toddler. It was all about the aesthetics of the day (which is fine, its her day). But she burnt a lot of bridges. She had been quite insistent people book their accommodation early. Sending lists of suitable places and things and constantly asking if you had booked yet. And it was a midweek wedding so lots of people had decided to make a few days of it and booked time off work. Also afterwards over 50% of the people had booked hotels and cottages for the week of the wedding. After sending out her initial "wedding wont be going ahead" message she never spoke of the bookings again. Never asked if people had managed to get refunds or showed that she cared people were now left short. I dont believe she paid her parents back either.

This whole post leaves a bad taste.

I appreciate people went out of their way for the wedding etc. But come on! You start by saying how your cousins fiancé bailed on her with weeks to go.

Then write multiple paragraphs about how it must have been her fault really as she was selective with her guests and didn't check on people's refunds.

I expect she was probably quite humiliated and sad. Maybe the wanker who left her after she had booked everything should have paid her parents back? Fucking hell. Sounds like you just don't like your cousin to be honest.

Omg these stories!

Simone I used to work with broke up with her fiancé a couple of months before the big day as she’d met someone else, she married the new man at the original booking, same dress, cake everything just different man!!

Quite @Gwenhwyfar.

It wasn’t a rushed wedding either. They’d been living together in the US for a few years and the wedding was planned a good 8 months in advance as I found out I was pregnant shortly after it was announced.

According to DD all was fine at the rehearsal dinner the night before.

Brother was back in the UK within a month. He’s now married to someone from here.

Unfortunately I was NC with my family before he married his now wife so I couldn’t warn her off .

@Strangeways19

no but why is there always someone who kicks off at a wedding?

Never seen anyone kick off at a wedding!

@starrynight21

My son's best friend got married - I went along to the no-holds-barred affair, it must have cost a fortune. He was totally smitten, so happy to be marrying the love of his life !

Two weeks later she left him for another man who she'd been seeing ( apparently) for months before the wedding. They got a quick divorce and she took half of everything, including his business which subsequently folded, leaving him with nothing.

Last I heard, he'd become an alcoholic and has had time in a psychiatric hospital with severe depression.

She got 50% of everything, including a business he had set up himself while single, for a two-week wedding?

Also, I am convinced this is a cynical ploy to stop us all wearing what we had pre-lockdown, and get us all out shopping again for new whole outfits.
Easily done.

My sister was part of planning a wedding. A day before the wedding, groom went AWOL. They tried to convince bride not to turn up to church till they traced the groom and talked to him. She refused. Waited and waited at altar. He didn't turn up.
Years later, he was found dead in a hotel after hiring prostitutes and taking Viagra. He had married by then but was well not for being a dirtbag. The whole country knew cos he was a senior civil servant.
Another friend of a friend had same experience of groom going AWOL night before and bride having to be pried away from altar

Hi have!

Bride just didn’t show up. Turned out she had gone on his laptop the day before while he was at the hotel with all the guests and found emails between him and a women at work. He had been having an affair for 14 months and had gotten the other women pregnant. She literally just didn’t show and then sent us all an apology card explaining what had happened 3 weeks later. The wedding planner at the venue even drove the 45mins to there house to find her. It was very sad for all the families and the groom tried to laugh it off.

My cousin called off her wedding after the invitations had been sent out.She said she didn’t really know why, but was glad she did! Guess it just wasn’t right!
A friend of a friend got married but split up about a week later!

I was MOH to a dear, much loved and good-hearted friend. In the months leading up to her wedding, her usually very nice fiancé had been behaving in a strange manner and it was fairly apparent that he was...up to something. She kept making excuses for him - none so blind as those who can't see, etc.

At 2am the night before the wedding, which bride and groom were spending apart, she receives an email from their childminder...who tells her that she has been having an affair with the groom, and insists that he doesn't love her and that she shouldn't marry him.

Bride is initially furious - not at the groom, but at the childminder for ruining the big day. The heart breaking upset at the betrayal and the hysteria and tears come at 4am.

By 6am there are angry phone calls, by 9am there are raised voices, remonstrations and recriminations in the car park.

By 10am the bride promises to remove the groom's genitals with a rusty penknife if he ever cheats on her again, and returns to the bridal suite for hair and make-up.

By 11am, the bride and groom are smiling wanly in front of a registrar reading their vows, and there are only a few people in the world that know anything at all. I have watched the whole thing unfold, open-mouthed, from the early hours.

Yes, if you're wondering, I did attempt to intervene - gently, and respectfully, as I wasn't the one marrying the guy. She's my best friend, and the kindest woman in the world, and I hated that she might be tied to a philandering nobhead all of her life. But she absolutely flew to his (and her own) defence, more angry than I'd ever seen her, and said she was getting married and I couldn't stop her.

So I watched her marry him, and they are still together several years later, fairly happy most of the time, and to my knowledge he never strayed again...

My Dad was Jilted before he met my mum. His should-have-been-wife left him standing at the alter and started a relationship with his sister instead. They are actually still together 40 years later but my dad didn't speak to either of them again. I met her for the first time at his funeral.

I knew somebody who cried-off when everything had been paid for. She walked away and left the guy to contact everybody and cancel all the arrangements. She then went on to demand ( unsuccessfully ) half the equity in their property despite never paying a penny towards the utility bills or the mortgage. He was a lovely guy and it very nearly destroyed him. It was quite embarrasing because she was my friend and I introduced them. All she told me was, " she was as honest as she could be". But yeah, she cheated on him with some sleazy sales guy she worked with. She later went on to marry some guy old enough to be her father and he looked like it too.

Not jilted but I’ve got a photo of my brother and sister walking me to the church with their heads in their hands as I’d just told them I really didn’t want to go through with it and I’d let it all get too far. I knew I was making a massive mistake but went through with it anyway as I didn’t want to make a massive scene. We are now divorced (unsurprisingly).

@IbrahimaRedTwo

It's not even offensive though

You know you don't get to decide what other people find offensive, right?

It's stereotyping and a lot of people find the phrase offensive. If you don't, thats ok, but you are not able to decide for everyone.

That's the funny thing about stereotyping, it's actually often correct.

My uncle sold his 3 houses and built a huge house on his fiancé’s plot abroad, bought her a brand new car and paid all her debts (only been together for 9 months). The day of the wedding she announced that they are marrying out of community of property to his and family surprised. He went ahead with the wedding anyway and after the wedding he borrowed money from all the family including myself on her behalf and then she threw him out 6 months after the wedding.

Not jilted but... morning of my wedding I sent my bridesmaid to fetch something from our bridal suite as I didn’t want to accidentally bump into my DH before the wedding.
My bridesmaid came back visibly upset saying when she was looking around room my DH was on balcony with his sister. Window was open so she listened to conversation. Apparently my lovely new SIL was trying to convince my DH to not go through with the wedding. As in... properly begging him to leave me at the alter. Reason? Marriage is rubbish , he always said he didn’t want to get married (before he met me) and I must clearly be a controlling b*tch and must be forcing him.

It was very upsetting not knowing if she had managed to convince him. I wasn’t sure until I got to church and he was luckily standing there. It was horrible getting ready for my wedding knowing there was a possibility he might not turn up.

It came out of the blue as she had always been nice to me and even helped with wedding plans.

I didn’t force DH, we are perfect together, still married 20 years later with 3 kids. Haven’t spoke to SIL since I found out she still tries to convince him to divorce me every chance she gets.

I reckon she is just a jealous nasty cow, she could never hold a relationship for more than a few weeks and ended up a bitter single woman.